Ever feel like you're stuck in life's storm, unable to see the way out? That's exactly where I've been, and today I share the journey I've embarked on to find that elusive light at the end of the tunnel. From the importance of finding the right therapist to battling self-sabotage and learning to accept compliments, I lay it all out. My therapist recommended a book that’s starting to help me understand why I tear myself down and how I can rewire my brain to embrace self-love and acceptance. I'll take you through the strides I’ve made and the ongoing work that’s lifting the weight off my chest.
Self-care is often the first thing we neglect, especially as women juggling countless roles. I open up about why prioritizing our well-being is crucial for us to thrive in every aspect of our lives. We can't pour from an empty cup, right? Join me for an honest conversation that underscores the value of loving ourselves first. We explore how recognizing our worth can transform our roles as moms, wives, caregivers, employees, and beyond. Tune in to be inspired and to maybe even start your own journey towards self-love and acceptance.
Ever feel like you're stuck in life's storm, unable to see the way out? That's exactly where I've been, and today I share the journey I've embarked on to find that elusive light at the end of the tunnel. From the importance of finding the right therapist to battling self-sabotage and learning to accept compliments, I lay it all out. My therapist recommended a book that’s starting to help me understand why I tear myself down and how I can rewire my brain to embrace self-love and acceptance. I'll take you through the strides I’ve made and the ongoing work that’s lifting the weight off my chest.
Self-care is often the first thing we neglect, especially as women juggling countless roles. I open up about why prioritizing our well-being is crucial for us to thrive in every aspect of our lives. We can't pour from an empty cup, right? Join me for an honest conversation that underscores the value of loving ourselves first. We explore how recognizing our worth can transform our roles as moms, wives, caregivers, employees, and beyond. Tune in to be inspired and to maybe even start your own journey towards self-love and acceptance.
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Remember everyone, if you're going to be anything, be authentically real. Welcome back to Life. Be Lifin' with your host, me, alyssa B. Hey everyone. So I mentioned in our last podcast episode that I am in the midst of a storm, and so still in the storm, just to give you an update. Still in the midst of the storm, however, the light at the end of the tunnel that I mentioned earlier that I could see but didn't know how to get there, so that light's getting bigger and the path to getting there is starting to become more and more clearer, and some of the things that I've done currently in the last couple of days, last couple of weeks, have set me on this path where I can now start to see, the path where I can start seeing the light at the end of this tunnel and this storm getting bigger, and it just feels like a little bit of weight has been slowly lifted off my chest and I'm so grateful for that.
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But that comes with a lot of work, and so the work that I have done in these last couple of weeks and last couple of days one major therapy If you guys are not doing therapy, and therapy is not for everyone, so don't take this as a go do it type of thing, because it's not. Therapy is not for everyone and you have to really do the work to find the right therapist that matches with your personality and with the issues you're currently dealing with. But for me, I found that therapist and I am doing therapy, and so my therapist just recently brought to my attention a book, and the reason she brought this book to my attention is because I had mentioned to her today in our therapy session that I noticed I tear myself down a lot, I sabotage myself a lot as well, and it's kind of like a subconscious thing. Guys, like someone, will tell me oh you know, you're really good at this, so you're really good at that. And instead of just accepting the compliment and saying thank you, I find a way to tear it down oh well, thanks, but you know, I'm sure there's other people who are better than me. Or oh, thanks, but I could use some more work. Or you know something along those lines that just, instead of accepting the compliment, I tear it down.
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And it's not, in a way, to be disrespectful to the person who is giving the compliment, or anything like that. I just don't know how to accept them. I don't know how to love myself the right way, and this is not to say I don't love myself. In regards to self-esteem, I do love myself. I know I'm beautiful. I have a good self-esteem.
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What it is is that I don't want to make myself to look like or feel like I'm better than anyone else. So, instead of accepting the compliment, I tear it down to make myself feel like I'm not better than anyone, or I'm not good or good. Or look at me, I'm not even speaking proper English here, but I'm not better than anyone, or I could be better at whatever I'm choosing to do, just to make myself feel comfortable, smaller, around people. I still don't know where that comes from, and so this book that my therapist recommended to me is supposed to help me determine where that comes from and how to change or rewrite the wiring in my brain, I guess, to stop me from doing that. So you guys are going to hear more about that as I go on with these podcasts and I get further into this book, but the purpose of this episode was just to bring attention to that specific self-demeaning, self-teardown, lack of self-love for ourselves, especially us as women.
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We play so many roles in life, such as mom, wife, girlfriend, caregiver, worker, teacher, employee, you know, et cetera. We play so many sisters, et cetera. We just have so many roles in life that we fit into and that we have to participate in that sometimes we don't pay attention to the most important role, which is ourselves, which is us Us. We can't be a good mom, a good employee, a good person, a good wife, girlfriend, spouse, whatever. If we don't even take the time to love and care for ourselves. So I just wanted to essentially remind women and people in general that you have to love yourself and care about yourself in order to get through life in general Because, like I mentioned before, people in the world tear us down enough. Why do we have to continue to tear ourselves down?
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So, in the event of me being more loving to myself, I'm going to start this book today and tomorrow I'll come on here and let you know how far I've gotten and what I've learned. And the good thing I really like about this book, guys, is just skimming through it is it has work like worksheets, like a workbook that you do to help train your brain to learn to love yourself. So I'm going to keep you guys posted on how this goes, and hopefully you guys can pick up the book and do it yourself. I don't have the book in front of me, otherwise I would definitely just tell you what it is, but stay tuned for my next podcast, where I will reveal what this book is, how far I've gotten, how I feel about the book, how it's making me feel about myself, and so on and so forth. But until next time, guys, remember, if you're going to be anything, be authentically real. Until next time. This is Life, be Lifin' with me. Alyssa B.
