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Let That Shift Go
Think and Shift Rich ! Beyond Money Mindset to a Life of Abundant Possibilities
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Ever wondered how financial intelligence can reshape your life? Join us, Noel and Lena, as we guide you through a transformative journey of self-discovery and mastery over the art of conversation. Our latest episode is a trove of insights starting with a thought-provoking exercise from Skin Deep cards that urges us to self-reflect on our communication patterns. We peel back the layers of family dynamics and their influence on our proactive behavior, embarking on a deep dive into the enduring wisdom of Napoleon Hill's "Think and Grow Rich." Our discussion is a blend of personal revelations and actionable strategies that promise to enlighten you on the path to financial and self-awareness.
Harness the undeniable power of desire and faith with tales of childhood dreams and the relentless pursuit of a flight nurse career, as we illustrate the formidable impact of having a burning ambition. Our conversation underscores the importance of perceiving setbacks as opportunities and keeping your vision unclouded by fear. With our special guest adding depth to the dialogue, we reveal how cultivating a positive self-talk regimen and fostering unshakable belief can carve out the road to your success.
Wrapping things up, we probe the collective genius of masterminding and the pivotal role it plays in personal and professional triumphs. Grasp the concept of wealth consciousness that extends far beyond your bank account and into the fabric of a fulfilling life. We invite you to absorb the energy of our episode, where we, alongside our esteemed guest, provide the toolkit for aligning your subconscious beliefs with your grandest goals. Step into a life abundant with possibilities, as we share knowledge that inspires action toward an enriched existence.
Hello and welcome to the Let that Shift Go podcast. I'm Noel.
Speaker 2And I'm Lina.
Speaker 1And this is where we talk about the good, the bad and all the shift in between.
Speaker 2We just talk mad shift.
Speaker 1Let's get into it, and on this week's episode, episode episode we're talking about shifting money.
Speaker 2Yeah, do you want to shift money?
Speaker 1Yeah, but before we get into that, let's do these skin deep cards. And you want to go first?
Speaker 2I'll go first. Yeah, go ahead. What is the most important thing? You didn't do that you should have done.
Speaker 1What is the most important thing I didn't do that I should have done? That you should have done? What is the most important thing I didn't do that I should have done? Wow, that's a hard question. What is the most important thing that I didn't do? I guess, listen, two ears, one mouth, you know. Yeah. I spent so much time talking and trying to convince myself I was right. Yeah, I didn't spend a lot of time listening like active listening to people.
Speaker 2Yeah, that's a learned skill. I think, yeah, deep listening.
Speaker 1Yeah, I found my like. More recently, I've found myself reflecting on how I just made excuses for everything I did. Oh, you know that takes a lot of talking. We talked a little bit about that last episode, you know. Yeah. So, yeah, probably not listening sooner.
Speaker 2That's a big shift.
Speaker 1Yeah, All right. Your question is how am I most like you and how does that scare you?
Speaker 2How am I most like you, and how does that scare you?
Speaker 3I would say, in the past we were most alike in our level of sarcasm.
Speaker 1How does that scare you?
Speaker 2Man, I don't well gosh. I don't know that it scared me, except that it could go on forever, Like we could just keep going back and forth, back and forth. And you know that. Now I've learned that sarcasm is anger yeah. And so I think we had prided ourselves on being so good at who's more sarcastic or who's more witty or who could like come up with the thing first. Yeah, that, actually that wasn't really a good thing.
Speaker 1No, and I can't figure out if it made me harder or you know less, I don't know affected by other people's, you know, outsiders it was like an armor. Yeah, because I think, like our family talks so much shit that when other people talk shit to me I was like that's all you got. My sister talks game way more than you. Yeah, yeah, yeah and now.
Speaker 2I yeah, after realizing it is it's a more than you. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Now I yeah, after realizing it is. It's a form of anger. Yeah. It's like you know, it's not necessarily something I'm proud of, but I would say that that's now, that's not really a thing. I think in the past that's really. That was probably it, yeah. Where we're most alike.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2Yeah, Because other ways are almost like. Don't scare me.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2No, like we're both very driven, we're very like out in front and those things don't scare me.
Speaker 1Well, one thing I would say is like. One thing that would be the same for me if I hadn't answered that question would be that what scares me is that me and you are always the first to do something. Oh, yeah, you know. Yeah, me and you are always the first to do something. Oh, yeah, you know. Yeah, true. How are we the same? We're the first ones like I'll do it.
Speaker 2Yeah, I'll jump in the pool. I don't know if there's water, but let's go. Let's go see.
Speaker 1Yeah, I'm less likely to do that now, just more risk adverse. So yeah, all right. Well, let's get into this book. It's a book called Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. It's a very oldie but goodie.
Speaker 2It is a very oldie but goodie and this one was one of those books that really excited me. I'm kind of upset that it took me so long to read it. Yeah, it was recommended to me a lot of times. I read it first because you told me after I think, yeah, years ago, this one, though after reading it really from a conscious perspective. Yeah, okay, because it's different when you read anything from a more aware perspective, where you're just a little bit more like I don't know awake and aware of how the world works and how you work. It hit a little harder to home and actually it's one of those books that I would have made my kids read before they left high school.
Speaker 1That's actually in the book. Yeah, he wishes it's part of the curriculum. The curriculum, yeah, curriculum.
Speaker 2Like this and how to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. That one I did make my kids read because it's very about emotional intelligence. This is about really financial intelligence and not just about financial. It's about like self-awareness on so many levels.
Speaker 1Yeah, it's a different way of thinking about things, positive thinking it is.
Speaker 2It's really simple stuff, but you realize how powerful it is once you become a little bit more aware and you're like, yeah, actually this is all truth. Once you become a little bit more aware and you're like, yeah, actually this is all truth and a lot of it. It is very old information. It was used by our forefathers.
Speaker 1Yeah, back in the 20s, 1917 or 1920, something like that.
Speaker 2Yeah, it's a very influential book and the principles still apply, so it's one that I definitely recommend to people. Nowadays, I'm like, hey, if you read this book, or you read this book, I bought it for my kids and have you know, kind of asked them to please read it. It's just good stuff.
Speaker 1I'm surprised on how conscious they are back then.
Speaker 2Yeah Well, the principles are the same. They still hold true. So it's like there's all these key concepts in the book, right, how you can apply them to achieve success, and actually all of these things really apply in various aspects of your life. It's not just about money. I don't feel like the book is just about money.
Speaker 1No.
Speaker 2I think it's about anything. It's about abundance in all areas. And in the beginning of the book they say we're not going to tell you what the secret is. You are going to realize what it is on your own.
Speaker 1Yeah, In one of the chapters you may pull the secret as you're listening.
Speaker 2Yeah, and so that kind of made it like a mystery, like ooh, I wonder if it's this, and immediately I did have a suspicion on what it is, or maybe what it is to me and the thing for me that I think it is.
Speaker 1Is that, whatever you think, you're right? Yeah, we've heard that before.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, whatever you think, you're right. So if you think money works this way, then you're right. It does. You think you're in scarcity? You're right, you are. You think things never work out for you? You're absolutely right. But if you think differently, then everything can change, everything can shift.
Speaker 1Because you start to pull those things toward you.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah. So I think what would be good is we'll go through some of the key points in the book. The highlight the main themes, because the book there's so much in it but there's some things I'd like to discuss a little bit deeper. The first one is about the power of desire. Yeah. So, really, the concept of having a burning desire for a success, yeah, like you're totally obsessed with it.
Speaker 1That kind of burning desire, yeah.
Speaker 2Like, no matter what I'm going to do this, it's like a fire in my belly to do it.
Speaker 1You're convinced and you're devoted, and there's no doubt in you. Yeah, that's the key. That is actually the most important part right?
Speaker 2I think so, because everything starts, it's eros, it's the desire for something. Nothing has ever become a thing like a building or any kind of dream has never been fulfilled unless it started as a dream, unless it started as a desire. Something you wanted, something somebody wanted. Everything you have is because somebody wanted it to be real.
Speaker 1Well, I look back at me and Ralph and how we were best friends since we were like nine years old, but we always kind of competed with each other with things like quads or jet skis, and he'd get one, I'd get one, but we worked for it.
Speaker 1We didn't have wealthy parents. We just kind of hustled and did side jobs. But you wanted it, we wanted it. And so we're sitting around one day and we're watching this neighborhood dad load up a trailer full of three-wheelers and dune buggies and we're just sitting across the street just watching him like man. I wish I could just sit on one of those things.
Speaker 1And he was one of our friends, one of the girls in our neighborhood. It was her dad. So we didn't, you know, because it's a girl and she was younger than us, we didn't really know her. And we knew her, but we didn't hang out with her and he was like, hey, what are you guys doing? Instead of just watching, why don't you get over here and help me? And so he kind of started that and then we started he's like well, if you need help getting something like this, I can give you a loan, or you just come work for me and I'll. What do you want? He took us to go get the dang things and all that stuff. But why? I say that? Is because it was a driver for us and me and Ralph we just decided, oh, I want this. How can I?
Speaker 1Yeah, absolutely, and so that just set us on the path. He gave us the confidence that we could do it. Yeah. And he made it seem like it was absolutely attainable. So we thought, okay.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah. So we fully believed. If it's possible for him, it's possible for me yeah. And how nice of him to be able to say yeah, if you want it, you can go and get it, you can work for it. I, I can help you. But that's where it starts. Is with this, like want. Yeah, this desire.
Speaker 2Yeah, being able to see something and saying I want to do that and I know for me it was you know, becoming a flight nurse was one of the things. Right, I would see the flight team come in and I'm like I want to do that. And it was like this deep burning thing that would happen every time I would see them come in and then it was like, at all costs, I will make this happen. It never occurred to me that I couldn't.
Speaker 1Yeah, it was like no, that's-. It's a conviction that you needed to-.
Speaker 2Deep deep conviction and no matter what. If somebody said, well, you're not going to be able to do it because of this, I'm like hmm.
Speaker 1I bet you the listeners, there's several things within their own lives that they can question and go. Yeah, you know what, when I really put my mind, they say it right, you put your mind to anything, it can be done, but the key to that is in this book.
Speaker 2Yeah, it's recognizing that that deep desire is so valuable and one of the main things, to really determine what it is that you want and really thinking at all costs. I will make this happen, you know, in the frame of being integrous, of course, but, like you know, just having that want and then going for it. Yeah. Not even letting it occur to you that it won't happen, Because that's when you start to. You know, kill it. Fear kills more dreams than anything else.
Speaker 1So when you made that decision, did things start to happen, Absolutely. What did you notice? That was like oh, I made it. Was it clear to you that you had made that decision or not?
Speaker 2at the time. No, it was definitely clear to me I had made that decision. And then, and then, over and over, there was an opportunity that would present itself to me to take another step forward. But I had to take a lot of steps forward to be like how do I become competitive for this job? How do I put myself in the best position to do that? Well then, I had to go work somewhere else and get another set of skills and really planning for when I went in for my interview I would know I'd have this, this and this, and this would give me an edge over the competition you know, because it was a very competitive job to get and so I set myself up for that.
Speaker 2But I did the hard things. I had to go take a job that was much further away, that was outside of way, outside of my comfort zone. At that time I really was not comfortable doing pediatrics because we didn't do a lot of pediatrics at my hospital, and I thought, well, this will set me apart if I go and just immerse myself in pediatric trauma, which is scary, yeah, right. So I had to go do that and then go do transport and work my regular job and do all this stuff. But just to put myself in that position, and the first time I went in I didn't get the job and it was crushing and I thought maybe I'm not for this and I thought, nope, that's not the answer.
Speaker 2I'm just going to keep going yeah, and then I did and thank God I didn't get a job where I wanted to, but I thought I wanted to because I ended up in a place I really loved being so you got to create. I got to create create a space I got to create. Yeah, so that power of desire is everything. So really figuring out what is it you really want and letting that just start this fire inside of you is going to be the main thing.
Speaker 1Yeah, I think we share that, where we just put our mind to something and then we just keep going.
Speaker 2Yeah, your mind is so powerful.
Speaker 1Well, when I switched over and I left my property management job and then I decided I was going to do real estate and start a business, I started doing pools, but just as like a side thing, until I got my real estate thing going and then the market crashed and all this stuff, and I thought I really got to take this pool stuff serious because I got to pay a mortgage. So I was just like you know what? I'm going to make this pool, I'm going to become a big pool company in San Diego. And I thought, how am I going to do this pool? But I'm going to become a big pool company in San Diego. And I thought, how am I going to do this?
Speaker 1And it just happened that I met with somebody. I ran into one of the district managers of a local distribution place in San Diego and had dinner with him at a convention that we were at and just had some conversation and he just mentioned hey, are you looking for more work? And that was the start to just me expanding. I never bought another pool since and I have over 300 now. So it's like it just blew up because I was like well, I got to make this go. And then, sure enough, something fell into my lap because I was just focused on it.
Speaker 2Yep, yep. Where your attention goes, that's where the magic can happen.
The Power of Faith and Belief
Speaker 1Yeah, and each of you listening. If you ask yourself that same question, I'm sure you'll see some.
Speaker 2The next one is the importance of faith. So what's the role of faith and belief in achieving goals for you? What do you think?
Speaker 1The role. Just maintaining, I mean, and staying on the path, because sometimes the obstruction or the thing that's in the way is the path.
Speaker 2Yeah, it is, it absolutely is. But when you have absolute faith that you can make anything happen, then you're unstoppable.
Speaker 1Yeah, but not everybody has that, so how do you get to that? Spot I find, like mom would say, I'm not conceited, I'm just convinced, Like I mean, it's weird because in a lot of ways, even through therapy, I see how I doubt myself in so many ways. So outwardly I'm very confident, I'm very structured, I'm out that way, but internally I'm very confident, I'm very structured, I'm out that way, but internally I'm questioning everything.
Speaker 2Well, I mean, for me faith now really goes back to the belief. Like universal law, you know that whatever you put your mind to you can make happen, like I have faith in that. If it's for me, it will be, and so just that belief, that deep faith fits for me it will be, and so just that belief that deep faith that that is true.
Speaker 2It drives me forward. So when I hear a no, I'm like nope. My desire is still there. I know that if I do A, b and C and I put my focus there, it will happen. That's faith to me, that what will be for you will be If you put your mind to it, if you strive for it, if you look for the opportunity, it will happen. It's just when.
Speaker 1Yeah, because there's another story in that book that talks about a gold miner who came into some money, got a gold mine. I'm just remembering bits and pieces of it but basically he started this gold mine and got in and hit gold, hit a vein of gold and made a bunch of money and was trying to make more and invested all this money into all this equipment and he lost the vein of gold. So he thought, oh man, he ended up giving up mining that gold and he ended up selling for pennies on the dollar all the rights and all the equipment.
Speaker 1And the guy who bought it decided you know what? I'm going to look into this a little bit further and he did some studies on this and that and he actually found three feet away from where that guy left off, he struck the biggest gold mine.
Speaker 2So three feet from gold.
Speaker 1And that guy ever since then remembered that lesson, that he should not have given up on his dream. And he ended up being successful in other ways afterwards, but that was a big lesson for him not to give up.
Speaker 2Like to never give up again.
Speaker 1And I think that's the faith part. Yeah, believing in yourself that you can do it.
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, the other. So the next one is power of auto-suggestion.
Speaker 1What is that?
Speaker 2So really like you know, kind of talking yourself into it you know constantly saying to yourself like this, this, it's getting better and better. Positive talk yeah, positive talk, like it. This it's not woo Okay, like mantra and being able to. You know, like For me I would put things on my.
Speaker 2I'd put sticky notes on my mirror and I would put those things on there that was reminding me of where I was going and really telling, affirming for me, even when I didn't think it. Maybe sometimes If I would read it, if I would put it in my purview, if I would keep my focus and tension on the positive suggestion that these things were happening and these things were coming, were definitely very powerful. Yeah.
Speaker 2And the other thing was always looking for why it was working out. Because a lot of times what we do is we get down on ourselves and we say yeah, it's not working out, and then your brain affirms all the way it's not if that's what you're looking for. But if you start looking for the one way, it did, like, oh, I made a connection with so-and-so, and like, for me, I got, you know, a day to go to the base and be able to be an observer you know, and it's like, oh look, that worked out, this worked out.
Speaker 2At least I scored an interview, whatever it was. So if you were constantly focusing on the way it was working out, that actually just brought more Instead of what wasn't working out. Yeah, because your mind, then, is looking for the ways it is Because, whatever you're saying or thinking, your mind wants to affirm it. So you really got to look at what are you saying.
Speaker 1Yeah, because we talked about before like 80% of thoughts are negative. We have six to 8,000 thoughts per day and 80% of them are negative, 95% of them are looping and only 5% are from new information. So you can get stuck in like a trance of rumination and you get stuck there and this is what we're talking about is bringing yourself out of that, because that's the natural cause or natural way that we live is in the negative space. So it's slowly changing the little ways that we talk to ourselves and being more positive about that is.
Speaker 2Yeah, they call it the self-administered stimuli.
Speaker 1Self-administered stimuli yeah, oh, a little medicine for yourself, yeah yeah, self-administered stimuli. Self-administered stimuli yeah, a little medicine for yourself. Yeah, yeah, self-administered stimuli Is there something that you say to yourself or do for yourself, or it just depends on what you're trying to achieve.
Speaker 2You know, one thing is I try to, when I can feel myself kind of getting into like a negative loop, is I'll say it's getting better and better, because then I'm looking for ways that it is constantly the other thing even when you were talking about how we get stuck in a rumination of thought or a loop of thought is that is really the time also when, if you do have a practice of meditation and just coming back to a center and just detaching from thoughts at all, so that you, you realize wait, I'm getting lost in my I'm ruining it, but it's not about like not having any thoughts.
Speaker 1No, it's detaching from them.
Speaker 2It's detaching from them, it's becoming the observer.
Speaker 1Stepping back away from yeah.
Speaker 2Becoming the observer of the thoughts We've talked about. The observer all the time I'm telling you that is a superpower is to be able to become observer of what's happening in a situation where you're with someone, you're in conversation, or even when you're just you're going into meditation and you're just in conversation with yourself, is being able to observe that that's happening and coming back to a center point, because then you can say here I am, I'm ruminating or I'm caught in a loop. Let me shift that, let me disrupt that and give myself a self-administered new thought you know, or a programming.
Speaker 2So I think that is a very, very powerful.
Speaker 1And maybe changing what you say all the time, like things happen for me, not to me.
Speaker 2Yes, how is this happening for me? And you know, when something isn't working out that it was in your plan right, we get so focused on the how. Sometimes, too, that's a little tough. But if something doesn't, is to know trust that that may be protection. Whatever didn't go according to what you wanted it to at that moment to get you to that goal, that might be protection, and you won't know it until you have some hindsight later on. But that's part of the faith. That's just really trusting that if it's-.
Speaker 1You come circle back to faith, yeah.
Speaker 2Yeah, it's gonna happen for you, if that's what's meant for you and you have this strong, burning desire. There's a reason for that desire. I think desire is also your higher selves, already knowing that this is where you're going, and it stimulates something inside of you that's pulling you towards the thing that you were going to be doing anyway, self-administered stimuli. Yeah. The next one, which we've talked about before, is the mastermind principle. Yeah, and that goes back to you, are the five people you surround yourself with?
Speaker 1Yeah, I like this because it's giving you we do it kind of me, you and Armando kind of like our little executive meetings, we call it, where we sit together and we just talk about things and really bounce ideas off of each other. And it helps tremendously with my mental health and my awareness to kind of, you know, move things and talk about things and ideas and things, not just hard things, but ideas and things that we're doing in business and trying to, you know, move forward with our projects.
Masterminding for Success and Purpose
Speaker 2Yeah, and the other, you know, along with this mastermind principle right For me, if I think about when I was going to do flight or when I'm doing what I'm doing now, I want to surround myself with people who probably are already doing it. I want to surround myself with people who probably are already doing it right, or people who are better at something than I am in whatever it is that's going to get us all to where we're going. So you kind of share your gifts with everyone. Like maybe you know someone who's really great at marketing or you know someone who's really great at writing copy or something, but you're not. You don't have to be good at all those things.
Speaker 1Yeah, you gotta hire your weakness.
Speaker 2You gotta be able to surround yourself, then, with people who are, or people who can encourage you on the road that you're going.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2So that mastermind principle, I think, is really important. I don't think you get anywhere without the help of others. I mean, there's this whole concept of self-made. Really, that's one of the things they talk about is there's no self-made. There's always help along the way. And if you're trying to be self-made and you're like I can do it myself, that's a trauma response. But anyway is to know to say, hey, who do I know that could do this better than me? How?
Speaker 1do I, you know, ask them? Yeah, because there's been plenty. Well, not plenty, but there's been several occasions in my careers that I've been offered opportunity to collaborate with somebody else and I always turned it down, and they were better at different things than I was, but I was still not willing to let go of control. You think that's ego?
Speaker 2Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1And now it's. It's more clear now that collaborating with others in places where you're weak, this is how you succeed, because nobody like you said I can do it, I can do it, just let me do it, I'll figure it out. Yeah, maybe you will, but in a mastermind community of people, it's much simpler to converse with people who are thinking at the same level or on higher levels.
Speaker 1Yeah, with people who are thinking at the same level or on higher levels and being invited into a place where I've had plenty of occasions where I've been speaking with people that are much higher levels than I am, and I learned so much just from listening to them.
Speaker 2Yeah, and I think you know, really, if you think about people who are very high achieving, who are at that level of probably mastermind and above, is if you were to go to them and say, hey, I want to learn from you. I know that this is important for me. To be able to grow is to surround myself with people who are doing exactly what I want to do. What do you think about collaborating with me? Or can I ask you some questions? And people who are at that level have already done it. They know that this is a principle. They know that masterminding is a way to elevate yourself, elevate the people around you, and to think and grow rich.
Speaker 2So this is not going to be a concept that's new to people who have grasped this level of success in whatever it is that they're trying to achieve. So, yeah, don't be afraid to ask. Let your ego, kind of you know, sit by the side and learn something from the people around you. And if you don't know who they are, then find them. Yeah, you know, go out and find them. If you're sitting around with the people who are commiserating and aren't doing anything, well then that's where you're going. There's you're not going to be able to kind of peel yourself out of that yeah you.
Speaker 2You know, so that I love that. And if you look around now like coaching and things like that, that's about masterminding as well, you know. Yeah. Which is why it's such an important piece really to have that a mentor, yeah, To have mentorship, yeah, yeah. So the other one is persistence and the power of definiteness and purpose, which I think that goes back to kind of the desire and faith you know, in some way.
Speaker 1Well, some people don't know what their purpose is or what they want to do specifically, so it may be hard to go oh, I want to do this. Maybe they don't know exactly what they want to do, but it really works, not only just for your purpose, but anything. What would you? Say Start with small tasks, like you say, with other things, right.
Speaker 2Well, what would you say if somebody, if you had to figure out, well, what's my purpose? What would be the way that you would suggest somebody would find out what their purpose is?
Speaker 1Well, I've read in past is like okay, are there ways that you get lost doing something for hours and when you look up you're like, oh my God, I can't believe the time passed. That's something, that is something you have joy in, you're completely focused in, or if you didn't have bills and you didn't have a worry of money?
Speaker 1what would you do with your time, those types of things? I mean, there's a bunch of books on that topic of finding your purpose, but those are some of the general ones but not easy to do. No, and I think even for me my purpose has changed several times. I think it does. I think it must in some ways, you know.
Speaker 2Well, and I think you know, when we're younger too, we're kind of told what our purpose is, or what it should be, and then we try to fulfill these roles that other people have put out for us.
Speaker 1Legacy burdens.
Speaker 2Legacy burdens, legacy burdens, yeah. And so at some point you kind of figure out like all right, I did that and it still doesn't feel good. Okay, so then, really going back to what your purpose is, like you said, is, what do you lose time in doing?
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2And that you have a natural inclination to do yeah, that, sometimes asking the people around you who are with you consistently and asking, like, what do you think my purpose is, or what do you see that I strive in?
Speaker 1Yeah, that's something too, asking other people.
Speaker 2Because sometimes they're more observant of what you naturally do without you being aware of it.
Speaker 1Yeah, like asking a few of your close friends or family members who you being aware of it. Yeah, like what? Asking a few of your close friends or family members?
Speaker 2Who you like and like you.
Speaker 1Yeah, that is key. I think somebody that likes you.
Speaker 2What are you so good at that? You just shine at that. Maybe other people don't.
Speaker 1Well, you're going to know your people, you mean, not everybody has five or six people, maybe just one or two, or if you're lucky, you know that you have somebody. You have somebody you can ask, but maybe a boss or a coworker. It's a vulnerable question to ask, though.
Speaker 2It is. But I mean, if you need that outside kind of input because you're not sure, that's a good place to start, I think for me I've gotten to the place now where I feel pretty definite in my purpose. But that has really come back from the feedback of others to me when I'm doing something and like if I'm, you know, helping a client, you know through coaching or breath work, and I feel this immense joy that feels like it's going to explode out of my body. That that's when I go. Oh yeah, this is. I came here for this this feeling of helping, this feeling of serving in this specific way, and it doesn't feel hard for me, it feels natural, it feels effortless, it doesn't feel like work.
Speaker 2I don't feel drained from it.
Speaker 1Yeah, that's a confirmation of your yeah.
Speaker 2There's like a clue like this could be my purpose. It doesn't feel like work, you know, I don't feel drained from it. Yeah, that's a confirmation of your. Yeah. There's like a clue, like you know, this could be my purpose. It doesn't mean that my purpose won't change.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2But this is what feels good, right, and this is leading me in this moment to what my purpose is right now.
Speaker 1Yeah, and there's probably a lot of for me finding my purpose. There was a battle with imposter syndrome. Oh yeah, for sure, because then you need to break out of that shell.
Harnessing Sexual Energy and Subconscious Beliefs
Speaker 2Yeah, oh yeah, that's coming, that's coming in here. This other one Okay, so this one is really was really interesting to me, and this was the transmutation of sexual energy. So it's really talking about how sexual energy can be redirected or harnessed for creative purposes, and one of the really interesting things I found in this book was it said that most people it's really talking about how sexual energy can be redirected or harnessed for creative purposes. One of the really interesting things I found in this book was it said that most people not all, and this might be a little outdated, but I don't know ask yourself is that most people don't find their purpose or become very successful in it until after the age of 40.
Speaker 1Between 40 and 60 is the prime age for finding your purpose, I guess.
Speaker 2Yeah, I thought that was really interesting. It's like why people seldom succeed before 40. And they said that because we often are using a lot of our sexual energy in order to pursue other things like partner ego, our looks or the outward appearance of how we're doing or whatever, and so it's more focused on the ego than on the more self-actualized part of ourselves, and so we're using Sexual energy is extremely powerful energy.
Speaker 1It's the most powerful energy.
Speaker 2It literally has the power to create life. So when you're using all of that sexual energy for the pursuit of sex, let's say, or the pursuit of ego attributes, you're not using that same amount of very powerful energy to create, to push you forward to what you came here to do, and so I thought that was really interesting and true on a lot of levels. So that's where I see, like, okay, if there's people who are using all of their energy just for the ego, how much of it do they have left to really pursue the things that they most desire? Because if all of your desire is focused on this carnal energy, then how much of it do you have left to really pursue purpose?
Speaker 1Yeah, like maybe it's the reason why the drive behind what you're doing before 40. And once you get 40, you become more aware and you start settling into yourself. You get a little more hindsight, you have a conscience and then you start thinking.
Speaker 2And then pretty soon you're using all that energy to be like I'm pushing myself forward towards this thing that I want so much, and maybe it's not just a partner or sex, maybe it's this goal.
Speaker 1I thought I was making better decisions because I'm older. I didn't know. It was because my sexual drive was tapering off and now I have energy to focus. All this energy within me is focused in a more positive way.
Speaker 2Yeah, I mean, to me it's just really there's a lot of talk about sexual energy just being very powerful form of energy, right, Like if you had a 10 volt versus 20 volt. That energy is very powerful for bringing things into the world, literally and figuratively. And so, if you think about how much of your energy do you spend in the pursuit of sex or misusing sexual energy as opposed to using it to propel yourself forward?
Speaker 1What's an example of using it positively?
Speaker 2Being able to really not be constantly in the pursuit of sex itself, but to use that drive. Think about how much energy is available to you as sexual energy when you're with your partner, you're in love or you're all of that and that amount of energy that you could then harness to use for something else. I mean energy is energy, right it's what you're going to use it for it's currency. So if you then redirect it to something that is more purposeful or long lasting, or in the pursuit of self-actualization, say then you're able to go much further.
Speaker 1Well, and you know it's possible, because I'm sure a lot of people have been in a place where they didn't want to talk, they didn't want to go out and they were maybe just totally depressed and somebody that they're sexually attracted to calls and goes. Hey, what are you doing?
Speaker 2Do you want to go out?
Speaker 1Oh, and suddenly you're awake, you're like yes, what time do you need me to be there? And you absolutely-.
Speaker 2Your 3 am booty call and suddenly you're awake that sexual energy.
Speaker 1just flipped a switch. And listen if somebody said, oh, can you go take out the trash?
Speaker 2I don't think I could do that as easy.
Speaker 1I so, with that example alone, you should see.
Speaker 2Yeah, and it translates to desire right, desire for something I like that Desire. Desire is the key, yeah is a very powerful energy, and this last one, I think, is a really important one, and one that I think we work on a lot I work on a lot with clients is the subconscious mind.
Speaker 1The mind-body connection.
Speaker 2Mind-body connection, the subconscious mind, the relationship between the conscious and the subconscious mind, because the subconscious mind contains all of your programming.
Speaker 1When you say programming, that's like what.
Speaker 2Like everything you learned about who you are and how the world works All your fears.
Speaker 2All your fears, all your traumas, all your not enoughness, all your I can do it myself All of that scarcity is in the subconscious. So when you start to become conscious of what is in there, there becomes the opportunity to then start clearing those things, meaning you start really examining wait a minute, it's core beliefs. So, going back to what is my core belief and you really like, just take money, for example. If you grew up in a house where people with money were seen as greedy or sketchy or evil, money's the root of all evil. That is a common saying, right? And if you really believe that subconsciously-.
Speaker 1Yeah, you may believe that you don't deserve nice things.
Speaker 2Yeah. Or why would I want money? Because people with money are bad. So then why would you're not going to, it's not going to stay with you because you subconsciously believe that that would make you a bad person. So it's really becoming aware of what your core beliefs are. And when you start to push your success and you have to push yourself out of your comfort zone, into your imposter syndrome, into whoa wealth is coming to me, I'm uncomfortable. Why is that? Then you start to really have to examine your subconscious, and the beautiful way to do that is through your triggers. Yeah.
Speaker 2And you're going to butt up against a lot of your triggers when you're accumulating wealth and you're having not just the wealth accumulation itself but you having to put yourself out there, you having to be seen, you having to be able to fail, because that's going to trigger all of your wounds. So at that point the work becomes how do I start to tell myself the truth? What is the truth? What do I unconsciously believe and how do I become aware of that? So then I can tell myself a new story. So it's really repatterning and I feel like a lot of the coaching that you see now or the self-help stuff, it all comes back to this one thing. So if you see a lot of the help with like find your soulmate or, you know, realize your best professional goal, it's going to come back to all of your subconscious beliefs and needing to clear them.
Speaker 1Back to source.
Speaker 2It's going to go back to the source and there's the opportunity to start being like wait, that's not true. You know, people who have money are actually. They can be very generous, they can be very nice people, they can be conscious people, so then it might make money stick around a little longer for you if you don't at your core, believe, subconsciously, that that's not true. So it's working through a lot of the pain sometimes or the mistruths that you've been told or you've been. You've been kind of branded with, imprinted with and telling yourself a new story. When it comes to, well, I want to find my soulmate or I want to find love, you're going to butt up against I'm not enough, I'm not worthy, I'm not pretty enough, whatever. Whatever it is.
Speaker 2Then you start to look at the stories. You're telling yourself why do I keep picking this type of partner? Well, were you somebody that was raised in chaos? Because then chaos becomes very comfortable. So the soonest somebody shows up who has no chaos they're just nice and they treat you well you probably become very uncomfortable and push that person away because that's not to you what love is, become very uncomfortable and push that person away because that's not to you what love is. So that's all of this deprogramming, you know, and and kind of making the way for abundance, whether it's in love or in money or success or whatever it is is really becoming aware of what your subconscious mind is telling you. Yeah, yeah, so I don't know. This is this. These are the. For these reasons, yeah, I think everyone should read this book. Yeah, no, I don't know, this is.
Shifting Into Wealth Consciousness
Speaker 2These are the for these reasons yeah, I think everyone should read this book. Yeah, no matter what. It's not just about money.
Speaker 1No, it's a way to kind of live your life. Yeah, it is, it's written about. You know, think and grow rich. But when you read it you'll see that there's tons of more. You know, nuggets of knowledge in there.
Speaker 2Yeah, I tons of more nuggets of knowledge in there. Yeah, I think that they wrote it that way. So because on some level, most people think well, of course I want to be rich, so let me pick this book up. But it's not just about money, it's about everything.
Speaker 1Yeah, and you have to have complete faith in yourself.
Speaker 2You got to start talking to yourself different. You got to become aware of what your programming is or what your unconscious, subconscious beliefs are.
Speaker 1And focusing on the things that are happening good for you rather than focusing on the things that don't.
Speaker 2Yeah, switch it around, shift it, shift it. Shifting into wealth consciousness.
Speaker 1All right, that's been another episode of Let that shift go podcast.
Speaker 2I'm noelle and I'm lena, let us know what your questions are and we'd love to use them on a future episode.