Turning Rough Mornings into Growth

Ever had one of those days where everything feels off and your inner critic is louder than ever? I definitely have, and in this heartfelt episode of Life Be Lifin', I open up about my own struggle with a rough morning and the relentless self-doubt that followed. Inspired by Megan Logan's "Self-Love Workbook for Women," I share my journey towards embracing self-compassion and breaking free from codependency. Logan's insights on the difference between self-esteem and self-love have been a game-changer for me, and I hope they will be for you too.

We'll explore how to turn down the volume on that nagging inner critic and shift towards a kinder, more compassionate self-talk. I'll reflect on the lessons from Logan's book, particularly the importance of building a connection and sense of belonging with ourselves. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by self-criticism or sought ways to foster self-love, this episode is your companion in that journey. Let's turn those tough feelings into an opportunity for growth and self-acceptance together.

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:06

Hello everyone and welcome back to Life. Be Lifin' with your host, me, alyssa B. You ever just wake up in the morning and just feel like today is just not the day. That's me, y'all. Today is not the day.

Speaker 1: 0:36

Last night, when I went to bed, I had every intention of today being an extremely productive day and I was going to accomplish everything I wanted to accomplish today. But the start of my day just did not go that way at all, like at all. And so now I'm stuck in this blah type of mood where I just don't know what I'm going to do. I know y'all have felt that before and that's where I'm at. I just don't know what I'm going to do. And that is complete and total honesty for you guys. I try to put on this positive front that I'm going to figure this out and it's going to work out, and this is just a storm and I'm just going to triumph through this. But today I just don't feel that at all. In all honesty, I just do not feel it at all, and I'm trying my hardest to self-talk myself into doing it. And that brings me back to the book that I mentioned yesterday. It speaks on our self-criticizing and that woman inside my brain that self-criticizes me. She is so mean, y'all. She is so mean. I don't understand why she got to be so mean. I don't be understanding why she got to be so mean, but she is a mean one and if she was a real person, I don't think she would have any friends for real because she's a mean one. She just bullying me so bad today. Like, get up, you got things you need to take care of. You don't got time to be sitting around, laying around chilling and feeling your feelings. Get up, get up. That's what she's yelling at me. You, stronger than this, stop being so weak, get your life together. Like girl, am I not allowed to feel my feelings at all? Like girl, she's mean, y'all. So this self-love book that I found is trying to teach me how to turn her down a little bit and turn up this self-love and have a little bit more compassion for myself. And so y'all, actually, let me go ahead and pull this book up now, while I'm sitting here. That way I can tell you what it is, because I'm trying to reference it right now, because when I tell you my self-criticizing woman in here, she is so mean.

Speaker 1: 3:09

Self-love workbook for women. It's by Megan Logan and it talks about releasing self-doubt, building self-compassion and embracing who we are. You know what I'm saying? And it's a workbook, y'all, and honestly it's amazing. I've started reading it and I found my favorite passage that she spoke about and I'm going to find it for y'all so I can quote it to you because it is.

Speaker 1: 3:53

It speaks a lot to what I was referring to yesterday when I said that self-esteem and self-love are two different things. This speaks to it perfectly. She states in her book self-love seems like a simple enough concept, right, but why does it prove to be so elusive? All humans are hardwired for connection and belonging, and that's what I referenced earlier in a previous podcast when I said you never know who you interact with, who can make a difference or make a change in your life or in your future. Because we, as human beings, we do long for that Connection, belonging, all of that Like we love, and long for that, and so we need that in our lives. But sometimes we also need to be able to give that to ourselves, and so she speaks also about to ourselves. And so she speaks also about trying to find love in other people and in relationships or in partners and spouses, and friendships, etc. Y'all, that's me too. That's definitely me too and that has become more and more evident in the last couple of years that I've realized that I have become extremely codependent on the people around me and this is the part of my life where I'm trying to break that codependency on the people around me and just be enough for myself. Self-love, y'all. So if y'all are struggling with loving yourself especially the women out there if y'all are really struggling to love yourself and you just need help reminding yourself or rewiring your brain to learn to love yourself, check out this book Again. It's called the Self-Love Workbook and it is by Megan Logan, I believe is the woman's name.

Speaker 1: 5:55

I'm going to go back again. Yes, megan Logan Self-Love Workbook for Women by Megan Logan. Check it out, guys, it'll be worth it. So far I've read about 30 or 40 pages of it and it has been amazing. And I've already come across two like work activities, like exercises that I'm gonna do.

Speaker 1: 6:20

I haven't done them yet because it requires like diving deep and being able to be vulnerable and I don't know if I'm ready to be vulnerable with and I don't know if I'm ready to be vulnerable with myself. I don't know if I'm in that mental state just yet, so I have not done these activities. Again, I need to hold myself accountable and do it. But I am going to do it and when I do it y'all, I will come back and share that experience with y'all so y'all can see how I am working through this workbook, learning how to love myself, because I really don't y'all.

Speaker 1: 6:53

I just told y'all my self-criticizing woman. She's mean to me, she's really mean to me and right now I'm finna. Listen to her and get up and do something with my life and figure this out. But she's mean to me. So I'm gonna try and turn her into a loving person who's nice to me, who tells me nice things, who makes me feel good about myself, so that I can maybe be more motivated and a better person in my life. Because, baby, when I say, life be lifin' y'all, life be life in. But until next time, assalamu alaikum, remember, if you're going to be anything, be authentically real Until next time. This has been Life Be Life In with your host, me, alyssa B.