What Comes Up Must Come Out

What is coming up for you in this season that you can't take with you into the next? If you're in a season that is bringing up some painful, ugly, messy, difficult stuff, chances are it's coming up to come out. Our natural bend may be to shove the difficult and painful stuff and keep moving without acknowledging the things that we need to be rid of in order to move into what's next! Danielle Stinespring shares this week about the season she finds herself in and how embracing your current season is actually the key to stepping into the next one!

Transcript

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Hey there, and welcome to the Hey There podcast. I'm your host, Danielle Stinespring. And I can't wait to share with you weekly, practical, powerful, quick and Kingdom tools for you to go out and live your most connected, alive, abundant and destiny filled life. I can't wait to sit down with you and encourage you, empower you and equip you and share with you some of the things that I have learned in my own messy human journey as a wife, a mom, a pastor, a mentor, friend, and a life consultant. So grab your coffee, sit down with me, and let's start living.

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Well, hey there, guys. And welcome back to season two of the hey there podcast, long awaited season, I know. But here we are. And I'm so excited to share with you today a few of the things that have been happening sort of in the background. So let's just dive right in. This episode is going to be similar to my seasons episodes from season one and the heater podcast. So if you've been following along for a while now, then you probably listened to those episodes in season one.

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And if not, then maybe head back and take a listen. But I have been learning for the past two years about seasons. And I got to share some more stuff with you guys. So as you may know, Andy and I have been in a serious season of transition. That is the season that we have found ourselves in for over a year. Now, up until this point of my life, I thought that all seasons were relatively short, I thought that really the longest season of your life was like pregnancy. And I'm learning now that seasons can be years long, because we're in this for the long haul, you guys, the life journey is a long journey. It's a marathon and not a sprint. And so I'm learning more and more and more about how to stay connected to love in all seasons. 

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So a little backstory on why the podcast had to sort of take a little timeout first for 2020. If you know me at all, then you know that performance and perfectionism has been the journey of my healing for, I don't know, my whole life, yeah, seems like my whole life. And so when I wasn't able to keep up with the podcast, and every and juggle everything and spin every plate all at the same time, I really struggled. But another layer of that perfectionism thing had to die on me this year. And that's a really, really good thing. Being aware of those things that are coming up to come out is a really important thing. So I had to let go of that perfectionism thing, because let me just give you a behind the scenes peek into what's been happening in the life of the Stinespring. 

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So some of you may know, we stepped down from our leadership positions at our local church. And we've been serving there since it was like 12 people in a living room, and it had been almost nine years. That's a lot of life. That was our entire marriage. We had been serving there in lots of different roles and capacities. And we stepped down and we stepped down because we really felt like the Lord was asking us to live with really open hands. Which for Andy was really fun, and really easy, for me was really difficult because I like to know, all the details, I can tend towards wanting to know all of the answers. And stepping into the unknown was just kind of scary for me. And so I did it anyways, I opened up my hands and we knew that it was time for us to step down so that we could have open hands for whatever was coming next. Well, the next year long process turned into this wild adventuring journey, where Andy and I both started training and taking courses towards our certification to become life coaches and consultants. And if you follow me on Instagram, then you know I officially launched my business in January. I have several clients and I'm accepting a few more right now. And so that's a thing you can read more about life consulting on my Instagram page or on my website at Danielle stinespring.com and I'm sure I'll do an episode about that later. 

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But that was a huge transition for us. And then, on top of that, in the midst of stepping down, of stepping into new dreams and new things that the Lord was awakening our hearts to, I really had to continue to divorce my value from what I do. Because I wasn't really doing. I wasn't doing as much I wasn't producing as much I wasn't speaking or leading worship, or all of the things that came along with our roles that aren't at our church. And so that was kind of a difficult transition for me. And in the midst of all of that transition. We also knew that God was calling us to move our family. Ah, some of you know about this, some of you have probably seen it coming. But the rumors are true. The Stinespring family is moving from Orlando, Florida, to a tiny little place called Tyrone, Georgia, which is just barely south of Atlanta. And we're super excited, and also really terrified, and definitely feeling all of the human experience in one fun, little compartment. 

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So it's bringing up a lot of stuff. And the point of this episode is to sort of let you in to what this season is bringing up in me, and to sort of hopefully encourage you if you find yourself in a difficult season. So stepping out of leadership, stepping out of our roles that we've been in for a really long time, launching a new business, trying to keep up with the podcast. And also moving has been a really beautiful and also really difficult season because like I said, earlier, I had to divorce my value completely from what I was doing, I have to learn how to rest, which was part of the podcast, really taking a break is that I needed to set some stuff down. And remember, God had asked us to live with open hands. And here I am just picking up more things to fill my hands and my time. And then he asked us to move. And that was really kind of tough because I felt I felt so connected and grounded here. And was feeling honestly scared about what was coming coming next. 

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So in the midst of this transition, as we're also being certified and taking more courses for life coaching and life consulting, I, myself have a consultant. And it is bringing up some some ugly stuff, can I just be honest with you and tell you like, what is coming up in this season is a lot of ugly, messy stuff coming out of me. And I find fear that I thought I had overcome and performance that I thought was dead. And all of these things continuing to surface. That hasn't been really pretty. It's been a it's been a real process and a real charity, and questions about identity and things that have been settled in my heart for a long time. And now here we are, and they're coming up again, I'm thinking what in the world is happening here. And I was reminded of this simple truth for me. And I'm hopeful that it will help you as well.

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So the Lord told me that it was time for me to deal with these things, because I couldn't take them to the next season. My next season, whatever is next. And truth be told, we have very little idea what it's gonna look like when we have some promises, and some things but some of the practical stuff we don't really know. And that's terrifying and exciting, and also terrifying. But I don't know how long this next season is going to be. I don't know when this next season is going to show up. And I don't know what it's going to look like. I don't know, I don't fully know, I have an idea. 

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But I did know, in my knower I knew that what was coming in the next season for me, required me to deal with new levels of what was coming up in me. I can't take into my next season. What needs to be rooted in me in this season. If I want to thrive and function and live my most abundant life, that abundant life that's in the next season for me. Whatever's coming requires that I deal with what this season is bringing up with me. Does that make sense? Let me break it down for you. 

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I think too often, when there's a season of pain, a season of struggle, a season of transition, a season of grief, any of those more difficult type seasons whenever there's a season like that. I think oftentimes we really try to fight against it because it's too painful. We try to just keep trucking, keep going, keep our head down, go through it, go around it go under it however, we can, instead of recognizing that every season that comes to you as a gift.

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I heard a quote recently, that said, most people drowned because they're trying to swim against the current. So if you're trying to swim against the season that you're in, if you're going against what's coming, what's what's happening in your season, if I was to shove, all of the fear, all of the pain, all of the questions, all of the wrestling, if I just shove that down and didn't deal with it, and swim against it, then it's not going to be a gift to me, it's not going to serve me and it's going to overtake me. But if I can let go, trust that he's got me lean in, press in, allow these things to come up in me so that they can come out of me. See, when I open my heart to be pruned, when I allow those things to come up, and I show them to the light of day, when I allow that fear to come, and I hold it up into the light, and I allow love to speak to it, to show me what's going on inside of my heart, and allow him to heal those things, then they get to be healed. When I recognize, oh, there's a lot of anger coming in this season, I'm feeling more angry than normal, or I'm feeling triggered more easily, or I'm feeling some, some fear or some anxiety, whatever it may be for you. When you recognize that those things are coming up a lot, okay, we've got a pattern here, this thing is coming up a lot. It's because it's time to deal with it, that thing is coming up, to come out. Because you because you in the next season, can't have those things from that old season, in order to thrive where he's taking you. 

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That whole bloom where you're planted thing is really true. But it also means that you've got to be pruned where you're planted, before you can be transplanted. If something is coming up in me that needs to be pruned, and taken, and, and edited and softened. I have sometimes I have too many rough edges. And those things need softened, and they can't shove them down and don't deal if I deny their existence. And I pretend that they're not real. And I swim against the current. rather than allowing the pain to come allowing it to come up calling it what it is processing it well, allowing those things to happen. 

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If I can't do that, then what will end up happening is I'll move into the next season and wonder why it looks like the old season. Wait, why am I still seeing all the same fruit? Why am I not moving forward? Why am I not reaching the fullness of my potential? Why am I still bitter? Why am I still hurt? Why is this thing still affecting me and impacting me like it used to? I thought I was past this, right? 

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So for me, that looks like getting really comfortable with being uncomfortable in this season where things are coming up. And it's been difficult. And it's also been let me just tell you, it's also been really beautiful and very exciting. And there's so much adventure in it. And thrill and expectancy and hope and so many promises like so, so, so many. And I'm so excited to share with you some of our major updates. But in the middle of all of that I'm finding myself having to really lean in and go ooh, this is this is a flavour of me that I haven't experienced what's happening, what am I what's going on here and allowing compassion and love and power to get into that place instead of denying that it exists altogether. 

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Because if it's coming up in this season, it needs to come out in this season. If it's coming up a lot, that means it's time to deal with it. You know, if Jesus tried to deal with all of my mess all at once, I think I would spontaneously combust. But he's so so gentle. To go one layer at a time. one layer of performance completely stripped off of me. And I experience a new level of freedom. And I go about that new level of freedom and steward that healing and steward that breakthrough for years. And then this new thing is happening and that old thing is cropping up in me. It's not because you didn't already get your breakthrough. It's because it's time to level up. Whatever's coming out of you in this season, he is ready to level up. Love is ready to level up or to go deeper to prune and to strip away the things that cannot function in the season that he's taking you into. 

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Alright, that's what I want to share with youtoday guys, if you yourself are in a season of transition or difficulty or pain or grief, or struggle of some kind, and you find yourself producing some fruit that isn't exactly what you want to be producing, or you find things coming out in the midst of this season, then call it what it is. Let love see it. Let compassion into that spot and allow it to be pruned out, allow it to be, allow it to grow out of you. Because where you're headed, you can't take it. It can't go with you where you're going. Because where you're going is where he's taking you. I hope all that made sense for you today guys. 

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That's really all I have for you. If you have questions for me if you want to chat more than you can find me on Instagram. You can find my website it's DanielleStinespring.com and on Instagram. I'm heythere _itsDanielle. Truth be told that's probably going to be changing in the next couple of weeks to something more life consulty. Anyway, hope you guys are having an awesome day and I will catch you next time on the hey there podcast.

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