Social Hour
#2 - ADHD Overwhelm, Eating Struggles, and Anxious Adventures
Sarah and Megan chat about their new ADHD diagnoses, Megan’s travel adventures, and struggling with eating and productivity. They share tips on overwhelm, organizing brain dumps, and keeping up with daily routines. Megan shares one of her fears about traveling and gets a surprise guest appearance from their dad with some advice!
Sarah and Megan chat about their new ADHD diagnoses, Megan’s travel adventures, and struggling with eating and productivity. They share tips on overwhelm, organizing brain dumps, and keeping up with daily routines. Megan shares one of her fears about traveling and gets a surprise guest appearance from their dad with some advice!
Hi guys, and welcome back to social hour. My name is Sarah.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:And I'm Megan, and this is our second episode, and this is our second time trying to record this episode, because we realized when we recorded last time, we tried to do it in the late afternoon. We were not really feeling it. We were kind of low energy, and we realized that we were trying to be so formal about this, and it felt kind of stiff and awkward, and we wanted to just. practice again so we can practice treating it like a regular conversation and just actually be ourselves because I think we were just like talking like this the whole time and we were yawning and it was so low energy we decided we need to refilm and we need to do it in the morning.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yes, for sure. There were so many different factors that just like, I finished a day of work. I was dead. Like, I, we are just so monotone
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:yeah, and I should have known because I know that I kind of slump in the afternoons, but I don't know. I thought I, I thought I could bring it back up, but I just
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:We thought we'd have the motivation. It would have been there for like this podcast that we really wanted to do, but we truly just did not have it in us.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yep. So this is take two. So how has your week been?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:My week has been pretty good. I, recently just started ADHD medication. So this is like my first Kind of a week of that, but we'll get into that more, later on in the podcast. But yeah, overall, I'd say I've had a pretty good week. How about you?
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Mine has been good. I know we mentioned in the first episode that I was moving. And so now I moved, I have started my year of travel and I'm in upstate New York right now just for a couple of weeks. It's kind of a transition period until I start my full monthly. You know, stays in places. So, yeah, I am here. I am having a little bit of, um, you know, troubles along the way, but we're dealing with it.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah, I just, just a few struggles, but you're overcoming them and it's fine. Everything's fine. But, um, one thing I do know that you're missing Luna. Do you want a Luna update?
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Uh, yeah. Luna update.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Okay. So just a few things with Luna. She's been here a few times before, like this initial, like long term stay. And each of those times she's claimed me as like her person that she'll like sleep with and wake up in the morning, super early. And I knew that was not going to fly with us if that was happening the first couple of times.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:I just want to clarify that Luna's my cat
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yes.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:think people might be confused.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yes, Luna is Megan's cat that we are now watching for a year while she is on her year of travels.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah. Okay. So continue. Luna chose you as her person the first time.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yes, and so that was making me very nervous for this long extended time, but I am so happy to inform you she has chosen dad. And she just loves dad so much. Maybe it's because of all the attention that he's giving her. But now she has been greeting him in the morning and he used to be so excited about it and still is. And he'll be like, yep, she'll wait until my alarm. And when I opened my door, she's there to greet me. Well, recently, a few days ago, dad goes, guess what time Luna woke me up? 3. 30. And dad has to wake up at four. So that's like 30 minutes earlier. And she's just on his like back and on his chest purring in his face and everything. And then dad told me this morning that yesterday, um, she woke him up at 2. 00 AM. So. They had,
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:my God.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:a good little bonding time, but he did learn that if he, like, rolls over and ignores her, that, like, she'll eventually get the hint. But, yeah, she's very playful in the middle of the night.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Oh yeah. That's the thing about cats because it's so funny. Dad wakes up at five. So Luna has started 4 30, 3 32 AM. She goes earlier, but for me, I would always wake up at probably eight or nine. And then she kept getting me earlier and earlier, but she goes on the human schedule. So she would start waking me up at 7 30. And that's where we kind of like hit our, uh, Our time, so she would wake me up every morning at 730, but if she tried to wake me up earlier than that, I would just give her a little gentle push off the bed and then she would take that hint. It's just a light nudge, you know, so maybe dad can just gently direct her off the bed and she'll hopefully know that it is not time to wake up yet.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah, that is so funny. But, so, I'm definitely thankful about that. Um, and then two other things that she has, like, been doing is, I know in the first episode I talked about, like, One of my hobbies is gardening. So I'm always going out the back door and whenever Luna goes out or whenever I go out the back door and I, like, I come in from being outside for a little bit, I'm always like, Luna, like, where are you? Nine out of 10 times. She's like sitting there waiting at the door for me. And she's just like right there. Like, okay. Like when she coming back through this door, it's so funny, but
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:She loves her people. She just loves people so much. She's always needs to be near you. Dad was talking about how Luna's so funny because if there's two people in the house, she tries to find a spot where she can see both people. so she'll sit in the weirdest little corner because she can look this way and see you and look the other way and see dad and I think that's so freaking cute.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:It's so adorable. I love it. Um, but yeah,
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:What was the other thing?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:um, the other little thing this morning, she was being a naughty girl and I got groceries delivered and I just like left the screen door. Like I left the. Big door open, but like the screen door, it was like shut, but not latched. This little girl was trying to paw at the door to get out. She wants out so bad, but she would get so scared if she got outside. She's the world's like biggest scaredy cat.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Well, yeah. Do you know what she did the one time she got out when she lived with me at the apartment?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:No, what'd she do?
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:I was unloading groceries, so I didn't shut the door all the way because I was making trips back and forth. And so I left the door cracked a little bit and she opened it and I walk back up the stairs from my car and I look and she's sitting on the porch. She's just sitting there outside and she was sitting right in front of the door. She didn't go anywhere, but obviously she scared me because I was like, Oh my God, get back inside. But
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:back?
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:well, I was very like cautious about it, so I kind of walked up gently and like just. Directed her back inside cause I didn't want to scare her and make her run. But yeah, she just went right back inside. She doesn't even care. She just, it's like when you let her smell your food, she doesn't want to eat it. She just wants to smell it. You let her smell it and she's good. It's like, if she wants to get outside, she, then she stands out there and she's like, Oh, okay, I'm good now. Like that's it.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:And that's, okay, that's one more thing about Luna, too, is, so, last night, er, the other night, dad was eating, he was gonna finish off the ice cream, so, he took the cart and he was just eating out of it, and he was on the couch, and he's like, Sarah? Come get your cat and she's like on his stomach, his hand is like in the air with the carton, like trying to get Luna not to eat it and I'm like, okay, just let her snip it, like put it on the spoon, let her like see it and then she'll go away and he like did that and she just walked away and I was like, see, easy
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:She's nosy. You know what? She's nosy. She just wants to see outside. She wants to smell your food. She doesn't, you know, and then she's good.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah, she's so funny. But
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Oh, So one of the, um, struggles that I wanted to tell you about that I, living here is I'm in kind of like a woodsy type cabin and the bugs, the bugs and the spiders. It is crazy. And I got this place because I wanted to sit outside on the deck, but every time I sit outside on the deck, I'm so jumpy because when I was on the phone with you, a caterpillar just came down from the roof, scared the shit out of me. And then the other day, I didn't even tell you this, but I was drinking my coffee and an ant fell down onto the arm. I don't know where it came from. I don't know if it was one of those flying ants or if it was on the roof or whatever, but an ant came flying down onto the arm of the chair, which is on the other arm is where I had my coffee. And then I was just freaked out because I was like, What if a bug just falls into my coffee and I don't even know. So now I'm kind of psyching myself out about being outside here and like relaxing. Cause I'm like, I get the creepy crawlies. Like it makes me shake. There's bugs everywhere.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:I swear every time I FaceTimed you and you were outside, like, it was like, You're not one to like, be dramatic or whatever, but every time I was on the phone with you, you're like, oh, it was so funny. And you're like, I got to go inside just because of like, all of the bugs.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah. And every time I go to my car, it's literally a whole ordeal. I have to get a stick ready because walking down the flight of stairs to the car, there's trees all around it. So there's obviously spider webs that go back and forth and they rebuild these webs every day. So I have a stick in front of me that I just get like to walk down the stairs and then I get to my car and there's some spiders that have decided to just live on my car and they keep rebuilding their webs on my car every day. And one of them is building it On my driver door and one of them is building it on my hatchback to open the back of my car. So I've Yeah, so it's kind of scary every time I have to leave my car, I feel so dramatic, but I just really don't like spiders I have to have my stick and then I have to clear out their spider web and then I have to check to make sure they're not hiding in my door handle when I squeeze it and it's just really scary.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah, that's not fun to deal with, but speaking of spiders and like cars, I've noticed on my like driver's side mirror, there is just like every day, uh, like a spider web that like a forms that forms on my driver's side mirror. And I'm like, that's so weird because like, you can see it when the sun hits it, like just right. And it almost looks like. Your, like, window is, like, shattered or whatever, but I'm like, wow. But that's funny that we both
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah, we're both having that same problem. You don't like it. Let's change this up.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah. So I've been having this problem recently, but there's a few things that I need to preface before I like preface what this problem is. Um, I recently started my ADHD journey and I got the assessment. I was diagnosed and I just started my medication and There are so many advantages to being on the medication and I'm learning, um, just more about my body and how it's affected on it. Um, but after probably five days consecutive being on the medication, I'm just, I have all these thoughts in my head and, and I'm such like an organized person or I say I'm an organized person and I just want to get these thoughts onto like paper. And That sounds so much easier. It is easier said than done because after we got off the phone yesterday, I went to sit down to do it and I'm just like, Oh, like, I have so many things from like, needing to refinance my car to wanting to paint rocks with a, like a specific friend. But like, obviously I have way more important stuff to then to be painting rocks right now. And like, I need to prioritize like refinancing my car, but then I also want to like work on. Myself with like my health and my eating. So it's just like, there's so many different aspects of like my life that, like, I wish I could just like jot down on to paper.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:So this is so funny because, well, I just got diagnosed with ADHD too. And it was, uh, maybe like. A few weeks or a month before you, and I kind of encouraged you to go to because I got diagnosed and started my meds and the differences that I was seeing, I really wanted, if you needed meds to, I really wanted you to be able to feel that too, because the way that I can, if I get off track, I can get back on focus. If I get distracted, I can do that task and then actually go back to the one I was doing.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:It's so amazing. It's so truly amazing.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah, but I had the exact same issue where then it was like all of a sudden my brain was actually functioning I think normally where I could remember the things that I needed to do But then it kind of does get overwhelming because you're like I have so much to do. Where do I even start? What do I do? So what I started doing is okay, I was I saw a TikTok and the woman was explaining how ADHD people see time differently. So, some people, they can have a list of tasks and they see them out in front of them. I have this task and then I have the next task and then I have the next task. So, it's not overwhelming. But people with ADHD, a lot of the times, they see tasks kind of all stacked all in front of them. So, they see a list and it's everything all at once. I need to do this right now. And so, what I've been kind of realizing is out of sight, out of mind, if you write something down and then put it away, you forget about it. Or if you write every, too much down on a piece of paper and you're looking at that the whole time, then it's just, you feel like you need to do all of that right now. do you want to hear about the system that I've been implementing?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah, let's hear
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:I I don't know if it'll work for you, but this is what I've been doing and I actually just did another one this morning and it's been incredible. But I do one really big brain dump and a brain dump is don't even think about, Oh, but this one's not important. Oh, but this one's not really a task. It's just something on my mind, everything on your mind. Write it down. Even if it's just a thought, even if it's something you need to do a year from now, write down everything. And this is probably important with. People that don't have ADHD, too, you need to get everything out on paper, whether it's important or not, and then you can worry about organizing it later. So you need to get a blank piece of paper or get your iPad or get a Google doc and just start writing and do an actual brain dump. And so that's what I did. I did an actual brain dump. The very first thing you can do is kind of anything that you're reading then on that brain dump that's just a thought that doesn't need anything done with it or something that just does not have an action or anything, cross it out. Cause that's a thought on your mind, but you can't do anything about it. So just cross it out. And then you get that dopamine of actually checking something off your list immediately. And then the next thing that I do is I have these pastel Sharpie highlighters that are, I have six colors and six is perfect because six categories is plenty. So then I decide how I'm going to color code on my items. So. Basically, I saw someone that does it by life categories. They would do a color for work, a color for personal, a color for appointments and things like that. That didn't really work for me because that doesn't tell me what's most urgent. of the categories, I already know what category it is, if it's a work thing or if it's a personal thing, but it doesn't tell me when I need to do it. So that didn't really help me. I needed to do it by how urgent it was, and if it had a deadline. So when I did my categories, it was something like needs to be done this week, has a deadline, can be done later, not urgent at all. And then basically you categorize everything on your list based on the urgency. And then The things that are the most important, you can put those on a smaller list, or you can make your daily to do list based on those things, and if something actually does have a deadline, then you put it on a real calendar so that you can see that deadline. And then, so basically, you only have the smaller list to look at, and you know that you dumped everything that was in your mind, and you don't have to even look at that big list right now. It's out of sight, out of mind, and it's not going to stress you out because You know that you wrote down the important things that you need to do right now. So, you don't need to look at that big list until you're ready to look at it again. You know what I mean?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah, I, I, I, like I'm understanding what everything you're doing and some part of that seems like that could be like manageable for me, but like the color coding parts of like the urgency, I don't know that that would be very like beneficial for me. Um, but like one, okay, so I started the brain dump list. I got like five or six things in, but then like, Things that I want to do are, like, eat three times a day, or, like, set up, like, an eating routine or whatever, and then it's like, how does that, I don't know, then it just, like, it really just trips me up, so I feel like,
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:so that's more of your thinking of habits that you would like to start rather than tasks that need to be done. Is that what you're saying?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:yeah, like, I almost think I'm having a difficult time being able to, like, Characterize what, where each thing goes, and like, what's considered a habit, and what would be considered, like, a, like, I don't know,
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Okay, so when you, yeah, so when you make your brain dump, don't even worry about that. Just write everything down. Even if it says eat three times a day, morning routine, just things you want to do. Just habits you want to start anything. You don't have to worry about categorizing them at all. You know what I mean? Just write it all down and get it out of your head because it's probably stressing you out
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:yeah, it is,
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:and then the next The next step is the part that's going to be different for everybody because like I said the one girl She does it by category and that works for her. I couldn't do it by category. I had to do it by kind of the urgency of it because I wanted to know that I wasn't forgetting anything urgent that I needed to do And the other things that were not urgent that could wait three months from now or whatever, go on a separate list. I have a separate list for non urgent tasks and projects that I have started where I take it off my brain dump list and I put it on that list and I know I don't have to look at it. Maybe once a month I'll look at that and decide if I want to do anything from that list. But I think the categorizing part is something that you're going to need to probably try a different few different methods and see what works for you. Once you have that big list, What, what are you then thinking? You don't know how to categorize them?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:So, I have the big list, and then, like, I have the Yeah, like, I, Okay, this is like what I'm picturing in my head. Ideally, after all this is done, it would be so nice to be able to like, have my daily routines, and then be able to pick, like, 1 or 2 things from, like, my list of things that, like, need to be done. And then, um, yeah, so take, like, my routines and then take maybe 2 things, 1 or 2 things from, like, the big list that needs to be done and, um. Making like a schedule for like the day and making like a daily schedule, like how you are saying, but then also too, if like, there is a day where I've been, I feel like I've been doing like enough, like actual tasks, then like, oh, I want to go to like, I don't want to label it this, but like the fun list of like, um, crafty things that I could do, like the rock painting and just like all of those types of things.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Okay. So I have a question. When you're picturing yourself in the morning making your to do list for the day, and you're looking at this giant brain dump of tasks, how do you choose which one you want to do?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:it's not gonna be in the morning. It'll be, it'll
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:the night, before.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:the night before, yes.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Oh, okay, that's fair. So the night before, you're looking what you want to do the next day. You're looking at this giant list of tasks. How are you going to decide which task you want to do tomorrow?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Okay, so honestly, that's a great question because I'm not gonna be able to guarantee what motivation I have, um, for, like, if, like, I'll still have, like, the urge to do that after work of what I, you know, Said I was going to do the night before. So I feel like maybe just like having my routines, like throughout like my two routines of like my morning and like my evening routine, obviously I go to work Monday through Friday. And so like maybe after work I can take. Ooh, this sounds really good. Take my hour of, like, rest time or, like, decompression that, like, I need to not be overstimulated and decide what I want to do for the rest of the night, and then I could smoke off that list.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:So, what if, because I think, Getting home from work. You have your hour of rest. If you were just looking at your giant to do list to pick what you wanted to do that day, that might be a little bit overwhelming. So what if the night before, what you do is you look at your giant to do list and you give yourself five possible things you could do after work tomorrow. And you write that down, and then when you're after work tomorrow, you only have to choose from these five things that you can do, you know what I mean?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah, that sounds, that sounds manageable. That would be a good thing to do, but that's also, I'm starting to think of, like, the whole big, like, brain dump and everything now, so that seems so minor in, like, the grand scheme of things.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:What do you mean?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:It just seems like a lot.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Oh, like you're still overwhelmed. That's why I feel like you need to figure out some sort of categorization for your brain dump, because you don't want to be having to look at that giant list every time. You need something where you put them on hold for later that you don't need to look at it right away, and you can cross those right off the list.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yes, so I agree with that. And also, when you were saying how I need to find like a categorizing system, I don't want to say that the other one that the girl initially did of like work, personal life, this, that, sounds Perfect. But some of those do sound perfect.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:And then I also wanted to talk to you cause you said when you do your brain dump, you write down certain things like you want to eat three times a day and you want to have a morning routine and a night routine and things like that. And I think you maybe need to either give yourself some a few options because you're never going to do your actual Seven step morning routine every single day. You know what I mean? Sometimes you'll have energy for it and sometimes you won't. So I think you need maybe two, you need a bare bones one. This is the one thing I need to do in my morning routine is wash my face or whatever it is. And then you need one for higher energy or when you feel motivated to do it. Cause I think it's not realistic to think you can just all of a sudden have a seven step morning routine and do it every single day.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Oh, yeah. I mean, I don't think it would necessarily be like a seven step. I'm sure I could like think about it and like romanticize it into seven steps, but like pretty much when I wake up, it's like, I don't know, three, maybe four steps that like I need to do like before I'm out the door. But yeah, that does sound like a good idea. Having like a bare bones one and then like, a more in depth one and
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah, I saw a girl that does a low energy and a high energy. So she has two options and she does whichever one. And the same goes for night routines. And for me, I work from home and I make my own schedule. So same goes for me. I'm, I'm in the process of making a low energy schedule and a higher energy schedule so that I can, uh, If I really can't do the high energy schedule that day, then I end up not doing anything at all, you know, and I feel like sometimes people do that. It's all or nothing. So, oh, if I don't do my morning routine, I'm not going to do anything. So you need kind of another option. If I'm not going to do my morning routine, I'll at least do this one thing, you know.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:yeah, no, I totally agree on that. Yeah. Cause I'm either like making like the fanciest of meals or just not making anything at all.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah, and I think how that works on your brain dump is if you're brain dumping things like eat three times a day or add blah, blah, blah to morning routine, then you can just turn that into a task, which is like the eating three times a day. Your task can be something like create daily checklist. And then you can create a daily checklist and you can have that somewhere that you have to see it every single day. Probably physical, probably on your door or something like that. Cause if it's in our phones, we're probably not going to look at it. But if you want a daily checklist or you can set little reminders on your phone for something like eating. I set reminders on my phone cause I'm not going to remember to eat ever, you know? So. I think your task on your brain dump, you can write, eat three times a day, but then when you go through to organize those, you can change it into make reminder on phone for three times a day to eat or make checklist for daily routine, you know?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah, I and you saying those things about, um, cause I know we've talked about before just like setting a reminder to like, like remind ourselves to eat and pre medicine. I feel like I was all like talking like, yeah, this is a great idea. And like, I knew all of these ideas, but applying them to myself, I just never did, I felt like if I put the reminder or an alarm on my phone, it just like, Oh, I see it. And like, yeah, it's time to eat. But then I would just like scroll past it. But I wonder what I would do now, like doing that. So that would be interesting to
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah, that's actually really funny because I did that. I set my reminders on my phone. So I do three meals a day and then two snacks and. I'm not on meds day, I, at the end of the day, I open up my reminders and check them all off so they go away because I did not look at any of them the entire day,
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:See? That's what I'm saying. So, like, I wonder
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:just me. Not on meds. When I'm on meds, I look at, I see the reminder and I think, okay, I don't really feel hungry at all, but I know my body needs some sort of food. What is something, and you don't feel like eating food. And I'm like, what is something that I could eat right now? And, and usually for me, it's a handful of nuts or trail mix or nothing. Nothing like yogurt or anything. I can't do that when I don't feel like eating, but something like oatmeal, something really light, a piece of toast, a protein shake. I feel like those are really good ones for us because you can just kind of drink it. And the Fair Life chocolate protein shakes just taste like chocolate milk. So that's what I did this morning. I didn't feel like eating, so I had a protein shake, you know?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah, so this is the perfect transition into talking about food because I went down a rabbit hole yesterday. One thing, um, about me being on medication is the medication is an appetite suppressant, which is very commonly known and one thing about me is I'm Mm hmm I'm only, I weighed in at 92 pounds when I had like my initial appointment. And when I used to be on the rowing team and all of that, I was probably like a solid one Oh five between like one Oh five and one Oh eight. So I've lost like quite a bit of weight just through all of the shit that I've been through in the past four years.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:5'1 So being 105 or 108 I think is a healthy weight, even if it's on the lower end. Gaining another 10 to 15 pounds, I think, for you, maybe, yeah, 10 to 15 pounds would be on the healthy end, you know, because for someone that's 5'8 or 5'10, they're going to be like, 105, what the heck, but you're only 5'1, so,
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:right. That is another good point to add in. And so, um, my weight is. Gonna be like the biggest thing and right now I feel like I'm back in school of like, oh I gotta pass the test like in 30 days when I have my next appointment with my doctor because This is doing me so well, like mentally and everything everything else wise Like I can't let my weight be like the one thing that like gets me kicked off this and so with that I I definitely knew I had like disordered eating before I got on medication. And so trying to like make myself eat or like I'd make the meals, but just like eat a few bites here and there. And I was doing the same thing when I was on medication for like the first two days. And like, I thought in my mind, like, Ooh, like I feel healthier. Like I just, I feel better. I'm probably like gaining weight. Well, I looked on the scale and I was two pounds lighter. And so like, that's, Making me nervous because, like, I need to pass this test and so, um. I went down, like, the rabbit hole of going on TikTok, of looking, like, healthy foods, and, like, how to gain weight, and just, like, all of this stuff, so, I, um, scrambled and did, like, a Meijer order last night, cause we need groceries for, like, this next week, so, I bought things, like, and I'm really, really, cause, like, I also feel so, like, Guilty for how much food I waste. I hate how much food I waste. So like this week, I bought bananas and peanut butter and I know these are things that dad will eat too. So bananas and peanut butter, which is like good source of protein and like energy avocados. Um, I'm switching to like whole milk, yogurt and just like whole milk. Um, in general, just to like Add the fats in. So I don't know. I'm just, I'm, I'm, this is a different dedication of saying that I'm trying to like gain the weight. So I'm, I'm really hoping that I see a difference in this
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah, okay, but we need to talk about, I have two things. One, the food waste gill, I completely understand that because I, You buy these foods, you have such good intentions that you're going to eat it, especially because when we're trying to eat healthy, we buy these whole foods, veggies, things that go bad really
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:healthy foods go bad fast and to eat healthy, you need to be like consistently using the food.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:right. And so I completely understand that, but I think you need to give yourself a little bit. Of leeway here and don't be so hard on yourself and don't feel so guilty because you, you're learning, you know what I mean? You're learning and you're trying and you can start to work out now that you're on medication. Maybe you can start to work out better what foods that you'll actually eat because I think that's a big thing with us is that we think we're going to eat something and then we don't. We can't make ourselves eat something that we don't feel like eating, and so we need a list of things we know we'll eat, even if we don't feel like eating. And like I said, for me, that's things like trail mix and protein shakes, and I should probably add some more things to that list, but that's all I can think of right now.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah. And I feel like. I'm going to say like before medication, I had those foods that like, I was just like going to and eating, whether those are like processed or like fresh whole foods and whatnot. But now looking back on those, those didn't have many sources. Some of them had good sources of protein, but some didn't and also
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:okay. You, you just have to eat something. Don't even, you, at this point, it's about eating something, anything. You don't even worry about the breakdown, you know.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:right. And, but before, like, I was very nauseous. And that was also something like a big thing to get over because even like a few bites in and like I'd get nauseous and I would like feel it and just like be jittery and whatnot, but now I've, I feel like when I make the meals, I can actually get myself to like eat it all and I don't feel nauseous, but my stomach just feels like, like full, but it's not full. If you know what I mean, so it's I'm definitely in like a transition phase of like definitely making getting myself to eat and in like the past day, I've definitely done a better job, but it can't all be done in the same day, you know,
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:no. And I just want to add, obviously we are not dietitians or nutritionists or anything like that, so don't take this as advice or anything. And we're just kind of brainstorming our own lives. We're not trying to give anybody advice or anything, but I do actually have a really good recommendation for the, um, ADHD besties podcast. One of the hosts is a dietician and she has diagnosed ADHD and the other co host, um, Has had issues with eating. So they kind of help each other through it. And then you can actually hear from an actual dietician, which we've both, we've both listened to this podcast because I told Sarah, she had to listen to it. Um, but I highly recommend the one where they talk about nutrition and food and things like that. If you want advice from an actual dietician that has ADHD. But the other thing that I wanted to bring up was when you said you feel like this is a test and you need to pass. I don't think that's the right mindset to have. I think you just need to focus on you. The doctor is going to understand that you're trying and all you can do is kind of look at yourself from a non judgmental stance. Look at yourself from, okay, Did I eat today? What did I eat today? Don't judge yourself. Just take note of it and, and notice your patterns and notice what you're doing rather than being like, I didn't eat enough today. I didn't do this. I didn't do that. Just look at it from pure facts. You know what I mean? What did I do today? What's this? When you talk to your doctor, you'll have the information to give them. Maybe write it down on a piece of paper in your notes app or something like that. And just try to look at it like you're, you're trying your best. You have a plan and you're gathering data rather than taking it so personally, feeling guilty and being hard on yourself. You know what I mean?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:yeah, I know. It's not the right mindset to have, but yeah, this is going to be something that I'm going to have to get over. And honestly, I feel like maybe something that is like, not blocking me from gaining weight, but just like. Blocking me mentally is the fact that like I'm nervous about this about that.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Right, because one thing that they mention in the, um, ADHD Besties podcast is that even when your brain doesn't feel hungry, that doesn't mean that your body doesn't need food. So if you can try to reframe your mindset to where you're, you can't wait until you're hungry to eat food, you know what I mean? You have to learn how to fuel your body even when you're not feeling those hunger cues because your body still needs it. And your, your food. Messes with everything. You know, if you're not eating, then you're, you don't have any energy. You don't, you can't work as well. And, and your brain isn't literally functioning properly, you know?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah, and I can over the past Probably year or two. I've really been able to be in tune with my body and feel like when I'm feeling Jittery and just like when I know I need to eat and when like I'm not hungry Like does that make sense?
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah,
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:And so Now being on medication, I'm able, even though I don't feel hungry, I'm able to like feel the jitteriness and I shouldn't let my body get to that point to like realize that I'm hungry. But like, once I do feel those cues, when before I would just ignore them, I'm like acting on those. And then like yesterday I, I had like a good breakfast, but then it was like probably three or four hours later and. I, like, saw that dad had eaten lunch and then, like, I could just, like, wait until the dinner that I knew that we were going to have. But then I just went into the fridge and I grabbed out cottage cheese, which I haven't just eaten straight cottage cheese in, like, years.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:that's one of my favorite snacks ever.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:I had a serving size full of cottage cheese. And then I was like, well, That just didn't really hit the spot at all or hit a spot. So then I was like, I could go for something sweet. And so then I acted on that and then I made two bowls of oatmeal and then I ate that. And then like a few hours later, I, when dad made his dinner, cause he said he got so hungry, I was like, I really don't want to eat this. But then. I just made myself a plate and I know I shouldn't eat in bed or lay down and eat, but I lay down and I ate in bed and I was full full. Like I could feel myself full and then I ate a few more like snacks like at night and whatnot. So, like, yesterday was probably the first day that I was all solely into, like, focusing on, like, my eating.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah, and that's a huge win. You should be really proud of yourself. Like, you did that. You did what you needed to do for your body, even when you didn't feel like eating, you know?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah. And so, like. Now, I, this is day one, I'd say probably fully day one of like me being on my medication on, a weekend or like a day that I don't have work. So like, seeing that this is so achievable when I'm not working now, just like transitioning this to like days that I work because yeah, work comes with like, The stress and then, like, in the morning, I get coffee most of the time, but that's a, that would be a great, like, simple swap out to, like, swap out something with, like, more protein in it just to be, like, more filling. So, I was thinking of doing, like, my rack from week 1, I was gonna, uh, Take that and alter it by using the protein drinks that we drink and then put lots of espresso and some mint leaves in there and like drinking that and that'll be like 30 grams of protein in the morning to hopefully get me to lunchtime when we eat with the kids.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah, so that is one thing that I want to point out is when, like, about, that I've been learning slowly about ADHD is. You have to let go of what you think you should be doing or what you see other people doing and literally find out what works for you because it's going to be different for everybody and you need to find your little life hacks that make, that make you do the things you need to do.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah, and for the longest time. I, like, I would get coffee, like, in the morning. Like, I needed to get something special in the morning to, like, I don't know, get me into the door, I feel like. And I For probably the past like month or two. I'm just like, I don't even know what I want to like get because I don't want to get coffee, but like I don't want to get my same chai tea drink and so it's just, I was just such in a rut. So I'm like, you know, now is a good time. If I, if I can't find anything at these coffee places that like I genuinely enjoy, why not just like make my own here
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah. And you can make your couple shots of espresso, put it in your fair life. And that's actually really delicious when you do that and put some ice in there.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah, build up the protein.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah. And then you just need to learn. You're gonna need to pay attention to what you can bring to work for lunch, well, you're, well, where, that you'll eat something, you know.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah. And, um, that's like another thing too, is going back to breakfast is I would, this is so bad. I would go to one place to get coffee to another place to go get whatever food that I want. And then I would go to work and I would be so grateful if I ate maybe like four bites of whatever, like I, I bought. And so now one thing that, one thing that like, Kind of seems like a good morning breakfast thing that won't always sound good, but I think I'll be able to like to eat. It is like eggs and diced ham. So I have like a thermos and I'm going to, I think also getting up a little bit earlier in the morning instead of like getting up morning routine and leaving, like getting up making breakfast, putting it in a thermos and then my routine and leaving and then, you know, Keeping it warm and then because I do get a five minute break and I'm just not good at saying, Oh, I'm gonna eat right now because then I'll say, Oh, I'm gonna go eat right now. And then something will happen in the room and then I'll get sidetracked. And so. I, I even told, like, my coworkers, I was like, if I say I'm hungry and I need to eat right now, you need to, like, force me to, like, sit down and just, like, eat the few bites that, like, I need to eat or whatever. So, hopefully, and then also going back to, so, that was breakfast and then to lunch. We get served food through like the school, um, with the students. And so every day we're asked if we want a serving of what the kids eat, and I usually say yes to that. Now, whether I eat it or not is a different thing, but being on my medication for work has been amazing. So now working in my way to get like my few times to like eat throughout the day, I think should be really achievable.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:yeah. And I think it's all going to build on itself to you. Like once you get into, you're still really new with this medication and figuring out things that you can do for yourself and things like that. So. Once you start getting into a better routine, I think it will all go together, like your sleep schedule will be better. Your stress at work will go down, which will allow you to be able to maybe eat a little bit easier. And then I think You just need to focus on one thing at a time one day at a time and it'll all come together. Yeah.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:as you were saying that, that just sparked two more things is, one, um, I talked to dad yesterday because like, I've realized that I have been like, hyper, hyper, Fixating on like cooking and so like whatever, like I want to cook, like in the moment, like last night, last night it was cinnamon rolls, but like when I want to cook, like I'll cook. But like, if I need to cook to like, eat to feel my body, that's like a different story. So dad, um, is going to take over like cooking dinners and we're just going to have like. A few of like the same dinners, um, like in a row. And so they're also going to be like good whole food dinners too. So hopefully that'll help having like the established morning lunch and then dinner routine. And then, um, also to like, I can see how it's all going to like build on each other. It's just, it just takes time. And that's something that I struggle with.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Okay. So I feel like we talked about some of the things that you're struggling with right now and I wanted to tell you something I'm struggling with right now because I do feel like I'm doing really good at organizing my brain at the current moment and I back into somewhat of an eating schedule and things like that. But the one thing that I'm struggling with, and the one thing that makes me nervous about my year of travel that I'm doing is the reason I'm doing this year of travel is because I'm staying a month in each place and I want to see if I could live in that place. So I want to get out and do things. I want to live a normal life, go to coffee shops, get out and about and see what life would be like living there. But something that I've been struggling with and. I was realizing that maybe this is even since 2020 COVID and I think a lot of people probably are struggling with this is just leaving the house more because I was trying to think of when this started and I used to when I lived in Georgia, I would go out and do things all the time. I was very active. I would go for hikes. I would go on all kinds of weekend trips by myself. I would go Like adventures. And I would go to coffee shops and read my books. And I was, I was just kind of out there like living my life and that changed. And I was wondering if maybe it's because of COVID nobody could leave the house for so long that now there's almost a little bit of. Anxiety about it or just being so used to staying at home anymore. But my fear is that I'm going to waste this year of travel being in the house all the time. And I'm not going to take advantage of actually going out and living in each place. And so I'm kind of scared. I don't want to waste. My time traveling and I'm not really sure how to make some sort of plan to ease back into Being out there in the world. You know what I mean?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah, just like going out there. So, there's a few things. One, I think you're not the only one who feels that way. Because,
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:I've seen a lot of people say that
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:like, So many people have said that, but just like for me personally, I mean, you used to live with me for like a few years and yeah, that was like post COVID, but like I needed to like go out. Like I, like if I was just walking around at Target, so be it. Or if I was like going to like the dollar store or just like a grocery store or anything, I just needed to get out of the house. And like, since just COVID and like my college and everything, I. Could never understand how stay at home moms could just stay at home in their house all day, every day with their kids. I could see it now because there's so much stuff that you could be doing at home when you have hobbies, when you have this, when you have that, you have your business, your online stuff. You could do that anywhere, but you just choose to do that like at home, like at your house, which is fine or wherever you're going to be living. And so like, I feel like. All of us have just kind of like tailored our lives to be able to just like stay home more and especially with social media and everything. So, like, don't be hard on yourself for that at all.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:And i'm trying not to be hard on myself, but I also don't want to waste my time I'm paying, you know, i'm paying all this money to do this travel. It's literally my dream To live in all these different places and I don't want to waste it
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah. And now you're you. You're okay. So right now where you're at, you're just considering this like two weeks to be like a transitional period. You're not considering this like your first place, right?
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:I'm not considering this my first place. No, it's not like I'm doing 12 months in 12 states, and I'm not counting this two weeks, but I, chose this place because of the nature and hiking. And I haven't gone out and I've only been, I mean, I've been here for like six days, I guess I have maybe what 10 days left and I have two state parks that I really wanted to go to. And right now with my mindset, I could see myself staying home every day and not going to do the things that I wanted to do. And that scares me because I chose this place because of the nature and I've been staying inside.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Right? And so I, I'm just gonna, if I was you, this would be my thought process is I just need to declutter all of my stuff and get everything ready for like the rest of my trip. So I'm going to use this time to do that. And And I could see myself, like, not going outside of the house at all. But then, also another block that would block me from, like, going on, like, the hikes or doing what you specifically wanted to do where you're at would be, well, I don't have my list of things that I want to check off and be able to rate and do, like, all of that perfectly to be able to, like, rate like these different places. And so if you even just came up with like some like bare bone list or whatever, however you want to rate like the parks that you're at or the nature, you get your nature rating scale done.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:for this place, that's not stopping me. To me, that rating thing, the criteria for living and whatever and all that stuff, that doesn't start until my next place for me.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:So what do you think is stopping you right now?
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Well, I just, well, I do feel like I still have a lot to do to prepare for my. To prepare for my year,
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Like what?
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:like, well, I have my brain dump that I just did this morning. So I have a lot of stuff I need to do to prepare, which is just basically organizing all the things I have decluttering a little bit more, a lot of organization, a lot of mental organization, a lot of lists that I want. I want to make checklists for moving in and moving out to each place. Cause it's going to be so chaotic. I want to make it as smooth as possible. And I have just, you know, business things I need to do. I need to film Coloring videos for my business and I need to do all that kind of stuff, but I also just have things I need to do, you know, things I need to do before I leave. So I think my brain is just focusing on the productivity, productivity every day, all day here, which is all inside, you know? And I don't, yeah, I don't, what's stopping me is I wake up in the morning and I don't have that urge to go out of the house and do something. So when am I supposed to make myself, force myself to do it if I know? Every single morning, I'm not going to wake up with that urge to go leave the house. When do I do it? When do I make myself do it?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Okay. You have to think of like a word that I'm thinking of is like mental toughness. And like, I think we had talked about it one time of like, What is, like, what's, like, genuinely, like, too tough that is, like, actually, like, not obtainable, but, like, and then, what are the things that, like, are obtainable? You just need to, like, give, like, the extra push. Cause, like, you're gonna regret leaving this place and not Going to at least the two different places in nature places that you wanted to go to so why don't you so why
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:I feel like this mental toughness thing doesn't help me because to me, that's not for fun things. You shouldn't have to force yourself to do fun things. You know what I
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:things that you know you used to like and so why don't you put yourself back out into those situations to where and to try to remind yourself of what is. You used to enjoy because you don't want it like where you're at right now to be your baseline. You want to get back out into the nature and everything, right?
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:So I think you just, even though you don't really want to do it right now, you, I feel like you should really give yourself like that extra push just to go out. And maybe a way that you could do it is I know you don't like planning out your like week because I don't like doing that either, but maybe this might be like a calendar type thing. Pause. Pause. What?
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Hi dad!
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:I don't want to be in the video thing, but just listening to you, now I see your fear and it's something I never even thought about when I was in the military, but I'll tell you, my biggest regret is not taking pictures
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah,
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:maybe you could use that as an incentive to, okay, tell yourself that you need to have X amount of pictures everywhere you go. But you love pictures
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:I actually like that idea because I love taking pictures of
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah, but, but it's something that you can, that could help you get the drive, even if it's going outside in the morning and having a cup of coffee I'll tell you, I look back at all the places I went and I've got a handful of pictures and I regret the heck out of it.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah, and I started a whole Instagram in order to post traveling pictures to document my time and make kind of like a photo journal.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah, and, and, and it's something you never get that time back once you've left that place. So, okay, just, uh, wanted to put, have a little input.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Thanks, dad.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Look at that.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:I love that idea so much and that literally sparked the motivation in me because it's, it's a goal. It's a goal. That's not just my goal is to go out to do my hike. My goal is to take the pictures because I love taking pictures and I love taking pictures and videos of nature. And so if I had some sort of checklist of things that When I go to each place, have a checklist of the things that I want to take pictures of, instead of viewing it as like the things I have to go out and do, I feel like that will actually help me and help my mindset.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah, just changing the reason of like why you go out there and I don't know, have like a list of things to take pictures of. Yeah, that's awesome.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:and I, and I know people are like, well, you shouldn't just go do things just to take pictures of it, but it's not, that's not what I mean. What like I, when I go places, I truly enjoy where I'm at and I sit there and I bask in the nature and I look at everything and everything, but I love taking pictures to remember it by. And I take pictures and videos of all my little trips that I do, you know, so I'm going to do it anyway. So why not just make that the goal, you know?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:And also too, um, this could be like another thing just to like get you out of the house. What if you did it at like a meal time and just like took like a little charcuterie thing with you, like on the trail or wherever you're at, just to sit down and eat. Cause like, how's your kitchen situation at your, at where you're at right now?
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Well, I can hardly cook anything. Like there's no microwave. There's no, like, nothing.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:So just like, I don't know. I don't know what would be a more enjoyable, like eating experience if like,
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Well, yeah, I would definitely just rather eat inside because with all these bugs and everything, like the hiking will be great, but I don't think I'm ready for an outdoor picnic right now,
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah, yeah. After all the
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:and then. And then like you said with um, I could do my work from home stuff. I could kind of do, except for filming the actual videos, I could do that pretty much anywhere. I could edit the videos, I can do my social media stuff. And what I used to do when I lived in Georgia is I would go to coffee shops and I know people love doing that. Go into working coffee shops. It just gives you this like feeling that you're around people, but you don't have to be social, but it's, It gives you this just feeling like, yeah, I'm out in the world. I'm kind of socializing, even though I'm not socializing. But for me, that's enough, but maybe I'll make it a goal to like once a week, I'll go work in a coffee shop or something, you know?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah, and when we're talking about goals, because I know that both of us are like this, or even making morning routines, we, this like, newfound motivation, just like, want to like, make so many goals, or so many like, things, but just start out small, of like, Like a few things of so you going out into nature and taking the photos and then you trying to go to like a coffee shop once a week, like maybe add one more thing in there to make it. I don't know. Well,
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah. Like start small. Like I think a lot of the times we try to introduce everything at once, like, Oh, if you're trying to eat healthy, then why have to drink this many ounces of water? And I have to eat this many vegetables a day. And like, Everything at once when really you kind of just need to introduce things slowly. So yeah, I'll do some reflection today and I'll make some goals. Like one will definitely be some sort of outdoor activity to go take pictures or whatever, even if that's just once a week right now. And then maybe once a week to work in the coffee shop on a different day, that'll get me out of the house twice a week. And I feel like that's a good start, you know?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah. Or even if like, um, I don't know what like different types of things are going to be in like the different places that you're at, but I saw this one tick tock in, in It was this girl at this bachelorette party, and they're on some like vineyard. Every morning at like a certain time, the whole sky is just lit up with like hot air balloons. And like how awesome and like what of an experience would like that be? Because I know we've done that before in Michigan of like going to one of our aunt's houses to see all like the hot air balloons, but those would be such pretty pictures too.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah. So what are you saying?
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Just like finding like unique outdoorsy like things.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Oh yeah. That I'm actually excited to go
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Like, I'm so excited when I visit you, um, to go to that regatta.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah. That'll be fun. A regatta is like a rowing race, right? For people that don't know.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:It's like a water sport race. Mm
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Yeah. And so there's a huge one in Boston that we're going to go to together when you come visit me. Okay. So I feel like we both have a couple of things that we want to focus on, right? We both have goals. You, you're going to do your brain dump and organizing and see what kind of works for you and you're eating. And then I'm going to do my getting out of the house plan.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Yeah, and I can't wait to see all of these pictures of That you're gonna be posting from all your nature stuff.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:And if you're watching the YouTube video, maybe next week I'll post some pictures from one of my hikes.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:That's exciting.
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:right. Well, thank you guys for joining us and we'll see you next week.
sarah-host588_1_07-21-2024_092652:Bye
megan-_1_07-21-2024_092654:Bye