Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel
This podcast is a series of conversations.
What started as a series of intimate conversations between Ruth and David that ranged from personal to professional experiences around violence, relationships, abuse, and system and professional responses which harm, not help, has now become a global conversation about systems and culture change. In many episodes, David and Ruth are joined by a global leader in different areas like child safety, men and masculinity, and, of course, partnering with survivors. Each episode is a deep dive into complex topics like how systems fail domestic abuse survivors and their children, societal views of masculinity and violence, and how intersectionalities such as cultural beliefs, religious beliefs, and unique vulnerabilities impact how we respond to abuse and violence. These far-ranging discussions offer an insider look into how we navigate the world together as professionals, as parents, and as partners. During these podcasts, David and Ruth challenge the notions which keep all of us from moving forward collectively as systems, as cultures, and as families into safety, nurturance, and healing.
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Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel
Season 4 Episode 8: “Heart Healing”: An Interview with Mibbinbah’s Lisa and Jack Bulman
In this episode, Ruth and David speak with Lisa and Jack Bulman of Mibbinbah Spirit Healing about their work in the community to facilitate healing from intergenerational trauma, support healthy relationship connections, and strengthen the well-being of Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander men and families. Mibbinbah uses a “whole of communities” approach, which brings men and women together to heal in the community.
Jack and Lisa talk about the heart-healing work they do within Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander communities to strengthen & support their families after generations of colonization, which created family separation, violence, and abuse.
The discussion touches on:
- The origins of Mibbinbah in Jack’s need in university for a safe space for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander men to connect, support, and heal together
- The negative police response to Aboriginal men coming together to heal in nature and how that helped Jack further develop his work with the community
- How Lisa and Jack see addressing violence as separate from men’s business and women’s business
- How partnering is critical when it comes to working with the community
- The importance of deep listening to healing and how this differs from prescriptive approaches to addressing trauma and violence
- How healing and combating family violence is important to the work of decolonization
- The importance of self-responsibility for adopting behaviors that heal harm to self and community
- The pitfalls and limitations of how men’s behavior change are currently understood as Individual and reductionist rather than as familial and communal
- Concrete behaviors professionals can adopt to safely and appropriately support Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people in healing from family violence and the intergenerational impacts of ongoing colonization
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