Conversations from the Heart

#61 - Letting Go of What You "Should" Do

Yvette Erasmus Season 2 Episode 9

It's easy to let our thoughts sink into the "shoulds" that have been programmed into us:

"I should be able to handle this:  other people say it's easy."

"He should be able to get ready and go to school by himself - he's old enough now."

"I should have paid my taxes weeks ago - why does this feel so hard?"

However, running our lives on "shoulds" often robs us of the joy and creative life-energy that is our human divine right, and robs us of our need for choice fulness.

 In this episode, we have three different discussions centered around what we "should" or "shouldn't" do, as we dive into the idea of authentic choice fulness:

  • 1:10  Help!  I don't want to go back to my dentist!"
  • 16:56  How to give a voice to competing parts of ourselves
  • 22:08  What does healing look like?
  • 24:20  How can I have "radical acceptance" for a situation that's hard?
  • 32:29  How do I look after myself while also caring for the needs of my child?
  • 36:02  Is there such a thing as an "anti-need"?

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