Wholeness for Marriage and Family - Rich and Val - Clarity for the Mission of Parenthood, Part 5

The Key to a Lasting Marriage and a Family that Heals, Mends, Rests, and Restores...episode 216, Operation Wholeness for Marriage and Family w/ Rich and Val, part 5 of Clarity for the Mission of Parenthood.

This is the day! 32 years ago, we made a commitment to forever.
We didn't know what all we were committing to, but that's kind of the point.
The first half of the 32 years we didn't know how to do commitment from a place of nurturing one another, blessing one another, seeking each other's wholeness and health.
The second half of the 32 years, we've been living as ambassadors of wholeness for each other, ourselves, and our family.
An ambassador is on mission for the leader. We are on God's mission of restoring and healing. Everything we say and do either hinders or helps restore and heal another person and ourselves. We choose to heal. This has changed everything about our lives, our marriage, our family, and anyone that God brings along our life journey.
Every day we strive to build up, mend, and bless. We don't get it right all the time, but I can tell you this - having a partner in life that is committed with me to creating a life that heals means that every day, little by little, our relationship becomes stronger, we become more stable for those around us, and we are more committed to each other than ever before.
We began to prioritize taking time to mend and nourish one another.

Arguments stopped being a tug-a-war for power and instead were discussions to find common-ground solutions. 

We no longer were willing to make little "one-up" zingers at each other that would jeopardize healing. 

Nitpicking was replaced with encouraging words and having grace for one another's imperfections. 

Because my goal was Rich's healed heart, mind, body, and spirit, I no longer was willing to compromise his progress just so I could "win" an argument or get my way.

Likewise, because Rich's goal was my healed heart, mind, body, and spirit, he gave more effort in finding ways to affirm me and restore my injured areas. 

We both began digging deeper into unhealthy emotions, facing past trauma and earlier malnourishment, identifying generational toxins, and seeking to forgive old resentments.