Episode 2: The Ins and Outs of Anal Sex 🍑

Episode 2: The Ins and Outs of Anal Sex 🍑

Get ready to dive into the hidden intricacies of anal sex with your favourite duo, Sherman and Jordan! These two friends, from different sexual orientations, are here to debunk myths and share their juicy insights. Ever wondered why some hetero individuals might be drawn to anal sex despite having other options? We've got the answers and a whole lot more!

In this episode, we’ll explore the physical sensations and emotional depth that make anal sex appealing across the board. We make a bold statement: repetitive sexual encounters can get as boring as eating plain oatmeal every day. So, let’s spice things up! We’ll emphasize the need for variety and intimacy in sexual relationships, shedding light on how adding excitement can invigorate your love life.

What's Cooking? 🍳

• Myth-Busting: Debunking common misconceptions about anal sex.
• Variety is the Spice of Life: Why mixing things up in the bedroom is essential.
• Emotional Depth: The significant emotional aspects of anal, especially for women.
• Preparation 101: Psychological and physical prep for anal play.
• Terminology: Understanding "sides" and normalizing diverse sexual preferences.
• Practical Tips: Cleaning, prepping, diet, and the importance of proper lubrication.
• Toys: What's good, what's not and practical tips on selecting the right toy for you.

We don’t shy away from the nitty-gritty details of cleaning and prepping for anal play. Our candid conversation covers the importance of proper lubrication, the types of lubes to use, and how to communicate effectively with your partner to ensure a pleasurable experience. Whether you're curious, a novice, or experienced, this episode is a treasure trove of information on making anal sex a safe and enjoyable part of your sexual repertoire.

Tune in for:

• Practical tips
• Personal anecdotes
• A refreshing take on a subject that deserves more open conversation

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So, sit back, relax, and join us for a fun and enlightening chat. Let’s make sex ed sexy together!

Welcome to Supersex! 🔥

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:10

Hey to all the straights, gays and nays, welcome to Supersex, the podcast where we have conversations and share our perspectives on sexuality, sex and more.

Speaker 2: 0:18

I'm Sheldon and I'm Jordan, two friends, one straight, one gay, taking on all things sex.

Speaker 1: 0:31

Can we do anal? Let's do anal.

Speaker 2: 0:38

Let's do anal.

Speaker 1: 0:41

Let's do this.

Speaker 2: 0:47

That's something that you never thought, that you hear me ask. Look, um, in the 20 something years that we've been friends, I did not ever think, not once, I would ever hear you say those words to me. But look, here we are. We're gonna do it. We're gonna do it right, though absolutely you know what let's on in. I'm sorry, I'm not even a dad, but apparently I'm a daddy. You are a daddy, oh god. All right, let's get into the episode. Um, this week we're talking about anal, all things anal butt, love, butt, love all.

Speaker 1: 1:23

Ass fucking, butt love, butt love.

Speaker 2: 1:26

Ass fucking yeah. All of it, all of it.

Speaker 1: 1:29

All of it. Backdoor banditry, backdoor banditry. You never heard of that one.

Speaker 2: 1:33

I've never heard of that one in my life. I love it, but I might use it.

Speaker 1: 1:40

Where are you off to tonight?

Speaker 2: 1:41

Sherman, I'm off for a bit of backdoor banditry. I'm a bit of a bandit and this is what I'm going to do with the backdoor. Oh, it sounds great, right.

Speaker 1: 1:53

Where are we going to start? I think we need to start talking about what it is. Sure, I think from the hetero side of things, as soon as the word anal is mentioned, it's dicking an ass as hard as you can live and honor. Yeah, I don't think it's all of those things.

Speaker 2: 2:12

No, it's definitely not okay, I want to, I want to see this thing is. I've been excited about this episode because I want to know from a straight male perspective. Yeah, I think it's so interesting because gay is kind of a little bit obvious and most people generally will will at some point know about it or have gone. Oh okay, cool, that's what they do. Yeah, but from a straight perspective. Very interested in this one.

Speaker 1: 2:44

Very interested why hetero people are inter-anal I want actually.

Speaker 2: 2:51

Yes, I want to know because, at the end of the day look like we said before at some point we've spoken about this. As a gay man, it's like not one of the only options, but if you're going to have penetrative sex, it is the only real option. Yeah, you have other options. Yeah, so why Not? Why sorry, not, why More? So what's the deal with it?

Speaker 1: 3:17

What's the deal with it? Okay, and this is why hetero people are so complicated. Yeah, you fuckers are, yeah, really complicated, right? Yes, we have the other option and most of the time that's where you're at right. Yep, that's enough For most people, that's most of the time where you're at but? But With anal, I think there's a lot of different things going on. So, firstly, some people just like the physical sensation of it.

Speaker 2: 3:52

Yes, speaking can I just put out there, speaking from someone that actually has experienced both yeah, yes, that's right, I'm a gay male but, I, have had sex with a female before. This is a juicy thing. This is a juicy, a juicy thing. Right at the end of the day, it is it actually is a different sensation.

Speaker 1: 4:11

Yeah, totally it feels totally different.

Speaker 2: 4:13

Yeah, from what I can remember, obviously it was a long time ago, but it kind of felt like the only way I can explain it is if you put your dick into a cylinder. Yeah, that's what a vagina feels like it has walls, like it's pressure against your dick.

Speaker 1: 4:29

I describe it as like you put your dick into something that's like got a warm velvet glove around it exactly, and it's just like slowly massaging the whole length of your dick the whole length, from top to from the top to the bottom.

Speaker 2: 4:45

Yeah, with anal it feels like like if you had to take your two fingers and put it around your dick. That's what it feels like. It's something tight just at that beginning and then it's just it's like you're pushing through, like you're pushing through exactly.

Speaker 1: 5:02

It's like you're pushing through a ring and then the end of your cock goes into like outer space. You couldn't have explained it better the great abyss.

Speaker 2: 5:09

The great abyss, the great unknown. That's what it feels like. That's what it feels like, okay.

Speaker 1: 5:17

So there's a definite sensation difference there, definite sensation difference. And I don't know about you, but I know when I'm having sex I like a couple of different varieties, absolutely how things anybody wants some boring as vanilla literally, if you're just gonna have the same sensation over and over again, not yucking anyone's.

Speaker 2: 5:38

If that's what you're into, good for you.

Speaker 1: 5:40

But like eating oatmeal every single day, it gets boring, you know, absolutely. Sometimes you just want to put a bit of honey on your oatmeal. It puts, put, but like eating oatmeal every single day.

Speaker 2: 5:48

It gets boring Absolutely. Sometimes you just want to put a bit of honey on your oatmeal. Put some fucking berries on that shit. There you go, Job done, happy days. Some nuts in there too.

Speaker 1: 5:55

Listen, if you can get your nuts in your oatmeal, go nuts, go nuts for getting your nuts in your oatmeal. So I think there's the physical sensation, I think there's a play with variety in there.

Speaker 1: 6:10

I think there's an emotional intimacy to it where, like for a lot of women, that's like a very private thing that they give over to somebody who they want to spend time with. Yeah, you know, and they want that's their almost like a last gift that they can give to a partner, right, right, um. So I feel as though there's that, so that builds that emotional intimacy and then I think, like we were talking before the episode starts, like the sense, physical sensations and what you feel in there, like that builds a different emotional intimacy and different intimacy between your partners as well. Um, I also think there's like that taboo nature.

Speaker 2: 6:59

That was my first quote. That's all I want to know. All I want to know. All I want to know is because to me it feels like it's also the fact that it's something that you can't always get.

Speaker 2: 7:11

And you can't always do. Especially, I like you saying, if you're going by that idea that it is something that a woman gifts to you, that's just not going to be something that happens on the first date. No, you don't get Christmas every day, exactly. So, more to the fact that you would not be getting that all the time, it will be with when you have a partner that is comfortable enough with you to be able to want to try that with you.

Speaker 1: 7:40

Yeah, or you're just in such a brandy let's fucking go mood. Exactly that. It's like I want to try something really taboo. Yeah, a bit different, and sometimes you do experience that with a first-time partner, but it's so damn rare because most of the time there's that emotional connection that builds towards that highly intimate.

Speaker 2: 8:04

And also, especially if the female has, if it's something that they've never done before, yeah, and also if you're not going up there very often, it's going to take some work to get up there.

Speaker 1: 8:17

So I listened to a pelvic health doctor talk about this and they were saying that if you're really super keen to explore anal play, you need to do like a whole month's work prep by yourself first. Oh yeah, because it's like it's not just getting your ass to relax, it's actually like your brain sending signals to your ass, yep, and you are sending signals back up saying, hey, there's something in there, don't shit yourself, it's okay. I can just imagine like this wreck as you're talking.

Speaker 2: 8:57

I'm literally picturing two cartoons that are talking. Have you ever seen those cartoons? The organs talking. It's the asshole talking. To the brain going bro, don't shit yourself. Okay.

Speaker 1: 9:07

We need to make a cartoon of that, can you?

Speaker 2: 9:10

draw. I can't Mate. You can draw way better than I can. My stick men look anorexic.

Speaker 1: 9:18

I think that's the way it's supposed to be. They look worse.

Speaker 2: 9:23

Look. So my thing has always been. I've always thought as a from a, a gay man looking in, looking at, whenever I speak to a straight person about anal for some reason, that I've always thought the main reason behind it was taboo, like my thing was always why are you into this, why do you want it so bad? And for me, whether they admit it or not, my thing was always well. To me it just seems like you want to do it because it's something you can't have. All the time there's that because we always want what we can't have right, yeah, so I that.

Speaker 2: 9:57

But that's that's not my perspective. Is my what I'm seeing? Yeah, I'm on a straight man.

Speaker 1: 10:01

I can't speak for you, so I've done a lot of thinking around this and there are guys out there that obviously love the taboo nature of it, right yep, but I think when you really really break it down, it's not so much about the actual anal as it is about developing that really intense intimacy.

Speaker 2: 10:24

And connection.

Speaker 1: 10:26

Because, like even the biggest moronic jock of a guy, he is still craving somebody that loves him more than anything else in the world. 100% Right For the most part. There are some fucking outliers to that, you know, but for the most part people are wanting that super intimate connection and there is nothing more intimate in a hetero relationship than hey let's try this.

Speaker 2: 10:55

Look, I don't think there's anything more intimate in general. Just sex is such an intimate act, absolutely. And then on top of that, going that step further, there's levels to it. There's levels to it. That going that step further, there's levels to it.

Speaker 1: 11:06

And going that step further, whether that means trying out a new thing or anal 100%, it's that next level of connection yeah, and I feel as though people sit there and go oh, it's taboo, you just want it because you can't have it. But I think there's a deeper psychological thing there and that deeper psychological thing is I can admit when.

Speaker 2: 11:26

Admit when I'm wrong. I can, when I'm wrong.

Speaker 1: 11:27

Sometimes I don't know if you're wrong, like I think maybe we're just talking about like m&ms and maltesers yeah, I mean, who even compares those two things? It's both chocolate m&ms are just the bad chocolate.

Speaker 2: 11:43

Okay, they're not even in the same realm.

Speaker 1: 11:45

This one's for the listeners. You guys need to put out a poll.

Speaker 2: 11:51

Who's ever compared chocolatey balls? Oh my God, Not everybody has had chocolatey balls.

Speaker 1: 11:55

I have. I've had chocolatey balls Me too. I like the ones with the nuts in them.

Speaker 2: 12:00

I was going to say me too, but I don't know if we're talking about the same kind of oh, I like the ones with the nuts in them. I was going to say me too, but I don't know if we're talking about the same kind of oh my days.

Speaker 1: 12:06

What we need to do is we need to get like that chef from South Park little song and just dub this right in here for a couple of minutes. What was his name? His name's Chef, right, yeah, chef.

Speaker 2: 12:15

Chef, it's like I'm a chocolate saltier bar, Look. But like I say, I can admit when I'm wrong. Not wrong. But I did think that that was probably the main reason.

Speaker 1: 12:30

I think there's another reason now, though. What's that I don't know how many times a week you click onto Pornhub, but literally I don't use Pornhub.

Speaker 2: 12:40

Don't use Pornhub. I don't use Pornhub. Guess what I use? What? Twitter, bro, twitter, twitter. Hey, it's X. Sorry, I use X, x. X Seems a bit more appropriate. Exactly, look, x is the new Pornhub. I actually don't even know when's the last time I opened up my internet browser to look at porn.

Speaker 1: 13:08

Holy shit.

Speaker 2: 13:09

Mm-hmm.

Speaker 1: 13:10

Some crazy shit. Just writing down a note, download X, create a little thing there, and super sex is going on. X as well You'll see our chocolate salty balls everywhere. On x, you'll see our chocolate salty balls everywhere. But like okay, so every time you log on to porn hub or x, as it were, you're bombarded with anal.

Speaker 2: 13:38

Oh for sure, oh well, wait, hold on. Yes, obviously, my idea is that's what I mean, what you're looking at, yeah, but like from a hetero side of things.

Speaker 1: 13:45

It's like every scene now has got an anal clip in it and I don't think that's fully representative of what's happening in bedrooms.

Speaker 2: 13:55

But that's the problem with society in general. Is that younger kids, especially young kids that think that porn is real life?

Speaker 1: 14:05

No, that's bullshit. That's just not real.

Speaker 2: 14:07

Yeah, and there's even some adults grown-ass adults that think that that, like exactly what you're assuming your point is is that people see this on porn and go. Well, this is something we need to do.

Speaker 1: 14:16

Yeah, and that five-foot girl is just straight up bent over and taking a 12-inch cock straight up her ass. Exactly, straight away, straight away.

Speaker 2: 14:24

No prep, no lube, no prep, no propane, nothing, it's just bang. Oh, just go straight in there.

Speaker 1: 14:28

Yeah, that's a problem, you know. But people are seeing all this stuff porn and they are going. That's completely normal, like it happens all the time. Every sex scene has got anal in there and it's like there's this happening. Is that happening? But it's not, because I think kinsey institute did a study and they came out with like 35 or 40 percent of people actually have anal sex or have had anal sex at one point in their life, so that's like only 40 percent max.

Speaker 2: 15:04

I mean to be fair, I'll be honest. I think that I didn't realise In my mind that's a lot, because I thought that that straight people did a lot less. You thought it would be a lot less. I thought it would be a lot less. To be honest, like I did not think that your people are doing it that much. Oh man, your people are kinky.

Speaker 1: 15:19

Okay.

Speaker 2: 15:20

Okay, you guys are trying to come for us.

Speaker 1: 15:22

Hetero people are the biggest arse fuckers ever.

Speaker 2: 15:24

Okay, right, we're fucking more arses than gay people are. Look, I don't know about that one, but I will say, though, that there is a little bit of a perception that being gay automatically means anal sex, which it doesn't, which it doesn't, because there are a lot of people, a lot of gay men, that are not into anal. They are sides, which I'm not gonna lie to you. I feel terrible even admitting this, but as a gay man, I only found that out, like that term out not that long ago.

Speaker 1: 16:04

So hang on a second. You're throwing shame at me for Twinkies.

Speaker 2: 16:09

Twinks, not Twinkies. Twinkies is what you eat. Well, hey, look, depending on who you are, you can still eat Twinkies. Yes, the shame from the last episode of Jordan not knowing what a Twink was, but no, I figured I realized at some point in the past year or two, but it's because it's not something I'm into, right, yeah, and because shock horror, I can't really say this on this podcast, but anyway, look, it's a podcast about sex. So, hey, you get to know us a little bit more. Done, I don't, I'm going to have my gay card revoked for this. Oh, I don't like. I don't like oral.

Speaker 1: 16:52

Oh, what for this? Oh, I don't like it, I don't like our role. Oh, what exactly receiving?

Speaker 2: 16:54

but, both whoa look I get it, I get it I get it, I don't. This is the thing is, I don't mind receiving it if you know what you're doing like, if you are, you got some phd shit on giving head, then I'm all about it. Go for gold, but generally to me, for me, just for me only. It is a precursor to anal sex. Okay, yeah, so it's my foreplay. Yeah, I'll do this. I going to do this so that you can get ready, you can get hard, you're going to do it to me so I can get hard and we can go for it. Yeah, but to me it's not a oh. We're going to meet up, we're going to do our all and that's it. But I'm not into that.

Speaker 1: 17:39

It's a spring roll to your pad thai. That's what.

Speaker 2: 17:42

Man brother. Okay, that is exactly it All right.

Speaker 1: 17:47

So the pad thai is the anal sex.

Speaker 2: 17:48

Yes, All right. So for me, because of that, I've never really known about the whole side thing movement, because it's not what I've ever really been into. If I'm going to do it, I want everything, I want all of it. But I have come to realize, like going on grinder for example, yeah, the amount of dudes that are on there that will say because you can choose what you want if you're top, bottom side, whatever verse, whatever you're into and the amount of guys that are that are sides, is it's amazing. I didn't realize that there were that many people that were only into that, weren't into any anal play at all and it.

Speaker 1: 18:26

It makes complete sense, though, because, when you think about it, the ass is a really sensitive area.

Speaker 2: 18:33

Of course, there are so many muscles there are so many nerve endings in there the tissue is so thin and also like just number one preparation, getting prepped for it.

Speaker 2: 18:47

Yeah, I can tell you what For those that want to know, not that anyone's asking, but I'm versed, so I double in both ends, both sides of the coin. And it is so much work to get prepared to bottom. Yeah, for those that don't know what bottom is, bottoming is the person that is receiving and the top is someone that is um, giving, giving, penetrating, so like, if I'm going to bottom and I have to prepare myself, which goes into preparation, so douching, sitting there for anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour if you're doing it wrong, which sometimes you do but that preparation number one just takes the excitement out of everything. And secondly, it's just so much work that I'm just like you know what. The same for me. I don't want to do this.

Speaker 2: 19:47

Yeah, so I can understand why there might be a lot of people. Secondly, it's just so much work that I'm just like you know what. The same for me. I don't want to do this. Yeah, so I can understand why there might be a lot of people that might not want to be. I'm sure there's a lot more reasons as to why they don't want to, but I can understand if that's one of the reasons why they wouldn't want to always just go straight into anal sex, because I think that's like the major thing that every sex or gender struggles with anal.

Speaker 1: 20:10

It's like, hey, if I do this, poop could come out and that could be really embarrassing. It could be a bit messy.

Speaker 2: 20:17

At the end of the day, we all need to understand something People need to stop being such babies about this. Shit happens, literally.

Speaker 1: 20:25

Literally shit happens.

Speaker 2: 20:27

If you're going gonna play in the candy store for long enough, you might get some chocolate. You might leave with some chocolate. That's all I'm saying. You need to understand that if you are playing in there, there's a possibility. It could happen and we need to normalize the fact that that is a possibility. Don't shame the person for that happening because at the end of the day, if you want to be playing up there, it's possibility, it's gonna happen it's gonna happen, and like for hetero people as well.

Speaker 1: 20:52

Like we mix around with so many bodily fluids, yep, what's another one? Exactly you know? Hey, it is what it is this, yeah, at the the end of the day like, okay, fair enough, an accident will happen.

Speaker 2: 21:10

What's the worst that could happen? You go, take a shower clean, wash off.

Speaker 1: 21:15

You're good to go, just like a set of wet wipes next to the bed. Exactly.

Speaker 2: 21:18

Just like. And also the thing is, once you get into a routine of coming from personal experience, once you get into a routine of douching, you know your body, you know it works for you, you know when. Also, if you feel like you're not ready to do it, just don't do it. Like if your body's giving you signs that you know what I had curry yesterday and a Mexican before that maybe just don't do it, because you're going to be sitting there and douching for the next three hours and you're still not going to be clean enough.

Speaker 1: 21:50

Yeah, so let's jump on that though, because diet is a massive thing with it.

Speaker 1: 21:56

Yes, big time so we know that spicy foods, alcohol, fatty foods, there are certain types of fiber that are going to cause things to move a lot more, certain types of vegetables that are going to blow you and aggravate. So there's a specific diet that you can have that's going to make it easier for you to do this. Spontaneously and depending who you talk to or who you read or listen to, they can advocate that your diet can 90% get you to a point where you don't even need to douche oh, 100% Right, like if you're doing the right things and having the right movements.

Speaker 2: 22:35

The right amount of fiber, the right fiber, that's right. A lot of people talk about I mean, I haven't personally tried it. They used to do these tablets that you could take. Take which, as far as I'm concerned, my own opinion I might be wrong, but for me it's just all the bullshit. But taking, for example, metamucil every day, apparently that helps. Okay, uh, psyllium husk. So psyllium husk if you have psyllium husk within like your um, your uh, breakfast, or in a drink in the morning, whatever, that helps, yeah, um.

Speaker 1: 23:05

But yeah, diet can play such a big part in making sure that you don't have to be douching all the time, so you can make it a bit more spontaneous, like if you know that your guts are feeling good. You know that you've had movement earlier on in the day. Everything's pretty much clean now, ready to go. You've got a lot more confidence in saying hey. I can do this.

Speaker 2: 23:27

Because, at the end of the day, you know, the worst part about, I have to say, about being a gay man, the worst part about anal sex, is the lack of spontaneity, like you can't just go, oh, hey, let's just do it. It sucks, it genuinely sucks, because it's like, oh, you know what we should do? We should just, okay, give me 45 minutes to an hour and I'll be ready. And it just takes it out of it.

Speaker 1: 23:55

You know what I mean. I can just imagine meeting somebody at a club, like having some hot makeout session, getting back in the taxi like hands going everywhere. Come straight home. Okay, you go doom scroll for an hour while I go and clean myself out. I'll see you soon. That's exactly it.

Speaker 2: 24:10

But you know there are bottoms out there, like dedicated bottoms, that will go out and they will not eat, like if they know they're going on a date, for example, and they're hoping for something to happen. Correct me if I'm wrong people here, but I've heard of people that will not eat for hours before or they have techniques of what they will do so, like, for example, eating something in particular that is like some certain colors, that when they are douching that they know that once they've hit that, that was the last thing they ate. So once that comes out, they're gucci. What? Yeah, this is this what you don't understand about my community, my friend. Oh, it takes a lot of work, they're like color coding, shit exactly literally you're funny man, but that's it.

Speaker 2: 24:59

It's like so I've. I've heard of people that will go on dates, not eat anything and or go out, for example, to the club. Haven't eaten the whole day. Obviously douche, but to make sure, like they'll go out, they won't eat anything while they're out because they're hoping something's going to happen and that they can be prepared ready to go all night. And that's not healthy.

Speaker 1: 25:22

No, that's not healthy at all. I'm just thinking like, as soon as that alcohol hits your stomach, bang and that's nothing. And then you get into messy territory.

Speaker 2: 25:30

You're getting very, very messy because there's nothing in your stomach that alcohol is heating straight.

Speaker 1: 25:37

And then, like if you go too far with your booze, it becomes like consent issues, exactly so.

Speaker 2: 25:43

I mean, look, there's so many facets to this.

Speaker 1: 25:46

It's crazy, all right. So I mean, look, there's so many facets to this, it's crazy, all right. So diet is one thing lots of fiber, lots of, like, lean meats let's call it um red meat apparently is a no-go, because it's high, high in fat.

Speaker 2: 25:59

Um. So, but look, I at the moment that's a good something, good to know because, like, at the moment I'm trying a low-fat diet. Um, there you go, you'll be ready to go, well I'm. The reason I'm doing it is because I don't really don't have a choice. I had operation and I don't have a gallbladder anymore, so I have to not have high fat food, so there's something to. Yeah, that's a actually that is a big part of. Again, why am I bringing this up in this podcast for a person life? But it has messed with bottoming. Yeah, because fats, fats. Like, if I eat anything fatty, I'm running to the toilet.

Speaker 1: 26:37

So well, you got to think about it. Right, like you put a slab of butter into a pan, turn it up, you move that pan around, see that butter just slip and slide everywhere. Yep, you know your guts are pretty warm. Fat warms up, things slide through.

Speaker 2: 26:55

I have never, ever thought about it that that way see there you go, look at you teaching me, like this uncle jay, this uncle jay, I'm not your daddy. As we said we in the last podcast.

Speaker 1: 27:14

I am the daddy apparently too much. I love it. All right, so douching I want to get into a little bit about um douching. I have heard some good things about and some pretty rough stuff about yes, and even some more nuanced stuff like don't just use regular water, because regular water will dry you out and make everything even worse.

Speaker 2: 27:40

And then I've heard some people go too far up with the douche yes, some people go too shallow with the douche yes, let's walk through this so apparently all you need is around, I think it's like 10 to 20 milliliters of water, because at the end of the day, what happens is so your anus. Okay, I'm not a doctor here, guys, but this is just from what I've definitely not, definitely not medical advice, not, definitely not medical advice.

Speaker 2: 28:07

Disclaimer the anus is not that big, so the section where you are going to be having the fun is not that big. It's like three to six, between three to not even more than. I don't even think it's six inches, like three to four inches of where you're going to be playing in. Yeah, and that's all you need to clean out, because what happens is, if you put too much liquid in there, it goes to around the bend which I I was trying to explain this to john before, but I can't remember what it was called. I think it's called the sigmund bend or something like that.

Speaker 2: 28:41

I feel like such an idiot right now. But anyway, where it bends, yeah, and that's where your the stool is actually stored. It's not stored in your anus itself, yeah, so if you put too much water, so all you need to do is put enough water into the anus so that you're flushing it out. You put too much water, it's going up into you, cut more up into your intestines, yeah, and that's just going to aggravate and just bring more down and that ends up being a 45 minute to an hour situation.

Speaker 1: 29:10

So that's when the brain starts sending signals. Exactly hey, release, release release release release, release exactly, and that's when a real shit show will happen exactly so.

Speaker 2: 29:19

You only need a small amount of water again. So not cold water, because that's bad for your, your insides yeah, not water that's too hot. Yes, because, because that's bad for your insides, yeah, not water that's too hot. Yes, because obviously that's not going to be good. You're going to burn yourself. You just want lukewarm water that is not going too far up, that you're just cleaning out that area. That's there. Look at the end of the day. If you want to get into more kinkier play, Like the deep penetration stuff.

Speaker 2: 29:45

Very deep penetration or you know that your partner or the person you're going to meet up with is highly blessed, then maybe you need to think about. You know, maybe you're gonna have to sit there for that 45 minutes, which I know apparently is not good. Yeah, yeah, but have I been there? Absolutely I've. I've had to do that sometimes and it's not fun. But if you know that you're going to be playing for a long period of time or with somebody a little bit bigger or more deep penetration, then yes, but generally you don't need that much water to get up there.

Speaker 1: 30:21

And specific water. I think they're starting to make like different sachets, now that you can actually put in your douche.

Speaker 2: 30:29

You can, yes, saline solution, so you can get the actual douches that are ready to go. Yeah, that, um, I think it's more medical than for they're not. I don't think they designed it for people doing anal sex. But, yes, you can put the water in there to disposal. One put it up there, squeeze and it goes. Yeah, personally, I don't have that, I just have one that I've bought off the? Um online. Yeah, and I use tap water. Look, haven't had any problems so far. Haven't had any problems. Look, there's moments where you are a little bit irritated and who knows, it might be from that.

Speaker 1: 31:01

Yeah, but generally speaking, I just use tepidol. Yeah, okay, all right. So there's something definitely that people could look into if they want to. Yeah, go further down that. The other question I had you're putting something up your backside straight out. Lube it, mate. This is okay. It's not just like a case of just getting this dry plastic thing and shoving it straight up.

Speaker 2: 31:25

I don't know australian people. Yeah, lube, lube, lube yeah, it's all the way when you think you don't, you do. If you are going to be playing in that area, look the vagina self-lubricating, it's true, right, like I say, I don't have a lot of experience. I have some, but do you agree, sometimes you might not need lube when it comes to a vagina sometimes not no right.

Speaker 2: 31:51

More times, more times yes, okay, but when it comes to the um, anus, you, yes, you 100 need lube, but also more, more over, you need a lot of lube yeah, because especially you can never have too much, because at the end of the day, you also need to remember, depending on who you're doing with, if it's, if this is, for you know, male and female you need to remember that nothing goes.

Speaker 2: 32:20

It's not like stuff goes there all the time. You are going to need to prepare, you're going to need to take it slow, you're going to need to warm the area up a little bit first, and you are going to need to prepare. You're going to need to take it slow, you're going to need to warm the area up a little bit first, and you are going to need lube. There's nothing worse than this is my thing is okay. Now I'm going to say something and I might get myself into trouble here, but I feel like straight men. You're full of shit, because I can guarantee you that if it was the other way around and the female was going to stick something up you, you would all of a sudden realize how much lube you need and would have lube ready on on tap. I don't care what you say. That is my that. That is my truth.

Speaker 1: 33:04

I believe it I think that she'd have a hard time getting the lube because it would be wrapped around the fan.

Speaker 2: 33:15

But do you not agree? Do you not agree that if it was turned around, it would be that straight man would be like okay, well, I'll always make sure that I have lube, because I don't want this to. It hurts.

Speaker 1: 33:29

Yeah.

Speaker 2: 33:29

It's not fun at first, it's lots of fun afterwards. But if it was the other way around, I can guarantee you men will be a lot more thoughtful of making sure we have lube and not just using spit. Please do not use spit. Spit's not lube, spit's not lube. Can it get you there?

Speaker 1: 33:47

hey, if you're in a situation, if you're in a in a sticky situation, then maybe a little bit, but please no it's sort of like wrapping you know a hose reel around a worn out wheel instead of putting a proper tire on the fucking thing I love, I love your analogies.

Speaker 2: 34:04

They, they're just the best.

Speaker 1: 34:07

It's not great. It might work a little bit, but it's going to break down pretty quickly.

Speaker 2: 34:11

Exactly. There's going to be a point where it's going to fail.

Speaker 1: 34:15

And the thing is as well. So I'll get onto this with what we're talking about. But a lot of people see this in porn, where a guy looks like he's got a pretty dry dick and he spits on it and shoves it straight up an ass. Yep, Most of the time the dick has already been pre-lubricated with a hell of a lot of water-based lube that they let dry out, because the molecules don't actually go away, they just dehydrate in water-based lube. That's why it goes dry. Dry. So when you spit on it you rehydrate the molecules and suddenly you've got lube okay so in porn it's a clever trick that they actually do read.

Speaker 2: 34:58

Well, they're rehydrating a lubricant that's already on there look at uncle jay teaching me things like bruh I. This is the first time I've ever heard this, and also I have legit watched porn and thought how is it? It's dry. How is it going in there? Yeah?

Speaker 1: 35:16

that's, that's what they're doing now I know. And the other thing, like with loop if you are playing with water-based loop, if you're sort of nasa or fanny or whatever it is, um, if you're using water-based lube and it goes dry, spray bottle of water. Save you a ton of money on lubes.

Speaker 2: 35:32

Just sitting there with your little spray bottle. I'm having a visual right now of me and I would absolutely 100%. If I was Toppy and the dude was like just hold on, and got a spray bottle of water and just squirted, I would lose my shit, I would piss myself laughing, I would stop and be like, bro, just wait, no, hold on.

Speaker 1: 35:58

This is some funny shit. It's almost like somebody doing like gardening.

Speaker 2: 36:03

It's got enough water now let's go. That is hilarious, but that's a good tip. Thank you, thank you.

Speaker 1: 36:08

Thank you, Mr Jordan.

Speaker 2: 36:09

Appreciate that one.

Speaker 1: 36:10

By tuning into the $3 worth of electricity it's cost us to do this. We've probably saved people $50 on that.

Speaker 2: 36:17

Look, we've saved people a lot of money out there. So people don't buy a new lube, Just buy a spray bottle of Timu.

Speaker 1: 36:33

They're probably like two dollars each. Yeah, fill it with some water filtered water if you, if you're nasty and just spray that shit. If you buy no and timu, you might need to buy like 20 of them because they might break one time use, let's be fair. Okay, cool, cool, cool, right okay let's talk about the slippery stuff though. Loops, loops, loops are very, very important.

Speaker 2: 36:45

Lubes are very important. I particularly like um for anal play, silicone lube, because silicone lube lasts a long time. Um, also, look, if you're into playing in water, you've been to playing in the shower. Silicon works. Silicon works because it's not gonna it's not gonna wash away, it's not gonna dry up, it's there. So if you want to be playing in watery situations, whatever that might mean for you, yeah, you can. It's versatile. But also, and also you do, you, you use less, yeah, you do. It's far more effective. It's a lot more effective. The only problem is your sheets okay, depending on the loop.

Speaker 1: 37:29

Depending on the loop, like full disclosure, not sponsorship, nobody's getting anything out of this uber loop can I just tell you something?

Speaker 2: 37:37

I'm so happy you said that, so I remember, maybe when I was living in canada, when I was living in Canada, when I was living.

Speaker 1: 37:47

Just tell everybody where he lives.

Speaker 2: 37:48

So when I was living in a different place, I went to a. It was literally around the corner, right. I went to this sex shop yeah, didn't have lube. So I said to the dude, oh, like, sex shop doesn't have lube. No, I didn't have any lube. Oh, okay. So I got there and I said to the dude, hey, can you please like recommend me something? And he's like, try this, it's a little bit expensive, but it is the best thing. And he gives me this tiny little fucking glass bottle with the smallest little nozzle and I'm like I just paid something like $40 for something like what? 50, not even 50 mils, like 30 mils. I'm like this shit better be good. Oh, that was the reason why I started using silicone-based lube Was because of Uber Lube.

Speaker 1: 38:35

Uber Lube is so good. So getting off topic here. But I went to a how am I going to say this? It was a sex toy professional development workshop. Yeah, because obviously I need to be able to talk to people about sex toys and how they use. But they brought out uberloop and that was my introduction to it. And they brought this uberloop out at about 11 o'clock and the girl's like, hey, just put a little bit of this on your fingers, and just your fingertips and between your thumb and your index finger and just play with it. See how long that lasts. That was 11 o'clock by five o'clock when I walked out of that pd you were still playing with your fingers, I was still doing there's john walking around.

Speaker 1: 39:18

I must have looked like I'm such an idiot like. So that's like six hours that this stuff is still on my skin and it creates like an extra sort of barrier to there, and the silicon works in a different way. But silicon is absolutely awesome until until you start playing with condoms because silicon and condoms don't go together, do not mix together.

Speaker 2: 39:44

People don't do it. Look again. So personal experience it is painful.

Speaker 2: 39:54

Being on the receiving end, so being on the receiving end when you've used some silicon-based lube. Persons put their condom on, they start going for gold. It is uncomfortable, yeah. Person's put the condom on, they start going for cold. It is uncomfortable, yeah. And for a long time I didn't understand what, why, until I realized, oh shit, it's actually it's. First of all, I thought it was the condom. Yeah, I'm like well, I don't want to use them because why? This? This is hurting. Yeah. Then I realized it's a little like three seconds worth of research, which I wish I'd done before. Yeah, they just don't mix what's a place water-based lubes and condoms. No way, that's fine.

Speaker 1: 40:33

With silicone and condoms, you don't do it, yeah like I did this experiment with my kids at school. I got a whole heap of silicon lube yep and put into a condom and put a whole heap of water-based lube in the condom and I got them to massage it for like half hour. Within five minutes of water-based lube in the condom and I got them to massage it for like half hour.

Speaker 2: 40:48

Within five minutes the silicon-based lube had just completely destroyed the condom, and that's another coming from your perspective, from the hetero perspective. I mean, the whole point of you using a condom is to protect you. Yeah, and if that thing is just disintegrating into nothing, there's no point in using it. And that's the thing. I don't think a lot of people know or realise that you have to use water-based loops with condoms.

Speaker 1: 41:17

Yeah, water-based loops, it's the only way to do it. Yeah, and not all water-based loops are the same, so they're thicker ones that provide a little bit more cushion. There's really pissy thin ones that are not great and dry out super quick. So water-based lubes are one of those ones that you've got to really figure out on a personal thing.

Speaker 1: 41:40

Which one works best for you? Yeah, and especially more so for females as well, because different water-based lubes they are glycerin-based, which is basically sugar. Yeah, and if you're putting sugar into a vagina that's going to ruin pH, ruin the pH level, so it's going to cause thrush and different infections and blah, blah, blah. So like got to get a good lube right.

Speaker 2: 42:04

Who thought there's so much? 2-6 to sex man.

Speaker 1: 42:08

It's like a real science. It's almost like it's a science. That's sort of like why I signed up to do like a sexual science course at uni this is the thing only what I'm doing here.

Speaker 2: 42:20

We're going to bring that up in a in a another episode. We're going to have to go into that one. Why I'm studying Masters of Psychology, not just why I'm very intrigued to know what the hell is it? It's a further episode down the road. We're going to get that one. I'm going to ask Jordan all the hard questions, the hard questions.

Speaker 1: 42:41

Not the hard questions, charles. We've got to build up to that foreplay, right? This is just the foreplay. Just is just the foreplay, just wait, all right, so lube here's something I've learned as well lube is best not just put on the outside, but also inside, because, you are correct, your penis goes inside.

Speaker 2: 43:06

You are% correct, and if that's lubricated inside, it feels better you know there's a point where I'm going to feel really uncomfortable with people listening to this and knowing all the shit that I'm talking about. Look, as long as my parents don't listen to this, I'm fine. But yes, that's exactly what I do. Fun fact, I will make sure that there is a little bit in there too, common sense. Yes, it's helping you get in there so it's not painful. But also, once you're in there, you also need some lubrication. Needs to be slippery. So, yes, I 100, do that food bunny inside, move on the outside and also lube on them that's the thing that just bugs me, so it's like a menage a trois of lube, exactly In out you.

Speaker 2: 43:58

Yeah, three, it's got to be a three-way. They're going to be three-way. They have to put some on there because bruh.

Speaker 1: 44:03

Yeah, even if it's like a finger or a toy, though. Absolutely yeah. Okay, now that I've said toys, I want to talk about toys. Go on Toys Right. Not all created the fucking same.

Speaker 2: 44:18

Don't like them. Don't like them. Don't like them, maybe because they haven't found the right ones, but generally don't use them.

Speaker 1: 44:27

All right, okay, so there is a difference between a butt toy and a vaginal toy.

Speaker 2: 44:39

You know, what's funny is that I just love that as a a straight male. You know this. Of course, I know this shit. No, because I'm laughing, because I there was a comment made within my life. I'm trying so hard to be like stealthy here, but um, yeah, there's a straight. Two straight people made comments about oh, don't you just go on to the woman section when you go on to, I'm like no, why would I go on to the woman section?

Speaker 2: 45:03

if I'm going on to a thing website, I'm going to go to the gay section. Yep, and the comment literally was they're the same, you're just both going to get dildos.

Speaker 1: 45:14

No, they're very different, very different, different, created differently yeah so, and the big difference is there's a base, there's a base yeah, um, the other thing like so, without a base, without trace, the ass is directly connected to the mouth. There's a tube that runs the whole way up. It goes through a couple of different bends.

Speaker 2: 45:39

That shit's going to swallow some shit.

Speaker 1: 45:41

But yeah, like if you put something up there and it doesn't have a way to be held on to, it's going up and you might not be able to get it back.

Speaker 2: 45:48

Look, do some research, just do some research on Google and just Google. How many people are in the ED with stuff up their ass?

Speaker 1: 45:57

I need to tell you this story. I think I've told you this story before, but I'm not sure I'm scared. So I used to know this nurse and she was telling me about one of the funniest stories that they used to have in the emergency department. And basically a guy came up with a butternut pumpkin in his backside oh God, again, without a base, without a trace, right, it went all the way in there. Now apparently they had to get every doctor to come around to have a look and see how possibly to get this thing out Right, because, like, once the ass closes it's sort of it's closed, it's closed it locks in, it's not opening.

Speaker 1: 46:37

No, it's sort of-.

Speaker 2: 46:38

It's closed. It's closed, it locks in.

Speaker 1: 46:39

It's not opening. No, it's very it's like locked jaw, locked ass. Pitbull, your ass is like a pitbull Less teeth, I hope. Oh God but anyway, they had to sort of drill into it and put a small device in there which basically imploded the pumpkin and allowed the rectum to squish it down and pull it out.

Speaker 2: 47:08

Oh, that sounds painful.

Speaker 1: 47:09

So like yeah, it gets really really bad really quickly if you put things in your backside.

Speaker 2: 47:16

That aren't supposed to.

Speaker 1: 47:18

And then there's another one I read just last week. A person went for an MRI with a butt plug which was supposedly 100% silicon and they went oh, I'll go for an MRI wearing a butt plug which is 100% silicon. As soon as it got turned on, the magnets ripped it all the way up and through the person's body, because 100% silicon only refers to the external casing. But butt plugs are supposed to be heavy, so they need metal in there. Oh my God. So yeah, the metal in it.

Speaker 2: 47:56

Oh my God, that just gave me the metal in it. Oh my God.

Speaker 1: 47:58

That just gave me some seriously disturbing images, horrendous. But yeah, okay. So toys are something that I really want to get onto, because it's a bit of a bugbear of mine Never put anything in your ass that doesn't have a base. But the other thing is, never put anything in your ass that's not supposed to be there, and what I mean by that is materials.

Speaker 2: 48:23

Someone argue the things that I think are mine. That's supposed to be there.

Speaker 1: 48:26

I just haven't tried it, um, but it comes down to the materials, right? So glass and metals supposed to be that? Um, well, they're supposed to be used in there because they're non-porous surface where bacteria can't get in there, correct? The biggest problem comes when it's silicon, right? Right, which is what most toys are made from. Most toys are made from silicon, but there's differences in silicon. Have you ever opened a dildo and smelled it?

Speaker 2: 48:58

Yes, and it smells really strong right, I'm assuming those are the shit ones. They're the shit ones.

Speaker 1: 49:04

Yes, because they're not actually proper silicons. They're sorts of PVCs and different sorts of plastics and whatnot. But they've got like little micro holes in them and when you're using them anally, even vaginally, when you use them, bacteria gets into them and it's almost impossible to get out and you can't boil them to get the bacteria off or kill the bacteria. So, basically, they just become like this massive syringe of bacteria that you're going to continually use.

Speaker 2: 49:34

Please never do that action again. For those that obviously can't see, I'm like thrusting. He is aggressively thrusting his hand.

Speaker 1: 49:47

But the other thing is toys that are made from 100% pure body safe silicon. Okay, they're the ones to go for Body-safe silicon Because you can use it and if it's real silicon and you can test this, you can actually get silicon lube and use silicon lube on a silicon toy.

Speaker 2: 50:12

Okay.

Speaker 1: 50:12

Because if it's 100% body-safe, they don't react. They don't react. Okay, so long as you clean them off after a while, yep, so you can use silicon loops on them, you can boil them right and they're not going to attract that bacteria because they don't have the pores the pores in the middle the micropores, yeah, and like some of the companies that do really good ones are like Mr Hanky's have you heard of those?

Speaker 1: 50:37

Yes, that do really good ones. Like mr hankies, have you heard of those? Yes, there's like really really good, super high quality, I think bad dragon do a few of them. Square peg toy do a few of them as well. So like they're some of the really really good ones that do ultra high quality silicon.

Speaker 2: 50:57

maybe I should try, but maybe I should try that then yeah, and then it comes down to a size thing oh, we need to talk about size size. Is size important?

Speaker 1: 51:10

that's a whole other episode.

Speaker 2: 51:12

That is definitely a whole other episode. That's a whole other episode. Look, when it comes to size speaking, speaking from experience buying toys, like you can get a little bit overzealous and like your eyes are bigger than your hole, your eyes are bigger than your hole, literally. And then, like this has happened to me I've literally gone in, not realized what I've purchased and not realized how big it is, home and gone. Oh hell, no, yeah, there is to the point where this is why I don't use them, because I only currently have one, one dildo right, and it's too big and that's why you don't like it. I don't like it because it's too big. And I tried using it once and um, let's just say it was a very uncomfortable and awkward experience for days and, yeah, we've never used that one again.

Speaker 1: 52:10

That one just sits in the cupboard see, and this is the thing like hetero guys seem to think that the buck can just take anything, so long as the person's horny enough. It's not the way.

Speaker 2: 52:24

Look, I feel like it can take more. It can definitely take more. It can take more than a vagina, yeah, but in saying that, that does not mean that people want it.

Speaker 1: 52:33

Yes, and it doesn't mean that they can take it necessarily straight away. Exactly, it's like something that you're building up to right 100%. You don't just go out one day and run a marathon Exactly At the end of the day.

Speaker 2: 52:43

Think of it this way you don't get out of your bed first thing in the morning and just stop running.

Speaker 1: 52:49

I did. It made me injured, exactly.

Speaker 2: 52:52

We don't do that, we get up. We don't do that, we get up. We slowly wake up. You go wash your face, you have your coffee, you do your little routine. Same thing with anal sex. You got to warm that shit up. Take your time. You can't just go in guns a-blazing and just and this is the thing that you know okay. So I have to say this this is something I'm very passionate about as someone that bottoms bottoms. The best tops are tops that have bottomed. Because I understand, because they understand the problem, that that I'm gonna look. Okay, guys out there, please help us with this one. Tell me if you agree. But when you, when you're bottoming and you have a top that you can tell has no idea of how anatomy works and how the asshole works, they just go in there, guns blazing, going for gold, just want to shove it straight in. You're like bruh, that shit's painful and you can't just go to town straight away. Let me turn you around and show you what it's like yeah, no, I need some foreplay.

Speaker 1: 54:03

You, you have to have, you have to have a little bit of foreplay before you go. I mean stick a finger in there first I think like you've even got to have a lot of foreplay before the idea even crosses your mind absolutely heterosexual couples absolutely all right and then, yeah, finger like and not necessarily jam a finger straight up there, just play the outside, play with that time on the outside.

Speaker 1: 54:28

Do like a little bit of shallow play, like just maybe a pinky. Yes, for everybody who can't see this, I'm showing my pinky finger to sherman and he's like looking at me like what the fuck are you doing? Put that pinky away, bro.

Speaker 2: 54:39

I look like dr evil also, you got some fucking fat ass fingers too, so maybe not just a pinky I was building for 10 years.

Speaker 2: 54:46

Give me a break this is the thing is like fun fact. I absolutely fucking detest fingers in me, fingers in the backside, fingers in me, okay, oh my God, I hate it. Why I do not like the way it feels, oh, okay, okay, for some strange reason, my asshole is apparently very sensitive, right, sensitive right, and I can feel like if you do not have in like immaculately moisturized, looked after hand that are smooth and supple, I'm gonna feel everything all I'm just imagining now is, like all the tradies, listening to this, just like oh shit, just like polishing my finger.

Speaker 2: 55:41

But this is it. Like, seriously like it. I don't like it because I don't like the way it feels. It's painful, it doesn't feel good for me. Yeah, and then you'll just get these guys that are like, oh, that thing, okay, I'll start fingers, but then they're going for gold and you're like, bro, just ease up, okay, but yes, either way. All I'm saying is, when you want to play, loop lots of it, start off gently. Start off, not with just sticking something huge in there. Play around some foreplay, get the person used to it. Also, most importantly, communicate. Ask the person if they are, yeah, comfortable with where you're going. Yeah, look, I've got one one thing in there. You okay with that? Is that cool? Does that feel good? Yeah, can I put another one in?

Speaker 1: 56:27

there. So that was going to be one of my tips right at the end. Oh, sorry, I took that, ruined it. Um, communication, it's best way to Ruined it. Communication, it's the best way to have amazing sex.

Speaker 2: 56:40

Because the thing is, if you don't communicate and you're doing something like, for example, like I'm saying with me and the fingers I have not communicated that before with many people yeah, and they've just kept on going, or it becomes a bit awkward. I could quite easily say, hey, sorry man, I actually don't like that. Yeah, please don't use your fingers, it hurts a bit and I would have a more pleasurable experience you could but with that as well, it could almost be like a bit of a turn off.

Speaker 1: 57:09

It's like oh, fuck, okay, but there's other ways to communicate that Exactly. It's like hey, instead of using that hand there, can you use the hand here and do this for me? Exactly Like redirection yes, I know this because I'm a toddler dad Like redirection actually works far better than saying don't do that, don't do that 100%.

Speaker 2: 57:28

But I think communication is like oh, boy, instead of doing this, why don't you come and play with this? Yeah, exactly.

Speaker 1: 57:42

And I know for a lot of hetero guys as well it's like, hey, we are wanting the girl to get off so much. We want to see them, like, have those big screaming orgasms like they're doing porno. Right, they're not going to have those big screaming orgasms unless we're doing the things that they want to do they want.

Speaker 2: 57:54

But also, most importantly, can I just mention and this just goes with anything, not just anal guys out there, and I'm gonna say this goes for straight and gay and whatever else in between. Just remember you might think you're amazing at something.

Speaker 1: 58:10

Number one not everyone's the same why are you looking at me so intensely?

Speaker 2: 58:16

look, what is my wife. The thing is, you might think that you're amazing at stuff that worked well with one or two people. Oh yeah, that doesn't mean that's going to work with everybody. Yes, communication like ask your partner, find out from your partner what they're like, what they're actually into, have a, have an actual kind of conversation, be like, hey, is this something that you would like? Do you want to try it? When you've tried it, how did you feel about it? Be honest about it, but thinking that you're this, just, you know, macho dude. That's just amazing. I just know exactly how to please a woman, or please a man, for that matter. I read it in men's health.

Speaker 1: 58:51

I read it in men's health, therefore 100, it works.

Speaker 2: 58:53

You know, I read it in a magazine somewhere. Bitch, please, yeah, like check if the person is into that, rather than just thinking that you're amazing and also sometimes yeah have you ever heard that sometimes people can fake it?

Speaker 1: 59:06

yeah, once or twice, not from personal experience or nothing like that no, maybe a couple of times fun fact.

Speaker 2: 59:15

I fact I have faked it once or twice.

Speaker 1: 59:18

How does a guy even fake?

Speaker 2: 59:19

it. This is exactly it. I've faked it twice.

Speaker 1: 59:23

Whoa.

Speaker 2: 59:24

I faked it twice. What did you like?

Speaker 1: 59:25

bring your own tube and like fake gum or something. Oh look.

Speaker 2: 59:29

Well, look, they're not going to know until I leave, are they? Oh I see, that's like Robin Hood shit Exactly. Oh, I see, so it's like robin hood shit exactly. Phantom come. No, I've 100 done that before I was. It was just, it was just taking too long, I it was taking way too long and I was tired bro I went from like this is so hard to oh, I've got to do my bank statements.

Speaker 1: 59:55

I'm like, oh my, oh my gosh, is it tax time, don't I need to do my taxes?

Speaker 2: 59:59

Like I legit was at a point where I was so tired yeah, it had been going forever and I was like you know what? I can get out of this situation real quick. And I literally did. I faked it. I felt so bad and I was like, oh God, I don't fake this. What sounds do I make? I don't usually make sounds. Do they know the sounds I usually make? Oh shit, and yes, I faked it and bounced straight away.

Speaker 1: 1:00:27

How have we gotten here.

Speaker 2: 1:00:29

I wouldn't have a clue. Let's get back on track.

Speaker 1: 1:00:33

Back to anal, talking about getting out of here.

Speaker 2: 1:00:41

Let's finish up on some tips. Yep, all right, hit me, give me two, two tips. Sometimes just the tip is enough. Oh, how do you like that one? Yeah, sometimes shallow play, that's where it's at. Yes, sometimes just the tip might be enough. Yeah, and then my second one will be. I think my the most important one is preparation, prep, prep, prep, prep, prep. Make sure that you are getting ready douching, if you need to, the right food fiber, high fiber and all that supplements, metamucil.

Speaker 1: 1:01:17

Get yourself ready Probiotics as well, apparently, probiotics yeah, metamucil, get yourself ready probiotics as well, apparently probiotics yeah, just make sure you get yourself ready just get your gut health going.

Speaker 2: 1:01:23

It's going to make you feel better, exactly because at the end of the day, if you, the less you douche, the better. So if you can get your gut health to a really good point, you might not need to need to douche. But either way, whatever preparation looks like for you, prepare, do it, and the people that are going to be the penetrators, the givers, just remember, be go easy. Yeah, just remember, unless if that thing was being put into you, you would want to be put in slowly. So just take some time take it slow.

Speaker 1: 1:01:55

That's exactly where I was going to go. Okay, slow it down like glacial pace sort of shit. Absolutely, you know it. The slower that you go, the more it builds as well. Like obviously not to the point where, like, you're sitting there wanting to do your taxes and like, go home but like take it slow take, communicate, move on to the next stage. Communicate, move on to the next stage and take it slow.

Speaker 2: 1:02:21

Take your time.

Speaker 1: 1:02:23

And then I think the other thing for hetero people, especially guys, it's you've got to create the environment that allows a woman to step into that space where she wants to be super, super intimate with you and share her a safe environment, right? So you've got to create that and, like, we'll get into another episode where we'll talk about like the dual control method, where we talk about like brakes and accelerators and all that sort of stuff. But essentially you're not trying to turn a girl on, you're trying to take away as much as stresses as possible and if preparation is there, if you know her comfort in you is there and if you're providing her pleasure, those stresses are going to come off far quicker yep than you trying to apply things to the accelerator.

Speaker 1: 1:03:15

So I like yeah I'm learning so much.

Speaker 2: 1:03:20

It's good. Huh, I thought we're gonna be teaching. I didn't realize I'm gonna be learning so much. Yeah, who?

Speaker 1: 1:03:24

would have thought that a straight guy would teach the straight man's gonna teach me about a no uh, so I think that there's two books that are really really good for this, if people want to check that out, and it's the Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristan Taramina Yep, really really cool. And the other one is, but Seriously, the Definitive Guide to Anal Health, pleasure and Everything in Between by Dr Evan Goldstein. So those two things amazing resources. Let us know what you think to this episode.

Speaker 2: 1:04:01

Let us know if we've really screwed it up or we've actually done something pretty good here.

Speaker 1: 1:04:07

Let us know if you've learned something, like how I have yeah, absolutely, or if you've got something else to contribute that we didn't touch on let us know.

Speaker 2: 1:04:16

Absolutely, that's what. That's always a very important thing. So if we, if there's something you want to add to it that we've might have forgotten that you think is really important, that should be discussed, please feel free to um let us know.

Speaker 1: 1:04:29

Yeah sherman, I've loved doing animal with you.

Speaker 2: 1:04:32

It's been great you know what I've enjoyed every moment of it. Jordan, thank you so much for this anal experience. You're my first.

Speaker 1: 1:04:38

I'm sure you'll probably be my last. I can't say that you'll be my first. Ciao, guys, see ya. Thanks for tuning in to today's episode of Super Sex. We hope you found our discussion both enlightening and entertaining.

Speaker 2: 1:04:54

It's been a pleasure sharing insights with you all. Remember, knowledge is power and talking about these topics openly is the first step to understanding and acceptance.

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