Romanticising Life & Attracting Your Soulmate: How you need to love the life you have to bring in even more love.

Ever wondered how to transform mundane moments into extraordinary experiences? This episode promises to guide you on romanticizing your everyday life to uncover inner joy and well-being. By learning to be present, understanding your core values, and nurturing self-awareness, you can significantly boost your happiness. We discuss the necessity of feeling secure in relationships, finances, and even your relationship with food, as these elements are foundational to your sense of self.

Discover the powerful connection between healing and attracting your soulmate. We delve into the importance of prioritizing self-care and addressing unresolved traumas to elevate your vibrational state. This journey isn't just about finding love but about preparing for a deep, lifelong partnership by committing to personal growth and aligning with your authentic self. Patience and a willingness to grow play crucial roles in this transformative process.

Embrace the magic of everyday rituals and self-care routines to spark joy and enhance mental well-being. From morning coffee and affirmations to creating a clutter-free sanctuary, these small practices can significantly improve your daily life. We also highlight the importance of building a solid relationship foundation within yourself and taking time for self-reflection, especially during the winter months. Join us as we celebrate the beauty in imperfections and continue our journey of self-discovery and growth.

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Hello and welcome to the Find your Inner Glow podcast hosted by me, kirsty Harris. I am a holistic coach and I am super passionate about helping others improve their lives by focusing on the mind, body and soul. Each week, I will be sharing my insights, experiences and advice on how to tap into your inner glow and live a more fulfilling and balanced life. So join us and let's discover how to find your inner glow together. Hi everyone, I am back and today we are talking all about romanticizing our lives, so for me, romanticizing sitting down with a nice cuppa whilst I'm sat here. I am so excited to talk about this topic because it's something I've been diving into a lot recently and it's a lot of things I've been talking about with clients. It's a lot of things I've been seeing come up on social media, so it just feels really like appropriate for me to talk out about this at the moment and I guess like I wanted to share a little bit about how I record my podcast as well, just so that people kind of know Some. I do prep and I do create um like lists and like bullet points about what I'm going to go through, and then episodes like this one I'm going to do now. Everything is 100% channeled. So I'm literally sat here with my eyes closed and I am allowing for things just to come through me. Um, whilst I see things, I feel things, I hear things, um. So, yeah, I know that sounds a bit weird, but I just kind of let that information channel through me. About romanticizing your life I've done it on other topics as well, because it just helps me tune into me, to my authenticity, my intuition and any sort of like things I feel like really need to come out into the world just kind of flow a lot easier when I'm sat here like this this. So I thought it was just interesting to share that. But we're going to talk about romanticizing our lives today. We're going to talk about why one is important for happiness, well-being mental, emotional well-being, spiritual well-being but you're going to talk about why it's important, as a single person, to romanticize your life and also when you're in a relationship, why it's important to romanticize your life. Okay, I also have a cat now, so if you can hear random bumps and stuff in the night, it's it's her. She's just really learning to settle in right now, which obviously means she doesn't get the cue when I'm recording podcasts. So let's talk about romanticizing life.

Speaker 1: 2:19

Romanticizing life is not about like lying to yourself that everything's amazing and everything's good. No, it's about just simply finding moments in life which are beautiful, where there's magic, where there's happiness, where there's joy, and trying to find that on a daily basis. It's about trying to have a pod like a positive outlook. It's about being present in the moment and trying to just fully engage with who you are and the life that you're already living. If you are somebody who, like, hates their life so much that they have to go on holiday all the time, there is something not right, okay, and this is where we need to look at where you're not living in alignment with your core values or in alignment with your goals, or your goals are not really the goals that you feel like you want, because you you don't really know yourself. And this is what we're talking about today, guys. We're going to be talking about the foundation of you, who you are, your essence and why it's so important to get to know this.

Speaker 1: 3:15

I have done so much work recently around money, around eating food, around um, sex and relationships, like all of these stuff intertwined together, and what's really, really important is that the same values underpin all of these things. Okay, so we need to feel secure in our sex and relationships, we need to feel secure in money and we need to feel secure in food. That is literally us. That's what our needs are when we come to those things. So there are multiple needs, but I'm using security as an easy one to kind of wrap your head around and relate to so. With security, it's so important. Oh god, here she goes. Uh, I don't know if you heard that, but she's wrecking the place out there. Um, so, yeah, we've like.

Speaker 1: 3:55

Security is so important for us to feel secure in ourselves, in relationships in order for us to let go in sex, to let go in life, to really take the risk in a relationship if we need to, to feel supported, to be vulnerable. Yeah, with money, we need to feel financial security, because otherwise we start to worry and panic about money. We also need to feel secure with food as well, because imagine not knowing when your next meal is going to come. It can inspire anxiety in us and it can link into so many other different things and this is important to be aware of. Okay, we need to be aware of our strengths, but also the things that challenge us, because that is about accepting us and our essence for who we are our authentic self.

Speaker 1: 4:37

Our authentic self is not perfect and the authentic self is not perfectly healed. And as much as people like to say I'm 100% healed no, not everybody is 100% healed I feel like for me that's an impossible goal. I feel like to say to somebody you're 100% healed. Well, no, it's a marathon, not a sprint. You know what I mean. I feel like sometimes when you say to people, oh, you're, you're healed, this can create like such a sense of ego but also like, uh, oh, well, I'm complete now, but no, it's not.

Speaker 1: 5:09

Healing is an ongoing thing for for your lifetime, and healing means that you have a much deeper connection to yourself and being able to take off the lenses in the glasses. So imagine you are you and you have, like, these big optician glasses on and you have different lenses put in. So you have your trauma lens, you have your experiences lens, you have your parenting lens in the way that you were parented. You have your previous relationship lens, you have your friendship lens, you have all the hurt or anything that you experienced as a child. You have all of these lenses in these glasses, which will distort your view of the world. Yeah, and that also not only like, infects your vibration, it affects who you attract. So when you are romanticizing your life and you are doing the healing, you are taking the lenses off to get a clearer picture of what you want for you and your life.

Speaker 1: 6:01

Okay, this helps you to create a really solid foundation of what's important, what's important to you, what your life Okay, this helps you to create a really solid foundation of what's important, what's important to you, what your core values are. What does it mean for you to live in alignment? And when we talk about alignment, we're talking about, like, living in a way that doesn't make you feel icky. We are talking about our core values showing up in areas of our life. So, for example, a place where our core values may not be in alignment maybe at work. We may hold a set of moral values in how we like to do work, how we like to conduct ourselves, but then our work behaviour policy might say something totally different that makes us feel like we're not in alignment. And that we're not, you know, it gives you that icky feeling of or something doesn't feel quite right and it's that feeling of not being in alignment that is the best way for me to describe it. It just feels a bit icky.

Speaker 1: 6:52

So when we're like feeling a bit icky, we're not living in our core values, we're not living in in alignment. We like hate our body. We don't have any self-esteem, we don't have any self-confidence, we allow trauma and previous experience to dictate how we react to things and you know we haven't done anything to close any energy loops which which are draining us. We don't have any like perspective of what healing is. Guess what? You're gonna not attract your soulmate. You're gonna attract somebody on that vibrational match and guess what? You'll probably be sent the same lesson over and over and over again until you just deal with it.

Speaker 1: 7:34

And this is something I keep saying all the time. Right now it's about don't wait until you have to heal. Do healing now, because when you're further down the road. One, it's going to cost you way more money to get out of the hole that you're in. Two, everybody has to do healing at some point in their life and if you don't, then you will literally be doomed to repeat it in the next life.

Speaker 1: 7:55

That's kind of how it works, okay, and when we are really connecting into ourselves and our authentic selves and what we want, and living in alignment and romanticizing our lives, focusing on the really really good things in our life, we elevate our vibration. So what does that mean? We are elevating our vibration, we are calibrating to a different level, we are moving up the scale. We are moving closer to our manifestations. We are moving closer to the things that are really really important that we want for us. We are creating new friendships and relationships with people who are on that vibrational match, who will give you the energy that you want, need and deserve. We will also find our soulmate.

Speaker 1: 8:36

Okay, some people will say that they found their soulmate in the darkest times and I would say, cool, that's fine, that's great that you found your person then. But it doesn't happen like that for many people. Okay, a lot of people have to be on the journey, have to be doing this stuff in order to be in that high vibrational state to meet that person, and sometimes I have seen people say, oh, they're my person, they're my person 10 years later, get divorced because they continue to heal and the partner didn't. So, instead of growing together, they grew apart, and that isn't soulmate. Soulmate is somebody who you will spend the rest of your life together with.

Speaker 1: 9:12

So when you ask the universe for that, that's kind of like a big deal, okay. It's not asking for hot sex, it's not asking for a fling, it's not asking for external validation. You're asking for the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with on this earth plane. The rest of your life like forever and ever. So. Like when I say that to you, when I hold you there and I say hi, are you ready to manifest and bring in the person that you'll spend the rest of your life with? That's not sleeping with another man, that's not touching another man, that's not really like flirting with another person. It is your person who you will be with forever, until your consciousness on this lifetime stops.

Speaker 1: 9:57

So there'll be two reactions here. You'll be like I'm so ready for this. I'm so ready and that shows to me you've probably done a lot of the work. You kind of work out where you are, what you're ready to do and move forward in in a romantic way. Or you might be completely scared and go oh, I'm not ready. I've got so many other things I need to do. I need to commit to my business, I need to go traveling, I need to do all of these things before I have that, and that is absolutely fine.

Speaker 1: 10:23

But what I'm trying to say to you is that when you start to manifest your soulmate and you want to try bringing in like that element of love and like that level of love, it's not an easy thing and don't forget I hate to say this to you because it's absolutely devastating but you are not the center of the universe. You're the center of your universe, which is beautiful because you need to have that main character energy. Babe, you absolutely do. But what I'm going to say to you is you're not the center of the entire universe, okay. So when you ask for something, you have to. Things have to move, okay.

Speaker 1: 10:56

If your soulmate is on the other side of the world, they've got to try and get to you. If your soulmate is like nearby but neat, but has other things going on, that stuff needs to move out of the way for them. If you, you know it's like, it's like a little house chain. So you know, when you buy a house, you buy a house and then the person has got to sell their house, but then the person has to buy like somebody else has to buy that house in order for them to sell, and it's just a chain like that. You have to think about the universe as a chain of events, so it has to move things out of the way, a bit like a jigsaw piece, and putting them in different places.

Speaker 1: 11:31

So not only are they aligning this to you, they have to align it to the other person, and that can impact so many people parents, relationships, people, like just so many different people in that, when you think about how many people it took to create us like we have two parents, four grandparents, you know, and how it expands, like through generations, like this, asking for your soulmate ripples through so many different people here on earth and in the earth plane. So we need to be really like patient when we ask for something big, like a soulmate, you might be at the cusp where you're just about to meet them, and then you go, cool bang, I'm going. So we need to be really like patient when we ask for something big, like a soulmate. You might be at the cusp where you're just about to meet them, and then you go, cool bang, I'm going to manifest it. And then it comes through and that is absolutely beautiful and that is incredible. Or you might have to wait a few years. Why? Because they may not be at the same growth rate as you. You might be like I'm here, I'm healed as much as I want to be in order to meet that person, but that person may not be ready. Equally, flip side, your soulmate could be waiting there, going. Where is she? Like? I've been waiting here, like this whole time. I literally looked at the clock as well and it's 2 22 pm. So, yeah, you know I'm on to a goody when, like, angel numbers are showing up whilst I'm recording podcasts.

Speaker 1: 12:46

So, with all that being said, let's get back to romanticising our lives, okay. Let's get back to being able to call in our authentic nurse, okay. So this requires having a deep trust with ourselves, which comes through confidence and tested confidence. Okay, if you are struggling with like, please go check out my manifestation hub. Go check out my coaching packages, because confidence is one of the things that we absolutely work on, because, even though it's manifestation, coaching and the manifestation hub, we need to heal our wounds around confidence and self-esteem in order to be able to ask what we want and not only feel like we're asking for it, but that we deserve it okay and the ways that we can start to find joy in our lives. Basically, we can start by being present. We can be very mindful, we can start engaging in the surroundings, we can just really immerse ourselves in nature in the best way possible.

Speaker 1: 13:42

Another way to like, introduce a bit of like romance into your life is like little, like little rituals that you do that honor you, that's honoring you as a person. Like do you take time in the morning to have a nice cup of coffee and write your morning affirmations, or do you spend time at bedtime doing a very luxurious skincare routine. These are like really beautiful things and romantic things to do for yourself, to help bring joy, and not doing it for the sake of doing it, but doing it because you know that you're going to feel better afterwards and it's bringing that little spark of joy to your day. So for me, I actually love starting my morning off with a coffee, writing down my affirmations and gratitude. I'm doing a tarot card pull. That is how I start every single day.

Speaker 1: 14:26

I'm on like day 67 I think I can't remember I'll be way more by the time this podcast actually comes out, but I've been doing it for 67 days and I have noticed such a massive mindset shift from just doing that in the five minutes in the morning and then at night time I will wrap my hair up, so, like, I use like the heatless curls. So everyone's like, oh yeah, how do you do your hair every morning? I'm like I don't, babe, I wrap it up in the heatless curls. Come on now, us girlies don't have time to be doing that. Um, so I put it up in heatless curls and I take my makeup off with products which I use from Lush Cosmetics, because I absolutely love Lush, always have worked there before beautiful, loved it, um, and I love the natural agents in the product. So that for me, is like a really nice way to cleanse my skin and to give it a bit of love, especially like when it's like luteal phase, coming up to the period. I like sometimes I'll even do a face mask. It just really depends on what I've got going on. And yeah, but taking that like five minutes before bed, like amazing.

Speaker 1: 15:30

Sometimes I go into meditation as well. At the moment I go into meditation every night but end up falling asleep, um, but yeah, there are things that I do every day that just help me like spark joy, if I can. I try and take five minutes to like look at the trees, because, like trees have been there for hundreds and hundreds of years and they've grown such to like, such a big size and they've been there for hundreds and hundreds of years and they've grown such to like, such a big size and they've been there for hundreds of years and they must have seen so many things. And I just get into this whole thing about nature and just kind of ask questions to like myself about nature, which I don't know the answer to, and end up googling. But you know, it's just taking a minute to be here, to be present and to just look at what's around me.

Speaker 1: 16:07

Another thing you can do to romanticize your life is surround yourself with beauty. Okay, so it's the things that spark joy in you. Is that marie kundi kundi? Oh, my god, that is not her name, but you know what I mean. Um, why did I say that marie kundi? Anyway, you know what I mean. She's the lovely lady that falls everything into like nice parcels, like she does it, even to her knickers. I don't know how she does it.

Speaker 1: 16:31

Anyway, she talks about living in a place where items in your space spark joy, absolutely like your space is one of the best things you'll ever invest in. Having a space which feels like a sanctuary is so, so, so important, like it just has a sense of accomplishment. It just will improve your mental health and your well-being just by being in that space. So if that is by adding a plant fake or real, no judgment here um or just bringing different things in, like quirky things that you like, is it having nice colorful things? Is it nice muted colors? You know, I find, for me, not having clutter and things being very minimalist, oh my god, sets my soul on fire, because I feel like I just have so much space in my brain when I have so much physical space and things are not cluttered, so that means I can walk into my living room, kitchen, and that's what's enjoying me. That's that's it. That's me romanticizing my life, because there was a part of me, there was somebody not long ago who was dreaming about this life. So, yeah, it's about enjoying that.

Speaker 1: 17:34

I think as well celebrating milestones, like it doesn't matter how small or big, but treat yourself to something special. Take a moment to reflect on your progress, especially as we are coming to the end of 2023, which I'm like what the F, what the F happened there? Um, just like, yeah, like expressing and going back over the year and like reflecting on the good things. Don't just bring up all the shit. Okay, think about the good things, romanticize the good things that happened to you this year. What, what was so good? What made you feel really good? How can you make yourself feel that good again? Can you do it through repeating the same activity, or can you go in your, in your mind's eye, through meditation and be expansive?

Speaker 1: 18:20

So something, something really important that I'm learning at the moment and I'm doing quite often, is expanding my environment. So, at the, I've just got a cat, I don't have a holiday planned. I kind of just feel a bit stuck, um, and I just kind of feel like I'm in the house a lot. It's winter, I'm not seeing anything, I'm not seeing anybody, I'm not going outside, it's too cold, it's too wet. So what I'm doing is I'm going into meditation and that is taking me to new places all the time. That is, um, like if I want to go, because the thing is I know I sound like a mental person, imagining myself on a beach or doing different things, but, sorry, we now have a guest, so if you can hear appearing, it's my new cat. Um, she wants to sit on my chest whilst we continue the recording. So yeah, that's what we're doing.

Speaker 1: 19:08

Um, so yeah, I know I sound a bit mental with like the expansive stuff, but actually there will be times in your life where you won't be able to just jump on a plane and go go on holiday. What about if you get pregnant? What about if you have an accident? What about those things where you have to be stuck in the country and, whether the storm or whether the winter, you need to have a chance where you can be expansive, where you can go inwards and you can kind of start to find that joy inwards as well. I know that sounds a bit mental, but in times where, like I don't know, I'm really struggling, I might envision myself in Glastonbury on a sunny day, what the tour looks like, how it feels, all of that type of stuff, and it can just be a nice little break and a nice piece of mindfulness that can really help expand us, because I always find that when I go on holiday or I do something like that, um, it's, I always get my best ideas. So I'm exploring it through meditation at the moment.

Speaker 1: 20:02

So, again, creating your personal sanctuary is absolutely key, um, however that looks like to you, if that is through meditation or if that's through your home, if it's a place that you go like on a regular basis, like just just really take it in, just really really take it in. And what else can we do to? A man says, our life, yeah, okay, gratitude, gratitude, um, not only for what you have, but for other people. Telling other people, like, how amazing they are, how much they improve your life, how happy they make you all of this type of stuff can be really, really important in making them feel valued. But also sharing how you feel, how you feel is because, actually, it's so really lovely to give those people in your life that gratitude, to show them that you're truly thankful for their existence, for their presence, for what they do for you, all of those amazing things.

Speaker 1: 20:57

So, yeah, that's a really nice way to romanticize your life, or aspects of your life and your experiences, okay, um, another thing I'd like to touch on is, um, indulging in the simple things, okay, simple pleasures are what make the world go round is those are the moments every day that can spark joy in us. So, whether it's a piece of chocolate, whether it's listening to your favorite music, maybe it's just dancing silly in your kitchen, maybe it's taking a bath, maybe it's going for a little walk, whatever it is, these small indulgences can add a touch of romance to your day. Um, just by sitting in your garden and watching the flowers, whatever it is. Um, if it's watching your favorite movie, again, whatever it is, it's about romanticizing your life and about doing the things that make you really, really happy. Okay, so when we are doing all of this, we're really investing in ourselves. We are happy with our lives, we are happy, but we we're not only happy, we feel complete. This raises our vibration and now I keep talking about vibration all the time, but it does raise our vibration. And when we are raising our vibration, we're in that we are going to be the energetic match for our soulmate.

Speaker 1: 22:09

Okay, so this is when you, your soulmate, will show up out of nowhere. Why? Because, one, you're not paying attention. Two, you're feeling complete and whole, without having to have validation or justification from other people. Three, you're living your life in alignment to you, at your true values. What makes you feel good, what lights you up and you're not you up. And you're not looking for external validation. You're not looking for somebody else to fill a hole for you. You are just looking for somebody who's going to be the add-on. They are the cherry on top of the cake. They are the I don't know final sugar in the tea. They are the person that just makes your life better, not decrease, not not like making it worse, and also like you want that person to be in a place where he's willing to lead you.

Speaker 1: 22:55

And how can you do that? If you are not healed, if you're not feeling vulnerable, if you're not able to really like take care of yourself in a way that you can open your heart to somebody? How can you, if you're not healed, if you've not explored the wounds with your father, if you've not addressed the inner child stuff? You, if you're not healed, if you've not explored the wounds with your father, if you've not addressed the inner child stuff, if you've not worked out what your core values are, how can you do all of this and then expect to call in the most big thing most biggest thing can't even speak today the biggest thing in your life where you can spend the rest of your life with somebody, but you haven't done the solid foundation in order to do that. Because how you'll notice is, if you're not ready is that in previous relationships, you would have molded yourself to fit that person.

Speaker 1: 23:40

This shows a lack of solid foundation, and that's fine, because I can call everybody out, because I've also been there. I've also been in relationships. Um, even my last sort of like chaotic relationship I was in, I was still not 100% me. I still wasn't 100% in a place where I could stand my ground, know my authentic self, know my core values and communicate them in boundaries and everything that's really, really going to protect me against those people who are not in alignment with me. I couldn't do that. So this is why I'm working on having a solid foundation now, really knowing myself, feeling really anchored, not entertaining things that no longer serve me and just basically clearing out the shit, because having a solid foundation is the way to have the most fulfilling relationship with somebody, because you're not relying on them for anything. Now, I know this kind of goes.

Speaker 1: 24:32

This isn't about being misindependent, okay. This isn't about I need to be independent and not rely on anyone and just get everything done myself and rah, rah, rah, no, no, no. This is about being able to hold your own. This is about knowing you can hold your own and, when you meet that right person, it's about knowing that you can allow people to do things for you. It's about opening your heart. It's about being in your feminine energy to allow that man to lead you and do the things you want to do.

Speaker 1: 24:59

I see so many people who are in relationships and they are not happy with why their partner doesn't show up for them in the way that they want them to. They end up doing everything for their partner and their children and end up being burnt out. As women, we are not supposed to work nine to five, be our entire mum, partner, everything. We're just not supposed to. It's not built in our dna to be able to do that. So what's really, again, important? I'm gonna like start a bet how many times I say important throughout this, throughout this episode, episode.

Speaker 1: 25:29

Know ourselves and know that we can hold ourselves. We are confident to say no to the people that don't deserve us. We have boundaries in order to make sure that we stay in our feminine energy to allow the man to lead and will show up for us and our children. You know, gone are the days where we have really feminine partners. I don't want a feminine partner, I want to be the feminine. And we don't get there through being misindependent and being burned out all the time. We get there through communication, through strong boundaries, through allowing the man to lead, but also showing him how we can lead him as well. Like, for example, when you first start dating. Don't be the person that's always on the phone all the time. Don't always be so available, be different. When we are in a relationship with somebody, the holding the door open, pulling the chair out, all that stuff still needs to happen.

Speaker 1: 26:18

Like this is chivalry, okay, and as much as maybe feminists will disagree with me and be like, oh, we need to be equal and and that's cool, but actually equal is not equal, is it because men don't carry children? So I just we should, definitely. I believe in the feminism, which is we should be equally paid, we should have equal rights absolutely 100. But equality doesn't mean having the same as men, because we have stuff that men can can't physically have, which are children. You know, men have things that like that women can't have, like being able to father children all the time. We are biologically different and the more that we just kind of like overlook that, the harder society becomes, because women still have to do the things. We should have equal rights.

Speaker 1: 27:05

But, like I've said on this podcast before, research says that women are the most unhappy they've ever been right now. Why? Because we have to do everything. Why we have to be Miss Independent. We have to get everything done. We can't be too much, we can't ask for too much, because we'll be a burden. Then, on top of that, we have to work full-time, have a side hustle, raise the children, take them to all the after-school clubs, make sure we're preparing nourishing and homemade meals for them and attending to all their emotional whims with, or emotional feelings with, gentle parenting or this type of parenting or that type of parenting. Then we have to reflect on our own trauma. Hold that. Not only hold it, but not allow it to spill over into other people.

Speaker 1: 27:46

Then, on top of all of that, we have to be a partner, a lover, a mother, a sister, whoever. We have to be a partner, a lover, a mother, a sister, a whoever like we are to people in this world. And then you want to talk to me about equality, like. That is not equal. Okay, women always end up with more jobs than men, that's it. So I feel, like I said, I agree with feminism on the wave of like. We need to have equal opportunities so that we can choose to do the opportunities that we want to, not be forced to do everything. Also, with like, this miss and independent vibe, we have massively devalued the jobs that we just do. So women are now expected to have a full-time job but also do cooking, cleaning, raise children, all of this stuff at the same time, where men's expectations have not changed at all.

Speaker 1: 28:29

So I would say the miss independent wave is probably the most damaging to feminine, to to women, of a lot of movements. Really. Um, so not only have we gone, fine, we'll just fucking do it ourselves. Like we are just basically saying to men men, you're irrelevant. And that pushes men into their femme.

Speaker 1: 28:49

Femme like feminine energy, because again, masculine, feminine is yin and yang. It's not um energy that can be the same. You can't have two masculine and two feminine. Even in same-sex relationships you can see that there is somebody in their masculine, somebody in their feminine and that is how relationships work and balance out okay. So I know I've gone on a rant about miss independent again, but honestly, I just think this is a phenomenon that's just ruining um, just ruining masculine feminine energy, because now women are even more under pressure to show up and do even more things and then wonder why they're miserable. Because, yeah, and also there's tons of research out there which say that single women without children and a partner are one of the happiest women ever. Why? Because they're romanticizing their life. Okay, they're having a great time, they're doing whatever they want whenever they want, and they're not relying on other people to fill the gaps for them. Okay, and this is what it is.

Speaker 1: 29:43

So, whether you're single or you're not, you need to have your independence, you need to be independent. You need to have your independence, you need to be independent. You need to know what you like and how you're connected to you, and in that is about being able to receive. Can you receive when people want to help you? Can you receive when your man wants to open the door for you, wants to pay for stuff for you? Receive it, allow it, be grateful for it, because this is how you start to get in the energy of attracting your soulmate or, you know, attracting the energy that you want, which will be the equal balance of energy.

Speaker 1: 30:13

So, yeah, that episode fell all over the place. Not going to lie, I literally had so many chaotic thoughts all the way through that and the cat was also attacking me, um. So, yeah, I hope that made some form of sense. I'm hoping that there are definitely some golden threads all the way through this episode where I think we just need to take stock a little bit of ourselves and be like how connected am I with myself? And also, do I have time to dedicate to a partner? Do you have roughly between two and four hours a day to dedicate to a partner? If that answer is no, then you actually don't really have time for people in your life to to appear. Okay, if you are constantly not creating time, then there's no space for them.

Speaker 1: 30:56

How can you like invite a relationship in if you, if you don't have time to nourish it? So I know this episode is feeling like I've been attacking everyone, but it's not about attacking people. It's about just saying we need to romanticize our lives, we need to create that steady foundation of who we are before we invite somebody else in, because they are an add-on, not an, as you know. Not an, not an, instead of if that makes sense, okay. It's not about substituting, it's about being an add-on, it's about being the cherry on top of the cake, it's about being. It's about that added nourishment to your life.

Speaker 1: 31:29

So if you're not in a place where you're doing that, I highly highly recommend that you start to look at your core values. You start to explore things that are fun for you. What is fun like? What is fun for you? What makes you laugh? What makes you giggle? What is something silly that you love to embrace? Do you know those things about you? And if you don't like, don't feel bad.

Speaker 1: 31:48

It's so easy to lose ourselves in spaces where, like we have so, we have so many responsibilities, we're so busy, we go through life changes, we do all of these things um, it can be really easy to lose sense of ourselves. So if you take anything from this episode, is that it's a really good time to invest, go inwards, especially during winter, to find out what makes you you then I've done my job. I've done my job and I'm gonna leave it there for today. Um, I hope that made some form of sense in my head. It was very jumbled, but I'm hoping it did come out a bit more cohesively. Anyway, if it didn't and you've learned one thing from this podcast I've done my job today.

Speaker 1: 32:26

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