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EP.88 - Simrit & Harjot - PART II - "You're A Team & This Is Your Home"
Part Two of a Three-Part Series: Newlyweds and Their First Year Together as a Married Couple
In this series, we are following a couple's journey through their first year of marriage. The first year can be incredibly challenging, even for couples who have been together for a long time before getting married. The wedding often takes precedence over the marriage, leaving couples to navigate a myriad of emotions and transitions afterward. From dealing with the expectations of family members to figuring out life as a married couple, the first year is a period of significant adjustment.
Part 1 Recap: The First Year Check-Ins
In Part 1, we explored the initial months following the wedding. Our newlyweds, Simrit and Harjot, shared their experiences about the excitement and challenges they faced. We discussed their key lessons about marriage, evolving expectations, and how they navigated unexpected struggles. The couple also touched on cultural pressures, building a home together, and the transition from living separately to moving in together.
Part 2: Deeper into the Transition
Today, we are welcoming back Simrit and Harjot, our newlyweds from EP: 60, "You Need to Be Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable." We're excited to continue our journey with them and focus more on just how that transition is coming along. One of the key themes we'll be exploring today is the importance of starting with each other first when making decisions and navigating life together.
Key Topics in Part 2
Accountability of Time: Finding the balance between getting things done and slowing down to prioritize connection.
Mental Health and Marriage: How anxiety and mental health struggles have played a role in their first year of marriage.
Difference Between a Roommate and a Marriage: Understanding the unique dynamics and expectations that come with being married compared to just living together.
Intimacy and Stress Affecting Intimacy: Navigating the balance between love and desire while managing stress and maintaining passion.
Notable Quotes from Simrit and Harjot
"If you're not changing, you're stuck."
"What your partner wants or once wanted is going to change."
"It's not fair to her to not know what is going on with me."
"We are the most vulnerable when we are with each other."
"If you're apologizing, mean it, and learn from it."
"With change, there is going to be some friction."
"Is this a time for me to listen or a time for me to talk?"
Stay tuned as we dive deeper into these topics and more in Part 2 of our series. We'll explore how Simrit and Harjot are navigating the ups and downs of their first year of marriage, balancing their individual needs with their partnership, and continuing to grow together through the inevitable changes that life brings.
If you like what you hear please click on "subscribe" or "follow" - It's free and you will get notified when the newest episodes are posted! Check us out on Instagram and X @mfupodcast. Give feedback, middle finger recommendations as well as random thoughts to info@mfupodcast.com. Thank you for listening!
In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.
Part Two of a Three-Part Series: Newlyweds and Their First Year Together as a Married Couple
In this series, we are following a couple's journey through their first year of marriage. The first year can be incredibly challenging, even for couples who have been together for a long time before getting married. The wedding often takes precedence over the marriage, leaving couples to navigate a myriad of emotions and transitions afterward. From dealing with the expectations of family members to figuring out life as a married couple, the first year is a period of significant adjustment.
Part 1 Recap: The First Year Check-Ins
In Part 1, we explored the initial months following the wedding. Our newlyweds, Simrit and Harjot, shared their experiences about the excitement and challenges they faced. We discussed their key lessons about marriage, evolving expectations, and how they navigated unexpected struggles. The couple also touched on cultural pressures, building a home together, and the transition from living separately to moving in together.
Part 2: Deeper into the Transition
Today, we are welcoming back Simrit and Harjot, our newlyweds from EP: 60, "You Need to Be Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable." We're excited to continue our journey with them and focus more on just how that transition is coming along. One of the key themes we'll be exploring today is the importance of starting with each other first when making decisions and navigating life together.
Key Topics in Part 2
Accountability of Time: Finding the balance between getting things done and slowing down to prioritize connection.
Mental Health and Marriage: How anxiety and mental health struggles have played a role in their first year of marriage.
Difference Between a Roommate and a Marriage: Understanding the unique dynamics and expectations that come with being married compared to just living together.
Intimacy and Stress Affecting Intimacy: Navigating the balance between love and desire while managing stress and maintaining passion.
Notable Quotes from Simrit and Harjot
"If you're not changing, you're stuck."
"What your partner wants or once wanted is going to change."
"It's not fair to her to not know what is going on with me."
"We are the most vulnerable when we are with each other."
"If you're apologizing, mean it, and learn from it."
"With change, there is going to be some friction."
"Is this a time for me to listen or a time for me to talk?"
Stay tuned as we dive deeper into these topics and more in Part 2 of our series. We'll explore how Simrit and Harjot are navigating the ups and downs of their first year of marriage, balancing their individual needs with their partnership, and continuing to grow together through the inevitable changes that life brings.
If you like what you hear please click on "subscribe" or "follow" - It's free and you will get notified when the newest episodes are posted! Check us out on Instagram and X @mfupodcast. Give feedback, middle finger recommendations as well as random thoughts to info@mfupodcast.com. Thank you for listening!
In the spirit of reconciliation, we acknowledge that we live, work and play on the traditional territories of the Blackfoot Confederacy (Siksika, Kainai, Piikani), the Tsuut’ina, the Îyâxe Nakoda Nations, the Métis Nation (Region 3), and all people who make their homes in the Treaty 7 region of Southern Alberta.