Why Is Finding Love So Hard for Me?

In this episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Rabbi Yisroel Bernath and Aleeza Ben Shalom tackle a big question from a listener named Shoshana, who has been single for ten years and is struggling to understand why finding a life partner is so hard. The discussion looks at both the spiritual and practical sides of finding a match, exploring the balance between divine intervention and free will. 

Rabbi Yisroel Bernath emphasizes that the challenge of finding a soulmate is part of God's plan and talks about how time and effort in relationships are crucial for their longevity and success.

Key Points:
Divine Intervention and Free Will: Rabbi Yisroel Bernath explains that while God is involved in matchmaking, humans also have free will, which means the process requires their active participation and decision-making.

The Importance of Effort: Both hosts agree that the difficulty in finding a partner is intentional, designed to make individuals value and work hard for their relationships, ensuring they are cherished and maintained.

Multiple Potential Soulmates: Rabbi Yisroel Bernath and Aleeza Ben Shalom discuss the idea that there isn't just one perfect soulmate for each person; several individuals could potentially fulfill that role, which can alleviate some pressure and open more possibilities.

Practical Advice and Hope: The episode concludes with practical advice, such as Aleeza Ben Shalom's "Mystery in Your History" course, which helps individuals re-evaluate past connections, and a hopeful message encouraging patience and perseverance in the journey to find a life partner.