The world feels chaotic right now. Here is how I am maintaining my peace amidst the chaos. My email: gerdungmelinda@gmail.com

In this episode, I give a hack to dramatically reduce the effort required in mind management. If you want to learn even more about this topic, this book is a great resource:

Trust can be a complicated thing for survivors of abuse. In this episode, I describe how I personally have navigated this issue and how I've found it possible to trust people, including a romantic partner. Link to rat study:

We all end up facing things we didn't want. This episode is all about staying in your power when that happens. Option B by Sheryl Sandberg

In this episode I address why you can't have a true relationship with a narcissist. I also give a technique I use when I have to deal with people with narcissistic tendencies and am not able to completely avoid them. 

A real life example/template for dealing with your own shit. 

We don't always choose the circumstances we find ourselves in, but in this episode we talk about how to avoid heaping suffering on top of bad situations. 

An honest conversation about mental health and the things that I have found helpful in dealing with chronic anxiety. 

Outsourcing the validation of your experiences to other people can fuck you up. This episode talks about how to give yourself the validation you crave. 

Why focusing on yourself is not only not selfish, but also benefits everyone around you. 

This episode dives into a thinking trap that gets people stuck and prevents them from healing and how you can avoid this trap. 

This episode talks about what a relationship post-mortem is and how to successfully conduct one that will leave you better. 

This episode talks about the neuroscience behind getting triggered and covers a technique to break yourself out of a triggered state. 

This episode talks about the most important work you can do to feel better after leaving a toxic relationship. What we all discover upon leaving is that you don't bounce back to being a happy person again. It takes work to get to that place aga...

This episode talks about regret free decision making and moving past fear based decisions. 

Some reminders about the nature of the ups and downs in life. This book called

The way your ex treated you had nothing to do with you. It was all a reflection of their own internal shit. This episode dives into this.

This episode contains the reminder that I have to keep giving to myself in my own healing journey. May it also help you in yours. 

I don't like condensing something as complex as healing into something trite like a "Top 3 Steps", but if you had to focus your efforts on something, these are the top 3 things I would recommend for healing from a toxic relationship. 

A couple of techniques to try when you feel haunted by the past. 

When I got out of my marriage, I thought I was broken. I was wrong. And this is why. 

A tip in order to maintain your sanity if you have to co-parent with a toxic ex. 

The key to no longer having your own mood or well-being influenced by other people's. 

The key to eliminating unnecessary suffering in your life. 

Why learning to communicate in a direct manner will protect you from being in toxic relationships.