The Ritual Nurse
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The Ritual Nurse
The Meditation Tapes: But Molly... what if my brain said...nope.
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The Meditation Tapes are a series meant to give you real no joke hands on tools to ground yourself and protect your mental health. No gymnastics or unreachable principles. Just straight talk from people who understand what we actually face every day.
Dive deep into mindfulness and self-care with my lovely friend Molly, a postpartum and death doula and Ayurvedic health coach. She is the host of "The Busy Mom's Guide to Meditation". We explore practical meditation techniques for busy minds and cover how to hold space for others while caring for yourself.
• Importance of self-care for caregivers
• Mindfulness techniques that fit into a chaotic lifestyle
• The role of daily rituals in promoting emotional well-being
• How to ground yourself in stressful situations
• Ayurvedic principles and their application in daily routines
• Tips on breathing exercises and tapping methods
• The balance between caregiving and personal space
• Embracing chaos while finding stillness
Don't forget to check out Molly's events on financial education for women!
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Welcome to the Ritual Nurse, where healing meets humor, science and a touch of magic. Welcome to the Ritual Nurse podcast. I am your host, reva, and this is part two of our guest episodes with the incredible Molly. If you did not get to listen to last week's episode, you're going to want to, because our incredible guest is a postpartum and death doula and Ayurvedic health coach and the host of the Busy Mom's Guide to Meditation podcast, which is got a third season out. She's also a mom of three little ones, so she knows all about balancing care for others while trying to stay sane herself. Molly, welcome back to the podcast. Last week's episode was so much fun. I have so much fun recording with you and I think today we're going to dive into what it means to hold space for others without losing yourself in the process, how meditation can be accessible even for those of us with chaotic minds, and maybe some simple suggestions about resilience and and ritual like creating intentional space into our everyday life.
Speaker 2:Yeah, excited to do this again. I love it.
Speaker 1:So, when it comes to meditation and self-healing, I know that a lot of nurses like myself are neurodivergent, but many nurses and, of course, busy moms feel like they can't meditate because their minds are too busy. How do you approach meditation for people who struggle with stillness?
Speaker 2:The first thing I want to touch on is when your mind is too busy. A lot of times, people will try to sit and clear their mind and push all the thoughts out, and that is a surefire way to not be successful.
Speaker 2:Right, yes, I can attest to that highly to not be successful, right, yes, I can attest to that highly. So the first thing is to just like witness your thoughts, let them come in and then try to not hold onto them, let them pass, and that does take practice. But as far as for people who struggle with stillness, I know with three little ones running around, I hardly get a chance to sit down during the day, much less meditate in the traditional sense. So if you are like very many other people out there, who imagines Buddha sitting on top of a hill for hours on end with his eyes closed and legs crossed sitting on the ground, it's a very serene scene, but it's not very applicable to today's society. So what I like to recommend is do it while dancing or walking or simply put on your favorite song and just let yourself be immersed in that.
Speaker 2:Personally, I like to crochet, and that is something that I can do, that I just get into the groove and it's something that I can immerse myself either in my thoughts and let them kind of just flow in and out, or something to just kind of like focus on and lose myself in for a little bit, or something to just kind of like focus on and lose myself in for a little bit. It's repetitive, it's funny. My husband and I talk about this and he calls his meditation days. When he has days off and he will schedule it into our calendar He'll go, especially in the winter, up to the ski resorts and he'll have even a half day where he'll go skiing or snowboarding and that's what he calls his meditation Right.
Speaker 1:Which is immersing himself in something.
Speaker 2:Yes, and he's doing something he loves and it's something that he can just kind of not be so focused on what is right in front of you, but to to get into your body. Yeah, Um, and so it's one of those things like you have 10 minutes Awesome, If you have a minute to just kind of like breathe, get back to whatever you were doing, it's better than not doing it. Or maybe it's like you have time for one song Right Before you, like when you get to work, before you have to run inside and you can just be fully present.
Speaker 1:Everybody knows the parking lot song. Yes.
Speaker 2:Yes, right, fully present in the moment, and so it's kind of one of those things like well, if that is the time you have, make it happen. I've even utilized like while cooking dinner or while vacuuming or folding laundry to have just kind of like the, the awareness of like, okay, well, I'm going to, I'm going to use this time to slip into that mindset, so you're intentional with it.
Speaker 1:Yes, like you're intentional with it and what I'm hearing? So, first of all, mind blown, because anytime that I've ever thought about meditating, it's like, okay, I have to have yoga pants on and like somewhere to sit. Or, you know, if I lay down I'm going to go to sleep, so I've got to have somewhere to sit and like do this whole meditation, meditation thing? Like never once have I ever thought of doing it in like in normal space, like, for some reason, I always thought you had to like create this like special, like meditation space, and like be a certain way or sit a certain way, or I don't, I don't even know where I got that from. But to think about it in this context, yeah, I don't know how many times I've sat in the parking garage before going into a shift at work.
Speaker 1:My vehicle I bought my vehicle because of the set Well, and it's a mermaid Jeep, but because of the sound system, because I'm so kinesthetic and I lose myself in the music and just being fully absorbed in it. And it's kinesthetic enough that my brain offers no objection, it doesn't try to make up thoughts, or you know, suddenly, like some weird spot on my left hip is is it supposed to be feeling like that? I wonder what that you know? And then off I go down the rabbit hole. I've never, ever thought of it in that purpose. Sure, I've listened to music while meditating, or tried to, but it's always like meditating kind of music, you know, like the soothing, whatever kind of stuff.
Speaker 1:Great. My brain is not soothing whatever. Most of the time it's not having it. So this is incredible, and I wouldn't though it wouldn't work though if I wasn't intentional beforehand about that's what I'm going to do with this time, while I'm doing something.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's really just anything that you can use to get yourself into your body and into the present moment.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, that's wildly effective imagery in that regard, and especially for those of us that maybe there's not often time. You know if we get a lunch break during a shift, um, depending on where you work, of course. Uh, here in Nevada it's. We don't have guaranteed break times or break nurses, and you know I've gone quite routinely. You go a shift without a break, um, or at least you'll go 10 hours into a shift without a break. So to be able to intentionally have you know the I know I mentioned this in another podcast, but the whole linen closet supply closet thing is a real thing, people but to have you know intentionally, like I am going to step off the floor for two minutes and I don't know whatever it is that I'm doing, I have two minutes to just get my shit together, basically, but being intentional about it as a way to ground and like recenter myself in myself, because we get so unwound, running from patient to patient, answering phones, taking notes Did I document this?
Speaker 1:Did I chart this? That person screaming like whatever's happening right, that to know you can do it in whatever time you have, and the thought process that something, a little something, is better than nothing, yeah, and touching, definitely in touching base that way, that's wildly amazing. So, on the heels of that, so what is like? What is like one simple way, like if I'm in a 12 hour shift and I'm running around and I have like two minutes, what would you recommend? If I'm going to be intentional but, like I want to center myself or ground myself, is there a, a method or a go-to for you that would help beginners connect with that process? Cause it's easy for me to say it, but for me to like physically, try to do it. Like what do I do? Like do I start with breathing? Or like should I like I don't know, like what would you recommend for a beginner Like, hey, if you've got like two minutes, do this thing and focus on grounding yourself? What would it? What might it be?
Speaker 2:I really like just the traditional slow, deep breaths. Okay, if you are getting caught up in what is happening and you're rushing from place to place and, like you said, there's there's things happening all around you. Did I do this, did I do that, just finding a space to slow your breathing and even trying to make your exhale longer than your inhale. Okay, so, like the, not the box breathing, but the other breathing yeah, I think you mentioned it in the second or third podcast, and if you enjoy either of those, any of those breathing methods, you can use those as well. But simply just slowing your breath down and lengthening your breath, which sometimes will some people need practice doing that, but slowing your breath will slow your mind, yes, and so that is something you can intentionally do just to find a pocket of peace in that moment.
Speaker 2:That being said, I know that the deep breathing doesn't work for everybody. I've met quite a few people that that just isn't really their jam. So the alternative that I personally really love is it's a tapping method, oh, okay, but it's like uh, I don't know, it's like the butterfly hand I don't know what the actual name for it is but basically laying like one hand over each other on your chest palm to the back of your hand, yeah, palm to the back of your hand, on the center of your chest, and you tap, alternating with your fingertips. And what is really great about this is that you can tailor it to what you need or what your body is is wanting in that moment. Because you alternate your hands, you can do it as fast or as slow as you want and with as much or as little pressure as you need, just to kind of pull you out of your head and back into your body.
Speaker 2:I think this is going to be like a theme today, because it's the second or third time, I've said it already, but like just really getting back and grounding back into your body is yeah.
Speaker 1:I think that's vastly important, because we come and I think most nurses would attest to this, maybe not in so many words, but when we are in that state, we are operating out of necessity, in fight or flight mode, out of necessity, in fight or flight mode, and so we are kind of intrinsically out of our body because our prior perception and our, our function and our senses are geared towards emergently responding to things. Or I mean, even if it's not an emergency, but you're trying to handle 10 patients on a med search floor, you're still running in that mode and anxiety is still high or stress is still high. So to be able to come back into yourself is regaining a sense of control. You're not just being pulled by this current of immediacy that's pushing and pulling you, even if it's, you know, even like a labor and delivery floor and it's positive and there's all these gorgeous babies and this is awesome. They're still immediacy and they're still stress and they're still anxiety and it's still pushing and pulling you like this current. So to be able to ground yourself and kind of like, okay, I'm going to be a rock sitting in the middle of the stream for a moment and I'm not going to move, but to do that you got to find footing. You have to find purchase. Yes, and the I for our readers. You know I have not started video podcasting this but to put the flat of one of your hands on your sternum so that your fingertips are kind of towards your collarbone, and then repeat the the motion with the other hand and put it palm to the back of your hand so that the fingers are pointing towards the other collarbone is what Molly was doing with her hands and tapping in this space underneath either collarbone or, you know, right on your chest.
Speaker 1:Alternating is tapping is a method. It's used in EMDR, it's used in post-traumatic stress disorder treatments, emotional dysregulation, dbt therapy I think some not my professional wheelhouse, so I could be speaking out of turn but alternating the tapping is also alternating your left and right brain signals and making the brain slow down enough to function as one rather than being solely in your left or solely in your right. So I think that's an incredible method to. Those are both really good options. Could you do both at the same time? Oh yeah, oh yeah. Awesome, and I can see that really working for people who maybe the breathing aspect still leaves their mind too free to continue bouncing around like a ping pong ball in a room? Yeah, but the tapping and you're focusing on making it alternate. You have to actually focus on it being alternate. While you're breathing, you occupy.
Speaker 2:On the body? Yes, because it quite literally brings your focus into what is happening on your chest.
Speaker 1:What does that feel like?
Speaker 2:And so it quite literally pulls you into that bodily sensation, that's incredible, that's amazing.
Speaker 1:And so it quite literally pulls you into that bodily sensation. That's incredible. That's amazing. I think people tend to do this innately as a stimming on their legs or tapping their feet or tapping their fingers on things, without realizing it. So, intentionally, doing it in a space that's focused on your core, I mean right over your sternum, is basically your core is perfect to really kind of like draw you into that. That's amazing. Do you incorporate Ayurvedic principles or meditation? Do you have that as a ritual habit in your life?
Speaker 2:Well Ayurveda is, it encompasses a whole lifestyle, right? So a lot of times people think of it as like the diet piece and how you're eating and the way you eat it, but really it it does involve like the entire like. What does your lifestyle look like? So in Ayurveda it's called Dhinacharya and that is your, your daily routine, your morning routine, and I think you have a name for your daily routine.
Speaker 2:Yes, so having that kind of set routine, like in the morning, obviously it looks different for everybody, depending on your situation. For me, with kids, I'm trying to get out of the door for school and whatnot. You know my bare minimum is being able to wake up. You know you splash some water on your face, brush your teeth, run a brush or some fingers through your hair.
Speaker 2:And then I always like to drink a glass of like warm water before anything else, and having that be kind of the set thing that happens every morning. Your body finds ease in routine and so it knows what to expect. And then, even farther than that, if you eat the same breakfast every morning, your body even will learn to expect that, and it will start making the enzymes to digest that.
Speaker 1:Absolutely it will.
Speaker 2:Yes, before you even like get to have the food in front of you, and so it.
Speaker 1:It eases digestion, then, and so it's like a way to lower stress in a very just because if your body is expecting what's coming, the parasympathetic nervous system is what can respond instead of the sympathetic. The body doesn't understand the difference between pancakes or a jump scare, like it really doesn't. If it's not expecting a stimuli, no matter what the stimuli is, whether it's your beautiful child whispering in your ear at one in the morning or you know surprise pancakes, it's terrifying. Your body reacts first with the sympathetic nervous system until the brain can cognitively process what it's looking at Correct For the parasympathetic nervous system to kick in. So I've never, ever thought about that.
Speaker 1:Well, having ADHD routine and predictable structure probably isn't something I think about normally. It's probably something you need Actual. That is probably something you need in actual. But that's really mind blowing to me because having that kind of structure allows you to stay out of your fight or flight mode and that's so integral to lowering stress for nurses, whose entire job is going to keep them in it, probably 70 to 80 percent of the time, no matter what field you're in. Yeah, I'm not just speaking from experience, like from ICU or ER experience. That is such an incredible concept.
Speaker 2:Well, and it goes back to you know, the ritual aspect of this podcast. It's like if you have those daily rituals that you do every single day around the same time every day it helps to pull your body kind of out of that fight or flight.
Speaker 1:And it's done with intention. Yes, it is done with intention. On that note, I wish that you guys could just stay with us the entire time, but if you have to head back to the floor, I really hope that you are having a wonderful shift and that you get a few moments of intentional space that you need If you're going to hang out with us and you don't have to run back to the floor. Use this musical interlude to refresh your coffee, your tea, just get into a more comfortable position, and Molly and I are going to return after the break. We are going to talk about a couple cool, um, maybe practices or maybe a personal intentional space that either one of us, uh, like to create, and we're gonna cover that and go over it after the break. So we'll talk to you guys shortly. And stone breaks, the darkness, a new day begins. I feel cold and heartless. I've run myself in Like the distant star. Have you traveled?
Speaker 2:far. I miss you in my arms.
Speaker 1:Welcome back. Thank you, guys so much for sticking with us. So before the break we were actually really connecting the idea of the ritual spaces that we create for ourselves, and doing it with intention. And when it comes to, like high stress, caregiving professions, a lot of the work that you do, um as a death doula, um, are there any specific meditation practices that are more recommended for that kind of profession, or is it just get in what you can when you can? Is there a specific type of meditation that's more beneficial than another? This isn't my wheelhouse. I don't know if there's even different types.
Speaker 2:I think there's as many different types of meditation for as many different types of people out there. Okay, and I think, instead of trying to fit in a box of like, this is how I should be meditating, because X, y and Z, I think leaning on what works best for you is is the most important thing, because if it's not going to work for you, then it's not going to work.
Speaker 1:You're not going to do it, no matter what. It's just like our patients.
Speaker 2:Exactly, and so.
Speaker 1:If it's not going to work for them, they can't be compliant.
Speaker 2:Correct. So it's kind of one of those just like making sure you find what works, I think is the most important thing. Like if you haven't found the type of meditation that works for you yet don't give up. I think would be like the biggest thing that I would say, because there are so many different types out there, and just cause you haven't found what works for you yet, it doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
Speaker 1:Right, I think I fall into that trap a lot because I've had so much frustration trying to quote, unquote do meditation the right way? Or I guess just what is, like you know, most typically represented on social media or whatever we're exposed to and not having studied it, not having exposure to someone who has studied it, I think one of the things that I've been able to learn from you is that the way my mind works, I'm not, I don't have to fight with meditation. The whole point is to do it in concert with how I am normally, like bottling up or or keeping the flow of who I am, or my energies am, or my energies, you know, like in a maze that I'm trying to navigate, versus removing all the floodgates and letting it flow in its natural pattern. I think speaks a lot to not giving up on meditation, and I don't even think I mean, does it really need to be called meditation? Like, yes, that is a practice and that's what you're doing specifically, but what about the aspect of grounding? Is grounding different than meditation?
Speaker 2:Not necessarily. I had a teacher back in my courses within Ayurveda and she would say like meditation. The goal is like meditation is a way of life.
Speaker 2:Okay, and so like again, you're not going to be sitting for 24 hours a day sitting and meditating, and so if you can find it's a mindset and if you can shift into that mindset at any point and that includes like this is after you've been able to like process your emotions. Yes, and everything, and like if, because if you're holding onto stuff, it makes it really hard to shift into that mindset at a given moment. Right, Like a pure, like expression of emotion good, bad, sad, whatever is 90 seconds. When was the last time you felt an emotion for only 90 seconds? Oh, yeah, no, Right, Like we're so conditioned to like hold on to emotions and let them out when it's quote, unquote, appropriate, and so it causes a lot of of issues in the body and it just gets kind of stagnant.
Speaker 2:And so I know, in working especially with my kids, you know, seeing how they're able to kind of like process that they're so excited or they're crying or having a tantrum, they're angry, and then the next thing, you know, they flip the switch and now they're fine and they're like well, I'm kind of hungry now and I'm like wait what? And it's because they're not holding on to that. And so I think, yeah, just being able to do the work to be able to get to that point of being able to get into that mindset when you need to. That makes sense. And again, just being in that present moment, which is really kind of where that meditative mindset is, is kind of that sweet spot.
Speaker 1:That's that makes a lot of sense and it really speaks to like. I think everybody just thinks that you know, you should just be able to find some kind of hurts or frequency or sound or you know, ohm, or something that like you sit down and if you can sit cross-legged, sit cross-legged and do this thing and suddenly you're meditating.
Speaker 1:But the act of intentionally staying in that mind space, or being able to move into that mind space, means that you have to be really self-aware and you have to do the work of keeping yourself healthy emotionally. Yeah, and we as nurses as I was talking about Jamie, one of the prior guests on the podcast we are not taught how to do any of this. So our only recourse, I'd say for like 90% of nurses out there, is we shove things in boxes you know metaphorical boxes and they're put on shelves in our psyche and we just cram things in them and put it away and we can talk about it. You'll notice that a lot of nurses are able to talk about really horrific or traumatic experiences with really not too much emotion. Compartmentalization, absolutely Like wild, like it's yeah, it's, it's, it's really bad. I mean, it's a maladaptive coping mechanism, but nurses aren't taught any of this in school and then when we get into the field, there isn't space for this, which is part and parcel of the whole reason the ritual nurse podcast is is here.
Speaker 1:So I think that people need to give themselves patience. I think they need to be give themselves grace and be patient with themselves, I guess, is what usually rely on my senses, like touching base with my five senses, because for some reason it just reminds me that it brings me, I guess, into the physical. I'm very kinesthetic, so I will usually identify something that I can see and I have, I've always had in my locker at work. We don't usually wear perfumes and things like that, but essential oils especially those that are not sharp but like citrus or mint, not something soft it for me personally, it usually has to be something that grabs my attention kinesthetically as a sense. Ice and drinking ice water, sipping on ice water, the coolness I will usually envision like actually sinking into ice cold water. And in DBT we call that tip as a method of helping with emotional dysregulation, which I had no idea about until I learned about DBT. But I was doing this intrinsically as a grounding practice for knowing that, even though I didn't know why it was working, just knowing that what it was doing was giving me clarity and calming my mind and I was able to return back to razor sharp focus and walk into the next code or do whatever I was doing. And it would take seconds. It would just take seconds, yeah. So I think.
Speaker 1:Is there anything that you do like that, when you are at work, like let's say that you're not at home, like you can't really, you know you're caring for a family or you're in the midst of dealing with something Is there anything that you do? You know, like the rubber band thing that people do sometimes, like that quick, like personally, it just brings you like to where you need to be and then you can keep functioning. Is there anything you do that's fast, like that? Because I'm sure, I'm darn sure, that, being in the spaces I've been in, that you experience a lot of intense emotional moments that you can't just like duck out of the room, right out of the room.
Speaker 2:Right, I'm trying to think because, well and everything I'm hearing, you're saying the like, snapping the band on the wrist or the smelling of the the very like lively we'll call them scents, or even the ice water is.
Speaker 2:It's a. It's a snap back into your body Right and, to be honest, like when I'm in it working with family I'm sure like plenty of nurses can relate to this it's like when you're in it you kind of like can forget to do that in the moment and then as soon as you're out of there, you're like okay, whoa, I need to come back to that. If I'm able to like outdoors, fresh air is my like jolt to the system. If I can like, I'll open a window.
Speaker 1:If I'm working from home. I was just going to say that.
Speaker 2:Like, even if you need to stick your head out the window for a second and breathe fresh air. Yes, I know I work from home a lot, um and so, like I will, I'll open up my whole house, and I know the last couple of days have been really nice. I've been able to open up the whole house and it's been fantastic.
Speaker 2:I'm like, oh, we're at this time of year again, but it is one of those things that really just kind of like brings me back into the self, but it is something that I'm not doing in the moment. So I find that really interesting that you asked that, because I'm like I I don't know if I have something that just is like adult in the moment. I'll usually have tea or something, and so maybe you know that, like I noticed, if I get higher emotions I drink faster or like I'm sipping more often and sometimes that will be.
Speaker 2:It'll kind of create that hand brain connection where I'm like whoa, I need to slow down, take a second Right, exactly, and then that brings me back to like the Whoa, I need to slow down, take a second, exactly, and then that brings me back to like the breath work and stuff. But yeah, that's interesting. That's something that I could be better at. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1:And I think you know, obviously, in the middle of a code, I know actually, now that I'm thinking about it, I have done it in the middle of a code. No, actually, now that I'm thinking about it, I have done it in the middle of a code. When I notice that I'm starting to feel like I can't keep up with the timing and it's like this hint of frenetic energy, I actually will focus on something like whether it's a sound of something and it's just for a few brief seconds, and I didn't. I until now, I didn't actually think about the fact that that I have done this in codes before and it returns me to, I guess it just gets all the freeway lanes like into one lane with my brain and I'm able to process the data that I'm collecting and get back on track.
Speaker 2:Well, it almost like pulls you out of, like the tunnel vision because you focus on something like external, exactly. So you kind of gain that perspective. Yes, so that, yeah, that's great.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, I have actually done that in codes, I think, when it comes to overwhelm, have actually done that in codes. I think, when it comes to overwhelm, and I'm, and I, whether it's ice water or I'm, you know, running by my locker to to grab something and just kind of, like you know, inhale whatever essential oil it is or whatever that is more of along the same lines as you like, you know when that, when the moment has passed and you're, you've handled that situation and you step out for a moment, that breath of fresh air. You know, I don't know how many, so many nurses can relate to this. Actually, like I'm going to step outside for a moment, cause even being in the physical space of the energy affects you.
Speaker 1:Yes, and that might be woo woo for some. You know, take it or leave it. If it works for you, Great. If it's a concept that you're like, I don't believe in that, not a problem. But I do. I really do challenge you to look at your environment and the energy that is in your environment and then what happens when you step outside, whether it's to step off the floor to take an elevator ride up or down two floors, to walk in the parking garage, whatever it is, but getting off of that floor, not even just out of the room, but off of the floor for a moment and see what happens, because the energy that is circulating, it's palpable.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:And we react to others. You know, uh, micro expressions and body language, and we're picking up on things. As we're still animals, we're still mammals. We're picking up on things and reacting to it. So I think I do both. I've always kind of just married my perception of it as well. This is what I do in the moment, but there is actually a separation. Um and I didn't realize that until you were saying what you're saying I'm like, wait, that is true. I actually like do it different ways. I do, in the moment, have had to bring myself back to zero by focusing on one thing, and I usually only have like maybe two seconds to do it. But the other stuff I do out of the moment kind of, even if I only have a few seconds to do it. That's interesting. Yeah, it's weird when you talk about it that you're not aware of what you're doing until you vocalize it, right?
Speaker 2:Well, and it can also be that we all do these little things to kind of get out of that tunnel vision right. But we usually do it without thinking about it, right, and so it is kind of one of those things that like once you realize what it is you're doing or what that little thing is, you can start pulling it in intentionally.
Speaker 1:Yeah, absolutely, um, and I think like, now that I've vocalized it, I can see myself actually, like, now that I've vocalized it, I can see myself actually because now I've vocalized it, so I know it's a thing like utilizing it. Yes, like actually stopping to do it for a moment, maybe even before.
Speaker 2:I get so unwound to it. Yeah, into it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, man, that makes so much sense. So I did want to ask is there any like exciting projects before we get to our coffee and crystals and divination section? Is there any exciting projects or things coming up for you that you wanted to to talk about with our listeners?
Speaker 2:Sure. So yeah, I think I mentioned real quick in the in the last episode that within like all of the death doula work and stuff, I also work in financial services helping people with just kind of like protecting their finances and creating a legacy and you know whatever that looks like for them. And we're super excited Our office is going to be holding an event next month for women that's incredible Specifically just to share financial education for women, because financial education isn't something that is widely taught in schools.
Speaker 1:I know it is not at all in nursing school. Yeah, whatsoever.
Speaker 2:Well, and yeah, it's something that a lot of times as women, I think the statistic is like half of all married women will just defer financial decisions to their husbands.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I know I've been, you know, part of that statistic and whichever partner is better at the math or the left brain thing, or you know. Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2:But it just it's really interesting and the more women I talk to, there's a lot of different mindsets around this, of anything from like, well, my finances are separate, I know where my finances are and I was like, okay, so if something happened to your partner, Right, Do you know where all of their information, their documents are? And they were like, oh, you know, it's like just like you don't need to have any fingers in the in the pot, Like if you keep them separate, that's great, but you still need to have some type of basic understanding of, like, exactly what happens if, if something were to happen to them, especially if you have children together and all of that. So it just there's so much that goes into it and I could talk about this for ages. But yeah, it's going to be a brunch and mimosas event for women and I'm I'm so excited and I'm going to be speaking.
Speaker 1:So I'll be sharing that story. Are you guys planning or have you thought about, like, is it recorded? Or a lot of our, our listeners, come from literally all over the United States. We're in 13 different countries, 73 different cities. Have you guys ever thought about like I don't know what to call it a webinar of it?
Speaker 2:I don't even know if that's the right name or word for it, but we are so in town, the, the in-person like experience of the brunch and everything is is definitely going to be where you want to be, but if you are out of area, we are looking at having a zoom option. So you can still tune in and get the information. Love it. So yeah, it's going to be. It's going to be super fun. Love it, the information.
Speaker 1:Love it. So, yeah, it's going to be. It's going to be super fun, love it. We will have to post the information as Ms Molly gives it to us for both future trainings and episodes. A lot of nurses need that information. We don't. I mean, like, maybe in the pamphlets that we get from the hospital or something like that. That's our only exposure to it, unless you know somebody or have somebody in your life like you that does that. Yeah, we don't have only exposure to it, unless you know somebody or have somebody in your life like you that does that. Yeah, we don't have any exposure to it. So I think that is wildly phenomenal and exciting for coffee crystals and divination.
Speaker 1:Last week we did two special decks. One was Molly's Oracle deck and the other was her Tarot deck deck and the other was her tarot deck. And so this week, uh, would you be willing to pull other cards for, like the topic that we talked about this week? Sure, I love it. The decks are going to be on socials, um, if I can find links. And of course, we always want to buy from the artists because there's a lot of knockoffs and you know ripoffs out there, and we always want to buy from the artists, because there's a lot of knockoffs and rip offs out there and we always want to support the artists. So I will link as much information as I can for the decks that she's using, and you're going to want to see the pictures because they're absolutely stunning. They're absolutely gorgeous and I think the creators of the Oracle deck are they local.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they are not. They're based out of Atlanta. Oh okay, and they're called the Spirit Mamas. This is the Spirit Mamas Oracle. So they're Victoria Nielsen and Tiffany Wilkes and they're fantastic. Yeah, this is so beautiful.
Speaker 1:Mothers themselves.
Speaker 2:Absolutely beautiful.
Speaker 1:And here we go, love it Put it literally flying out of her hands while she's shuffling.
Speaker 2:Let it all crumble down. So on this card is the goddess Kali, who very much tears down. Get rid of all of the existing and shelves, constructs and creates space for what needs to come through. So, yes, irrelevant. That's amazing, I know, yep.
Speaker 1:Tear down the shelves. Tear open the boxes. Oh my, yes, totally irrelevant. That's amazing, I know Yep. Tear down the shelves.
Speaker 2:Tear open the boxes, oh my gosh. And in the little guidebook, the first thing it says the walls you've built were never meant to last. It's time to tear them down and let love in, Time to let go of anger that you hold within. Amazing.
Speaker 2:Let go of any righteousness that doesn't Sorry, got to turn the page of any righteousness that doesn't serve you any longer because, guess what, it never did. Even though you felt abandoned you never were. You were always supported by your higher self and your guides and angels. That's amazing. Release old hurts, replace them with love, and Goddess Kali can help you stop any old cycles of grief and feeling misunderstood. They're just your ego trying to keep you separate. Let all these old stories die with her. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1:Yes, literally is exactly what we're talking about and being in that meditative space. In order to get there, you have to do the work of cleaning the garage, you have to break the walls down and get rid of the boxes and all the crap that we keep cramming in boxes as nurses. That's wildly phenomenal.
Speaker 2:I just want to say between last week and this week we did have two goddess cards get pulled. The whole deck is not full of goddesses.
Speaker 1:I was just like yeah, there's literally only seven in this whole deck.
Speaker 2:This is hilarious. Yeah, they wanted a strong reading. They did. That's all I've got to say. We have some fierce feminine energy coming in, oh I love it.
Speaker 1:So your tarot deck. I'm going to shuffle the crystal oracles so that I can pull a stone for them for this week. Oh, yeah, let's do that. But will you pull a tarot card from your deck that you brought, of course, which I also love?
Speaker 1:And while we were talking about it, after the recording for last week, we were looking at the deck and looking at the artwork of it. Uh, not sure of the name of it. We're gonna hunt it down and I'll figure it out, but it really reminds me of like a Disney animated feature that they never released, like if Disney, if there was a fairy tale that was true to the origins of fairy tales. So, a little bit more horror based than Darker origin, yeah, a little bit more horror based, darker kind of gothic images, then done in the original, like, let's say, early cinderella, uh, sleeping beauty, snow white type animation style that would. The cards are oh, she's gonna have to read this card, uh, and I'll explain why later.
Speaker 1:But the stone, oh, that I drew for you guys this week as a uh stone to have on you is Labradorite, and let me just get to this really quickly here. Um, a lot of times with the cards, while I may know the meanings intrinsically myself, I always defer to what the artists include, because I want I want to capture the spirit of what they were imbuing the imagery with as they were creating it. So, labradorite, it is transmute, transformation, intuition, spiritual enlightenment. You are on the brink of the magnificent transformation, so prepare to break free from that cocoon and embrace your inner butterfly. This card beckons you to welcome change and trust your intuition as you navigate a period of growth and evolution. Just as Labradorites, mesmerizing hues, reveal hidden depths, it's time to transmute challenges into opportunities and listen to your inner wisdom with confidence, spread your wings wide and get ready to soar into a new phase. So keep your Labradorite handy, keep it on you this week, because that is the crystal divination for this week and, of course, totally irrelevant, had nothing to do with what we talked about.
Speaker 2:It sounded like a much gentler version of the like tear it all down so you can rebuild it in a better healthier way, and so it's like it doesn't have to be like this violent tear it all down. Oh, that's gorgeous, yeah, that you can do this in a way that feels much more gentle.
Speaker 1:Right, so I love that. If you're like me, you can take a wrecking ball to it. So whichever way feels right for you. Again, like we say on this podcast, take what works for you and leave the rest. What? Oh, oh, I. Yeah, you have to hold that tarot card. Um, if it's the one I, if you drew the one I think you did.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's probably because you were very against looking at it I am a very arachnophobic. For those that don't know me, even though this card is beautiful, I, nope, can't look at it so I just want to disclaimer out there these are archetypes and it is the devil card okay, oh yeah so they are archetypes, right?
Speaker 2:so? So it doesn't mean that it does not be anything crazy. We're not talking about the actual devil, or it's not supposed to signify yes, If we look at what the representation is there you know, that temptation, you know, falling into old patterns, things that do not serve.
Speaker 2:you again, not on brand at all for today. You again, not on brand at all for today. Um, you know, this is this is almost a warning to to not fall into those old patterns and to again, like you know, break out of that. Like you said, you're a bit arachnophobic. The, the imagery on this card is quite a large spider in the middle of its web, and it's that same kind of concept of like, don't get stuck in the web.
Speaker 1:So in the walls that you've built around you, exactly so it is very very on point there as well.
Speaker 2:I love it.
Speaker 1:It's wildly amazing. Well, hopefully we will be able to have you back on the podcast. There's a million other topics that I could ask you. I am and this is secret for my podcast listeners because you know we're going to pretend Molly doesn't hear what I'm saying but that we can maybe do some more focus on meditation with Miss Molly and maybe future episodes. But the experience has just been amazing. If you guys didn't listen to last week's episode, you're going to want to, because some of the things that Molly touched on, one of them happened to be the best description of therapeutic boundaries I think I've ever heard. I'm glad that we're not videoing these podcasts, because the dumb look on my face when the light bulb went off when she said what she said probably would have turned into a meme. But definitely listen to last week's podcast and I hope that you thoroughly enjoyed this one. Thank you so much, ms Molly. I always love seeing you and you guys out there.
Speaker 1:Take care of yourselves. Please be intentional with your space. Please give yourselves grace and patience as you navigate the skills set of learning how to be intentional, learning how to be self-aware, how to ground, digging through those boxes and unpacking them so that being in a meditative and healing space can be something that is more close to the surface. For you. It's not such a fight to get there, but give yourself patience and space while you're developing this. It's not going to happen overnight and, as always, I love your face and we'll talk to you next week. This is your ritual nurse, reva. Thanks for tuning in to the ritual nurse podcast. You can find us wherever you listen to podcasts, so don't forget to subscribe and stay connected For all our social links free education classes, blogs and podcast notes with resources. Head over to tcthorg. Until next time, love your faces.