Crossing Boundaries
Conflict Resolution
Mar 19, 2019
Season 1
Episode 10
Elizabeth & Xavier Ifill
Types of Conflict within Relationships
- Sin of one spouse
- Not just affairs. This is a true infraction, not an imagined one. (sexual sin, angry outburst, substance abuse, thievery, pride, envy, conceit, controlling behavior)
- Immaturity or brokenness of one person
- Most people get married totally unaware of their spouses shortcomings.
- Hurt feelings that are no one’s fault
- Things we are sensitive about but are not actually attacks or offenses.
- Conflicting desires
- Difference of preferences (type of movie, type of restaurant, etc)
- Desires of one person vs the needs of the relationship
- When one persons desires are not beneficial for well-being the marriage
- Known vs Unknown problems
Source: Boundaries in Marriage by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend