The Self Help Antidote
A weekly dose of reason, perspective and insight.
Episodes
175 episodes
Why Empathy Fails: A Misunderstood Aspect of Successful Coaching
In this episode, we’re diving into the subject of empathy vs. sympathy, because in coaching and leadership, these two are not the same. It's not so much that empathy fails, but the confusion of empathy with sympathy that's the problem.
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Episode 174
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21:01
The Emotional Edge: Why Self-regulation Matters in Coaching
In this episode, we explore one of the most critical yet often overlooked skills for coaches: emotional self-regulation. Emotions drive decisions and behaviors more than any other aspect of mindset, and your emotional energy as a coach can eith...
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Episode 173
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36:42
The Wellbeing Advantage: How Prioritizing Wellness Transforms Client Relationships and Elevates Business Performance
In this episode, we explore why prioritizing wellbeing isn't just a "nice to have"—it's a critical business strategy. Drawing inspiration from the visionary leadership of Walt Disney, we look at how businesses that proactively focus on wellbein...
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Episode 172
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49:30
Breaking the Barrier to Change: Overcoming the Righting Reflex in Coaching
In this episode, we dive into one of the biggest obstacles coaches face when helping clients navigate change—the righting reflex. The instinct to "fix" or "correct" can create resistance, damage trust, and ultimately slow down the process of ch...
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Episode 172
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47:23
Climbing the Hill: The Science and Strategy Behind Lasting Behavior Change
How does lasting behavior change happen, and where’s the evidence to support it? In this episode, we break down the science of behavior change using the analogy of climbing a hill—because like any steep climb, the journey to change is hard, but...
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Episode 171
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28:08
Mastering Communication and Creativity with John Hardy
In this episode of The Self Help Antidote, I chat down with my long time friend and collaborator, John Hardy, the Managing Director and Founder of FASTER Health and Fitness Limited. John is not only revolutionizing the fitness industry...
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Episode 170
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55:47
Boundaries & Burnt Toast: Reclaiming Joy in a World That Wants to Eat You Alive
In this episode of The Self Help Antidote, Tiff and I dive into a topic that’s as essential as your morning coffee—setting boundaries. But let’s be real, it’s easier said than done, especially when your brain has been hardwired by a ch...
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Episode 169
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50:49
Are your Opinions Valuable? An Exploration into our Basic Needs, Motivations and Chocolate
In this episode of "The Self Help Antidote," we're diving into the nuanced difference between opinions and beliefs. Sure, everyone has an opinion, but a belief? That’s a whole different ball game. And to illustrate just how wide that gap can be...
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Episode 168
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26:16
Empathy in Action: The Nine Keys of Influence
In this episode of The Self Help Antidote, we delve into the art of communication by exploring the 9 essential keys that unlock genuine influence. Unlike common misconceptions, persuasion isn't about manipulating others; it's about empat...
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Episode 167
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39:34
Leading Wellbeing: Transforming Work Culture and Performance
In this episode of "The Self Help Antidote," we dive deep into the critical role leaders play in fostering team wellness and the remarkable impact it has on overall performance. Our objective is to understand how leaders can set the tone for a ...
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Episode 166
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42:43
Hilariously Complex: A Survival Guide for Navigating Stress, Work and Life Like a Cat Herding Juggler
Let's be real: the only time we'll be completely stress-free is when we're done and dusted, pushing up daisies, or whatever euphemism you prefer for the great beyond. Stress is part of the contract we signed when we decided to exist. Ok, maybe ...
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Episode 165
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1:02:48
Don't Try: How the Hustle Culture May be Killing Your Creativity
Welcome to our hustle-busting episode of "The Self-Help Antidote"! This week, Tiffanee Cook is back (wow I have missed her)! And we're blowing the lid off the age-old mantra of "try harder, work harder." Spoiler alert: it's not always the...
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Episode 164
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52:50
Revealing the Facts: 6 Misconceptions About Behavior Change
Despite the enormous body of information on behavior change, many people find changing unwanted behaviors—whether around weight loss, work, or relationships—to be among the most frustrating and elusive struggles in their lives. The National Ins...
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Episode 163
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55:16
Becoming a Highly Effective Leader: The Transformative Power of Coaching
In this episode, we delve into the world of leadership coaching, exploring the evidence-based theories that underpin its effectiveness. Coaching is a powerful tool for personal and professional development, leveraging psychological and social d...
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Episode 162
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54:05
Q&A: How Can Emotional Intelligence Improve the Quality of Your Relationships, and Work Performance?
Welcome to episode 160 of the Self Help Antidote, where we dive deep into the transformative power of emotional intelligence and its profound impact on both personal relationships and career performance. For this episode I decided to do a Q&...
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Episode 161
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42:40
Burnout: Understanding, Coping, and Preventing the Epidemic with Dr. Cam McDonald
In this insightful episode, we dive deep into the complex and multifaceted world of burnout with our esteemed guest, Dr. Cam McDonald. Cam is a leader, educator, PhD scholar, and internationally recognized speaker on personalized health. As a k...
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Episode 160
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1:06:47
Micro Dosing Movement: Strategies for Winning at the Game of Life
In this enlightening episode, I have a chat with my old friend and colleague, John Sinclair about one of the most powerful, yet under appreciated aspects of success and fulfillment, movement. John is a renowned expert in movement a...
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Episode 159
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52:58
The Power of Thought: Unleashing Critical Thinking as an Antidote of Manipulation and Deception
Welcome, to a special episode of The Self Help Antidote, where we take you behind the velvet curtain of the most enchanting, bewildering show on Earth—the 'Problem-Reaction-Solution' spectacle. Imagine, if you will, a stage where the problems a...
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Episode 158
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18:35
Thriving Beyond Survival: Dr. Jon Marion on the Biocultural Path to Fulfillment
In this captivating episode of the Self Help Antidote, we're thrilled to welcome Dr. Jon Marion, a distinguished expert with a PhD in psychological anthropology, a former instructor at the Somatic School in London, and a past chapter president ...
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Episode 157
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48:25
The Fine Line: When Love and Generosity Becomes Self-Abandonment
Alright, here we go, strap in! She's back! This episode, me and Tiffanee Cook, we're going headfirst, I mean, like diving into a pool with no water, into some seriously personal stuff. You know, the kind that makes you go, "...
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Episode 156
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47:55
Do we Really Have Free Will? Perspectives from Neuroscience and Philosophy
In this thought-provoking episode of "The Self Help Antidote," we delve into the contentious and complex debate over human free will. We explore the philosophical underpinnings of free will, as traditionally espoused by thinkers like Descartes,...
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Episode 155
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1:00:01
The Art of Self-Mastery in Overcoming Burnout
In this insightful episode, I'm honored to have an extraordinary guest, my wife, Aimiende Negbenebor Sela, an award-winning filmmaker known for her deep and poignant storytellingTogether, we explore something that people seem to be expe...
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Episode 154
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40:18
What's Really Possible? How Intentional Acts of Kindness can Transform our Lives
Welcome back to the first episode of the year, with Alan Questel. Alan is a renown Feldenkrais practitioner, teacher and author. I found my conversation with him to be both enjoyable and deeply fascinating. I loved where the c...
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Episode 153
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1:01:22
Necessary Death: How horror films can teach us about ourselves, and be a medium for growth and healing.
This was such a fascinating conversation. I had a chance to speak with the authors of the book "Necessary Death", Chris Gross and Preston Fassel. These guys take a truly unique approach to growth, resilience, healing and trans...
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Episode 152
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55:33
Growth Leadership: 7 lessons I've Learned from the Best Bosses I've Had
In this episode, we (my lovely wife Aimi and I) dive into the invaluable insights I've gained from the most inspiring leaders I've had the privilege to work under. These lessons aren't just theories; they're tried-and-true practices that have p...
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Episode 151
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41:39