What if the friends you stumbled upon unexpectedly could become your greatest support system? Join me, Alyssa B., on this heartfelt episode of Life Be Lifin, where I share the incredible story of how a simple co-worker friendship transformed into an unbreakable bond with four amazing single moms. These women, each facing their own unique challenges, came together to create a community that rivals many biological families in strength and unity. We’ve navigated health scares, homelessness, and job loss together, evolving from casual acquaintances into a tight-knit group offering emotional and physical support.
Through open communication, unconditional support, and mutual respect, we’ve built a sisterhood that celebrates our differences and milestones. Listen as I recount the journey of how we’ve learned to communicate transparently, respect each other's boundaries, and uplift each other through life's toughest challenges. From play dates and girls' nights to cheering each other on at significant life events like my recent graduation from KVCC, our story is a testament to the extraordinary power of community and friendship. Tune in to discover the life lessons we've learned and the profound impact of having a solid support system.
What if the friends you stumbled upon unexpectedly could become your greatest support system? Join me, Alyssa B., on this heartfelt episode of Life Be Lifin, where I share the incredible story of how a simple co-worker friendship transformed into an unbreakable bond with four amazing single moms. These women, each facing their own unique challenges, came together to create a community that rivals many biological families in strength and unity. We’ve navigated health scares, homelessness, and job loss together, evolving from casual acquaintances into a tight-knit group offering emotional and physical support.
Through open communication, unconditional support, and mutual respect, we’ve built a sisterhood that celebrates our differences and milestones. Listen as I recount the journey of how we’ve learned to communicate transparently, respect each other's boundaries, and uplift each other through life's toughest challenges. From play dates and girls' nights to cheering each other on at significant life events like my recent graduation from KVCC, our story is a testament to the extraordinary power of community and friendship. Tune in to discover the life lessons we've learned and the profound impact of having a solid support system.
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Hello everyone and welcome back to Life. Be Lifen with your host, me, alyssa B. Picture this five single moms, each with their own story of struggle and victory, coming together and forging a community. Now, these women are not related, but the strength of their bond is stronger than many biological families, and I'm speaking about my little friend group guys. So I wanted to share my journey to discovering this friend group and what makes us special.
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So about a few years ago, the first girl in the friend group is who I met first and we were co-workers and we went out a couple times and hung out a couple times and we kind of liked each other and slowly started building a friendship. And so, as that progressed, she eventually introduced me to a group of four strong single moms. Now we all had our own individual flows, but as our paths began to intertwine, we began to create lack of a better word a tapestry of shared experiences and mutual support, and so it started out with simple things like play dates and girls' nights, sharing tips and tricks and life hacks, et cetera, right. But that soon developed and evolved into something much deeper, something we none of us had any idea would even come out of these friendships. Right. And so we eventually started becoming each other's pillars in life, such for like offering such help as an emotional help or like, really, to be honest, it was really anything that we might have been going through at that time. We were there emotionally, for maybe even physically, we also were always available for, like a shoulder to cry on and celebration of each other's victories and things like that, each other's victories and things like that.
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And so we just kept getting closer and closer, and so the closer we got, the more we started to navigate the life challenges that life be throwing at us, because, you know, life be lifin' and so some of those life challenges that were thrown at us, we helped navigate through those together. Like, for example, one of my friend's son has always been sick, but it's been a constant health scare for her with him. And then, like, for me, I experienced homelessness, but for one of my other friends, she experienced job loss, like you know, just the normal challenges that life throws at us. We were able to navigate those and help each other through those, and so because of that, it allowed us to build this open communication and unconditional support for each other through life, each other through life, where not only were we like, only there for the tough times, but we were also able to uplift each other and offer words of encouragement and maybe motivate us to change something in our lives that we might have needed to change about ourselves or whatever that case may be. And so, like any other relationship, it took time to get to where we are, and so we had to build that trust and understanding, because that's not something that's built overnight. You can't just snap your fingers and trust somebody. Come on now, guys. If that was the case, the world might be a better place. But we were able to build the bond and learn to communicate transparently, and that's another big thing.
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A lot of us have a hard time communicating as adults with each other, and because of that, relationships don't always work out, because of lack of communication, proper communication, and I'm blessed and grateful that we were able to work through those challenges that we had of communication and be able to learn how to communicate transparently with each other, and not only that, but also to respect each other's boundaries. Like I said before, we are all individual people, so we all have our own lives, we all have our own things going on, and so we had to learn to respect that. Like if they're not available every minute of every day, then they're not available. That's not a thing against them. That just has to do with we're all individual people who have our own lives. But we also were able to come together and celebrate our differences and celebrate milestones and things like that that our children might have had or we might have had. Like I recently graduated from KVCC, all of them were there, every last one of them with signs and pictures and cheering me on and screaming when I walked across the stage, like they were there celebrating that milestone with me. We also celebrate birthdays all of our children's birthdays together, all of our birthdays together, like we're always constantly together and continuing to build a bond, not only for ourselves but for our children, will also learn to have these friendships with these people and these kids later in life as like adulthood too, or into adulthood too, and as adult friends. But we kind of raise our kids as if they were family, so essentially they most likely will have these friendships.
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But I just wanted to encourage you guys that if you haven't already build your own chosen family, I know it's not easy and it can be really frustrating and hard to trust people, but just start by trying to find some people who are also like-minded to yourself and then build slowly. Start with casual conversation, maybe some meetups, like I mentioned me and my friends did with our kids and just us. Always remember to communicate openly and honestly too, because you can't expect someone to know who you really are as a person or to really judge who you are as a person, if you're not open and honest with them about who you are Okay. It's also important to always remember that If those people are not meant for you, it's okay to let them go. I mentioned in a previous podcast that some friends are for a season. Some friends are meant to just teach you a lesson.
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Not everyone is meant to be your lifelong friend to continue to move through every journey, path or situation in your life. Some are just meant to be there for that specific reason. So don't be discouraged if you don't find your chosen family right away. Take your time Now. My chosen family is a family of five amazing single moms and women who have transformed my life honestly and who have been able to guide me and support me and love me and my children throughout every walk of life that I've been on and I love that, because it's hard to find that unconditional love and support from friends and even sometimes family guys. Sometimes they say family is supposed to always have that unconditional love, but sometimes it's just not there, and that's okay. Gotta find it in someone else, such as your chosen family. But make sure that your chosen family is a community of love and support and endless understanding. And the fact that that motorcycle had to drive through here so loudly, that's rude as hell.
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But anyways, I just want to invite you guys to join my community and subscribe to my podcast for stories, tips and tricks and even just to get you a sense of community, safe haven, safe space, etc. I also invite you guys to share your stories with me. Some of the situations you're going through or past situations you went through, some of your thoughts or concerns or anything like that. Or if you're just someone who's looking to find again a community, a safe haven, hit, send me a text. And the link in my description is a link that says send us a text. Click that link. Let's create a world where no one has to navigate it alone. Remember, if you're going to be anything, be authentically real. Until next time. This has been Life. Be Lifin' with your host, me, alyssa B.
