"I was angry that I wasn't angry" Mastering the Art of Self-Awareness

What if you could turn even the most hostile confrontations into opportunities for growth? In this enlightening episode of "Let that Shift Go," Noel and Lena share personal stories and transformative insights that showcase the power of self-awareness and emotional resilience. The episode kicks off with a playful and revealing exchange using Skin Deep cards, where Noel and Lena uncover surprising facts about each other, setting a light-hearted yet introspective tone.

Noel recounts a recent encounter with a confrontational stranger that tested his emotional maturity. Reflecting on his ability to stay calm, Noel recognizes his progress in personal development, with Lena highlighting how his openness to growth has paid off. Together, they dive deep into managing negative energy, inspired by the teachings of BK Shivani. Learn three different approaches to handling verbal insults or negativity—reflecting it back, absorbing it, or transforming it into something positive. This discussion ties into Gabor Mate's "Greenbush" concept, illustrating how our insecurities make us vulnerable to insults and how self-security can keep us grounded.

Finally, we explore mindfulness practices and the wisdom of Don Miguel Ruiz's "The Four Agreements" as tools for healing and self-awareness. By addressing the unseen and unheard parts of ourselves, we can reduce daily triggers and maintain emotional balance. The episode wraps up with the practice of Ho'oponopono, emphasizing its four key phrases as a method for cultivating inner peace and resolution. Embrace the transformative power of love, forgiveness, and gratitude with us, and let's navigate the path to emotional resilience and personal freedom together.

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:06

Hello and welcome to the Let that Shift Go podcast. I'm Noel.

Speaker 2: 0:10

And I'm Lina.

Speaker 1: 0:11

And this is where we talk about the good, the bad and all the shift in between.

Speaker 2: 0:17

We just talk mad shift.

Speaker 1: 0:19

Let's get into it and on this week's episode, when I was angry, that I wasn't angry and I realized that that was a big shift. Yeah, you had to point it out to me, yeah.

Speaker 2: 0:32

I like it.

Speaker 1: 0:33

But before we get into that, let's do these skin deep cards. Okay, you want to go first?

Speaker 2: 0:37

I'll go first.

Speaker 1: 0:38

Okay.

Speaker 2: 0:39

And this is from the friendship one, because we have all of them, so this is a different one. But the question is what would you warn my partner about me?

Speaker 1: 0:51

All sales are final.

Speaker 2: 0:54

No takesie-backsies.

Speaker 1: 0:58

What would I warn your partner about? Gosh, that would be.

Speaker 2: 1:05

Was it just a long list?

Speaker 1: 1:07

No, I just don't know that there would be something that I would really warn, other than like. The first thing that comes to my mind is like she scares easily, like don't, she doesn't like to be surprised she doesn't like to be frightened.

Speaker 2: 1:17

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I can, I can spook. Yeah, I can spook easily. Yeah, yeah I can spook.

Speaker 1: 1:26

Yeah, I can spook easily. Okay, I like that, all right my question is okay, what?

Speaker 2: 1:33

do you think is my best quality that I'm not aware of, best quality that you're not aware of?

Speaker 1: 1:40

That one might be the hard one because people think I'm that you're aware.

Speaker 2: 1:44

Well, I would say it leads right into our podcast today. Okay, because I think that it was something you weren't aware of, I had to point it out. Yeah.

Speaker 2: 1:53

And I would say one of them is your ability and your and your openness to grow and to you know, to that's that's been one of the biggest things for you. I think it's just this openness, willingness to look in in order to grow. And so I think today and we'll talk about it in just a few minutes on how there has been some exponential growth that you weren't aware of, and for me it was like pointing it out to you was like isn't it obvious? But it wasn't.

Speaker 2: 2:22

Yeah, and that was just yeah. Your ability to grow emotionally.

Speaker 1: 2:25

Yeah, yeah. So today I was out doing my job, cleaning pools, and I just I had to go to my supply house and pick up supplies and normally, you know, I'm pretty conversational with everybody in there and you, you know, I've been doing this for over 20 years, so I tend to know most people that go to the same. We all kind of know each other and we generally, as pool guys, we just wave at each other when we pass each other. So I don't know, it seems kind of friendly. But today I was in the back of my truck, but I do have a cyber truck. So that's one thing that people do hate and I do feel a little awkward doing, you know, awkward working in this truck. But it makes perfect practical sense for me because I'm no longer spending $1,100 a month in fuel.

Speaker 1: 3:10

Yeah, however, some people, just for whatever reason, don't like Teslas or don't like these Cybertrucks. So I'm in the back of the truck and I'm counting my gallons and just making note to figure out what I'm going to purchase inside, and this truck rolls by me. That was just leaving loading up his chemicals, but he had all of his windows rolled up and he was like in a black Toyota Tacoma or something, and the windows were tinted. But as he was driving by he had like a speakerphone or a microphone, like some way to Like a PA system.

Speaker 2: 3:41

Like a PA system on his truck First of all.

Speaker 1: 3:43

that's the first sign. That's flag number one. This guy's got some emotional issues, maybe that he needs to be heard. He doesn't feel heard. I think we all need this.

Speaker 2: 3:56

So anyways we all want to be seen and heard.

Speaker 1: 3:58

Yeah. So I'm just in the back of my truck and I'm counting and my son is in the front seat Now he's not a kid, he's 18 already, so I mean he's my kid and really loudly the guy says like you know, get that fucking refrigerator thing out of here, get a real fucking truck. And then he uses the N word and he says you know what the N word? And but like casually in it as he was, you know me berating you, berating me about my cyber truck. And I looked and the first thing I thought was like do I know this guy? I must know this guy that he's talking to me like this. And and then he said something again. He was like, yeah, I'm talking to you, get a real fucking truck, and something like that. And then he said the n-word again.

Speaker 1: 4:40

And then I there was a guy in the parking lot that was sitting in his car and he happened to work there and he was looking at me. He goes yeah, I don't know. That was weird. And I was like, yeah, who is that guy? But my first thing was I was like I was kind of laughing about it internally. I was like, yeah, it is a refrigerator, I can laugh at myself and it is a little ridiculous, you know. However, but when he, when he used the racial slurs and I'm a white guy or I'm white and Filipino, so there's no reason to use that for me, and I don't believe this person was black or in the realm of the possible that he could use that term. Yeah, definitely was not. So that's it just kind of.

Speaker 1: 5:20

When I walked in the store, I was kind of just weirded out and I started to get kind of angry. You know that I wasn't angry. You know, I was like, well, who is that guy? And I was like, well, you know, internally, my own thoughts were like well afterwards and I realized I was like, well, why didn't I say something back? And that was wrong and everything he said. But I did. I just realized that. You know, it didn't really affect me the way that I thought, but I was angry that I didn't make a statement yeah, you didn't go back to old, because I'll tell you, if that had happened two years ago, there would have been, at the very least, a verbal altercation.

Speaker 1: 6:01

Or something thrown at that dude's tree.

Speaker 2: 6:03

Yes, that would have not have just passed by and you going. I wonder what that's about. I would have said what the did you say yeah, I mean when you were telling me and you're like yeah, and I'm thinking hello, that was like a really big moment of to me growth. Like to see growth in you.

Speaker 1: 6:20

Well, that was what was weird? Because I showed up today and you were like well, how was your day? And I said well, here's a weird story. And I basically said the story and then you said well, that's a good thing. Yeah.

Speaker 1: 6:30

And I was like well, you know you're right, why don't? Why didn't I celebrate? Now, I'm not perfect. I still get angry at things, but that is something on the extreme that normally would have. Tipped would have tipped me and put me in a really bad place and probably violence would have happened because yeah, at least ruined your day.

Speaker 1: 6:48

Yeah, and then I would have been all out of sorts for hours and hours, really, just, you know, not in a good place, yeah. But when I told you about it, you kind of flipped it around. You were like, wow, I'm so proud of you. And then I thought, wow, I should be proud of myself. Why am I not proud of myself? I was more angry.

Speaker 2: 7:08

That you weren't angry, that I didn't get angry.

Speaker 1: 7:10

Yeah that I didn't defend myself somehow.

Speaker 2: 7:12

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 7:13

But really, as we were talking and as we were to kind of, you know, being mindful about it, I was we were thinking, yeah, like the fact is is that I didn't take it personal.

Speaker 2: 7:26

Yeah, yeah, and that I that I think that's why I thought this would be a great topic is because you know there's so much about what we talk about, with just self reflection, right, and really being able to recognize when something's triggering you because part of you thinks it's true or part of you thinks whatever that message that they're trying to give whether it's the verbal message or the message that you are being disrespected is true, well then, that starts.

Speaker 2: 7:52

That kind of throws it over the hill you know, and where you can just go right over the waterfall, start following that into violence or, you know, anger or whatever it is, and you didn't do that and a lot of that is is a testament to the work that you've done and the things that we talk about, of really becoming aware of the stories that we tell ourselves.

Speaker 1: 8:11

But I wasn't even aware of it until you made me aware of it later. I think it's good because it's not even something.

Speaker 2: 8:17

It's like that unconsciously conscious, you know part where you're like you didn't have to go in and go. Oh, I feel triggered. Now I got to figure out why I need to kind of go in and see. Why am I feeling this emotion? This is disrespect. Where is this coming from? Where did this originate? You just kind of went like I wonder what's wrong with that guy.

Speaker 1: 8:35

Yeah, I think it's like a definite shift for me, because it's something that I recognize now. I'm not perfect person all the time and I still get angry, but that particular thing would have sent me into a totally different place. Yeah, yeah. And so afterwards, like I thank you for allowing me to have this small little victory, I mean cause. I think, we don't really celebrate the little shifts that we, um, we, that are. It's very important to recognize something like that, Because then it gives me another reason to kind of keep going, I think.

Speaker 2: 9:05

Yeah, it's the little shifts that add up to the big you know, changes. Yeah. The little tiny ones, the little fracturing ones that feel like nothing. But eventually you're like yeah, I'm not, actually I'm not getting into an altercation. I'm not into an altercation, I'm not going into behavior that I regret.

Speaker 1: 9:22

Well, and also, maybe the next time somebody says something like that to me or does something in that type of situation, I will remember that I was able to handle it different before.

Speaker 2: 9:33

Yeah, it reminds me of. There was a woman, bk Shivani, and she talks about energy. So when somebody is throwing something at you not physically, but they're throwing verbal insult or attitude or whatever that is that there's three ways that it's energy that they're sending your way. Yeah, absolutely. And there's three ways that we can deal with that energy, and one of them is to reflect it back, to just be like oh yeah, well, you have a Tacoma and you have a PA system, so obviously you've got to. So then that's just kind of just pushing back that same amount of energy, which then is just creating more of that negativity, right? So that's an option you can just push it all back.

Speaker 1: 10:15

Yeah, that will definitely not deescalate the situation.

Speaker 2: 10:16

No, it's going to escalate the situation Nobody wins. It might feel good in the moment, but I mean, ultimately it's not helping. And then the other thing is like you could absorb the energy, so you could just take it and be like, oh man, you're right, I got a shitty track, or people don't respect me. And then it just like you just take it in, just push it into yourself. You don't reflect it back, you just absorb it in.

Speaker 2: 10:43

And then maybe even you go home and you take it out on your own family or your friends or your customers, because you're just feeling really crappy right From what just happened, Cause you just had to take that in. And the other way is that you kind of you can transform it, so that energy is kind of thrown your way and, instead of absorbing it, taking it in or reflecting it back, you transform it. So you take that energy and you change it into something else, Right. And she says send it out as love, you know, and it's not like you're going to be like hey man, I love you, peace and love.

Speaker 2: 11:13

But what you could do is kind of laugh it off or do what we did. We're talking about it and go, wow, that was amazing. Look what just happened for you, look that guy just I mean really kind of gave you a gift in being able to see how much you've grown in that way. So ultimately we're sitting here having a podcast about it.

Speaker 1: 11:33

If I see him again, I'm going to make sure I thank him. Thanks, buddy, you made me have a watershed moment, I recognize.

Speaker 2: 11:38

Think about how we're transforming it right now, so that energy that was spread to you, instead of absorbing it or reflecting, it back.

Speaker 1: 11:44

Yeah, literally turned into love.

Speaker 2: 11:46

We're using it now to go wow, that was big growth. How can we maybe reflect that to the people who are listening to say what the choices are when something happens, to be able to either reflect it back, absorb it or transform it?

Speaker 1: 12:02

Yeah, In the moment I was thinking, when he called it a refrigerator, I was thinking, okay, I can laugh at those things because I could say the same things and I was able to kind of just reflect in the moment. It's not. And then when he used the racial slur, it was like none of that tags to me and I don't even know why.

Speaker 2: 12:26

Yeah, well, it's also, like you know, we've talked about Greenbush. Greenbush, okay, tell me about the Greenbush. So Greenbush is this was something I learned with my compassion inquiry training with Gabor Mate, and he talks about if somebody called you a green bush and they're like Noelle, you're a green bush and what do you feel? Do you feel anything? Do you feel any activation in your body or are you just? Kind of like you just kind of laughed and bewildered.

Speaker 1: 12:56

Yeah, that's how I felt today. Yeah, yeah, laughed and bewildered.

Speaker 2: 12:58

Yeah, that's how I felt today. Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2: 12:59

Laughed and bewildered Because nothing that I'm saying to you about being a green bush resonates in you. You're not like yeah, there's nothing that doesn't land anywhere in me. It doesn't strike a chord that I already have. But if you already felt like less than disrespected, the world is against me and somebody says something like that to you today, yeah, and you believe it. You believe whatever it is. Yeah, Not just about the truck, but somebody speaking to you in that way is very disrespectful. And if you felt like disrespected yourself and that's a story that's about, that's who you are.

Speaker 2: 13:35

You go around with that kind of narrative running in your mind, then that would have struck that chord, and that's where now I'm going to react, because I can't not. You've just activated something in me, so there has to be a part of you that in some way resonates with what's being said or done in order for it to be triggered.

Speaker 1: 13:55

I know we used the term self-convicted before, remember we talked about that. And in this way, I think, if you are self-convicted when some people say things, you could just let that roll off, because you know within yourself who you are. And I'm trying to move closer and closer. That's the goal to become secure.

Speaker 2: 14:14

Yeah, I think when we start to kind of go in and heal those parts of us that feel not seen, not heard, all of those things that when something else happens in our daily life that could possibly trigger that and you may expect it, like you did today, you're like why am I not angry? It's because none of what he said really resonated with you. It just kind of sounded silly. So there was no trigger.

Speaker 1: 14:39

Yeah, the green bush.

Speaker 2: 14:40

Yeah, as opposed to. As opposed to. You're this, you're that. You know, you were like if I were to say to you or if somebody were to say to me you're a bad mother, right, it might trigger me because just inherently being a parent, you worry if you're doing a good job.

Speaker 1: 14:54

Yeah, that's it, yeah, exactly.

Speaker 2: 14:56

You know, you probably were like I don't know, am I, am I doing the best job I can? And so there'd be, have to be, some self-reflection. There might be some pain that I'm feeling if somebody says that to me, but if you know, if somebody is saying something to me that I'm like that absolutely doesn't resonate with me, I'd be more worried about them than taking it personally.

Speaker 1: 15:16

Yeah, so getting to know yourself, getting to know yourself very well, yeah, and I think that's really what I've been trying to do this whole past couple of years is just getting to know myself.

Speaker 1: 15:27

And you think that you know yourself. We say that a lot. You think that you know yourself. But knowing why you are the way you are, why experiences that have happened to you get stuck in you and you need to process these things, and they come out in weird ways. I really didn't buy into that but now that I do, I do see the advantage, because doing the breath work and the daily stuff and-.

Speaker 2: 15:49

Feeling yourself, feeling it.

Speaker 1: 15:50

And today I was moving through a lot of emotions we just got off of a holiday weekend and all these things and I wouldn't say that I was exactly balanced during that time. But yeah, afterwards I was like, hmm, I think maybe, yeah, just knowing that there's bigger things going on. You know sometimes perspective, because being, I think, imbalanced or in a stressful situation in life normally would put me in a place where I make bad, poor choices.

Speaker 2: 16:19

Like you're on tilt.

Speaker 1: 16:20

Yeah, because I'm already on tilt. Yeah when now I feel like I have a little bit more grace where I'm like well, that's not the biggest thing.

Speaker 2: 16:26

Yeah, you've got a little more leeway, you kind? Of broaden your perspective on who you are and what's going on.

Speaker 1: 16:32

I don't tilt as easy.

Speaker 2: 16:34

No, well, I think that goes back to you know really like not taking things personally, you know like knowing that nothing is personal, and we've talked about that before too with like Don Miguel Ruiz. The Four Agreements.

Speaker 2: 16:47

And I love his explanation of not taking things personally, because I think when I read that book years ago I was like okay, I kind of took it as a superficial level, like, oh, it's not personal. Whatever you're saying to me or whatever you're doing to me, it's not personal to me. It's not like a personal attack. Yeah, that's hard to do, but it goes much deeper, yeah, because it is. It's about personal freedom. It's not like a personal attack.

Speaker 1: 17:08

Yeah, that's hard to do.

Speaker 2: 17:09

But it goes much deeper. Yeah, because it is. It's about personal freedom, it's about happiness, because when you are taking things personal, that's not freedom, that's actually bondage.

Speaker 1: 17:20

Well, when you're in the middle of a lot of self-judgment, yeah, you assume everything is about you. Yeah.

Speaker 2: 17:25

So whatever somebody's behavior is that's going on, you're like I must have done something wrong or they must see something wrong with me. Because we're a lot of people are. We're inherently walking around thinking something is wrong with us. So as soon as something in our outside environment seems to affirm that, we immediately attach to it.

Speaker 1: 17:44

It's. How is it different once you're trying to walk mindfully. You know what I mean.

Speaker 2: 17:49

Yeah, I think, when you, you know, really kind of hone in on the concepts of like, nothing is personal and there isn't anything that is an exception to that.

Speaker 1: 17:57

Well, but sometimes, you know, walking in mindfulness, I feel like I'm much more sensitive to things and. I'm allowed. Now that I'm, you know, finding these ways that I feel, and now that I'm finding these ways that I feel I don't know, it's more difficult to stay balanced.

Speaker 2: 18:16

Well, when you say to stay balanced, because something like how does mindfulness and being sensitive and staying in balance, what does that mean for you? Like something happens and then it throws you off balance?

Speaker 1: 18:28

Yeah, it just triggers me to go out of balance and start to react rather than respond.

Speaker 2: 18:34

But do you take that time of reaction, going and reacting directly with the person or the incident that's happening, or do you go oh man, there's gonna be something I need to deal with internally Now, yeah, now it's more internally. Okay, so that I mean that's not an easy road and it's why a lot of people don't do this.

Speaker 1: 18:51

Cultivating the observer, yeah.

Speaker 2: 18:52

Right, but it takes time and it takes repetition and pretty soon you're cleaning out a lot of that stuff that you don't. You don't have to do it all the time just like you would happen today. So I think that you definitely get more sensitive because when something happens, you realize there's a part of you that's not free.

Speaker 1: 19:09

Yeah Well, I just say it because it gets harder. When I started to become mindful, because I start paying attention to all these tricks, yes, yeah, you know what I mean.

Speaker 2: 19:17

It gets harder because you have work.

Speaker 1: 19:19

Yeah, and then in the beginning it's so hard and you're like dude, now I'm feeling everything and now everything's super hard. But today was a little different because I was feeling particularly imbalanced. But this happened and I was okay with it. I kind of let the shit just roll.

Speaker 2: 19:35

Yeah, well, that's the reason you do this work.

Speaker 1: 19:37

Yeah, right.

Speaker 2: 19:38

It's because you have to do the hard stuff first, which is to look at yourself. So two years ago that happens.

Speaker 1: 19:45

Yeah, you get triggered Doing a lot of self-convicting Yep Owning my shit.

Speaker 2: 19:50

Two years ago. That happens. You react immediately, you have a verbal altercation and then you're like dang, but I know better. Yeah. I know this is really about a feeling inside of me. Now I've got to go kind of dig at that and work on it and kind of clear it out. But now you're here, two years later.

Speaker 2: 20:09

Today I get to celebrate You've, but now you're here two years later after having done that kind of those those that work many, many times over and you just become more clear so that you can take the imbalance of life a little bit easier. And something gets thrown at you, you're not automatically just jumping over that waterfall. You know, you have a little bit more space within yourself to be able to respond, which is what you did, yeah, you didn't react. So those within yourself to be able to respond, which is what you did, you didn't react. So the time of spending it being sensitive and it being hard, that's the work, that's part of the work. And why do you do it? It's so that you don't constantly have to be in that reactive mode or a numbing mode or a running mode. It's being able to just be present with what is and then being able to go. Yeah, it's not about me.

Speaker 1: 20:54

Yeah, and celebrating these small times.

Speaker 2: 20:56

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 20:56

That's why I'm so thankful to you, cause I otherwise, if I hadn't told you, I was kind of, I don't, you know, maybe I was telling you to get some sympathy. You know like oh, look at what happened today, and then it was like oh, it.

Speaker 2: 21:07

I was listening to you. I'm like this is amazing. Also, a PA system on a guy I mean someone's car is just kind of unless you're a cop, it's ridiculous. But you know, to me it was like this is a win. How do you not see this as a win? And then it was like oh yeah, it is, it takes. It's not easy to get to that point where you're not reacting to things.

Speaker 2: 21:32

Yeah you're not reacting to things, and it speaks to the years of work that you've been doing. Right, you're not perfect. I'm not perfect, for sure. There's times I still feel reactive, but I think one of the main things that you exemplified today is the concept of not taking things personal, and I think that if anything at all that somebody can do to regain their personal power is that very thing is don't take things personally, because, if not, you can avoid unnecessary suffering. You can have empowerment in yourself, because you regain your power by not reacting and really, instead, going to the situation or to the person is like are you okay? Or like what's what's going on?

Speaker 1: 22:15

Because this is not me. The response to somebody to deescalate what you know would be are you okay?

Speaker 2: 22:23

Are you okay? I mean, if somebody is kind of reacting with you or, like you know, insulting you or going off on you you know, like had I had the opportunity to tell that guy is everything okay with you?

Speaker 1: 22:33

Are you okay today?

Speaker 2: 22:35

Because I don't know what that's about and then just kind of like there's nowhere for it to go. You know, it's just kind of bouncing off, you're not absorbing it, you're transforming it, you're not reflecting it back. Those are all choices, but instead it's your own personal power to regain that?

Speaker 1: 22:55

Yeah, and I think it's difficult because I was trying to also think about other times like that, Because I was curious and even asking you were there moments where you realized you've shifted or you didn't get as angry as you have in the past? And I think it's probably a good exercise to start to recognize those things in ourselves, to celebrate those personal goals. Yeah. Because I'm going to personally start paying attention to that, because I didn't really, but I think, trying to go along with the positivity train. Yeah.

Speaker 1: 23:28

You know, and the positive triggers instead of the negative triggers. Yeah, and you know, and the positive triggers instead of the negative triggers. Yeah, celebrating the small thing, things like this for me today that it was a small thing, but it was a big win overall, cause it's something that I can celebrate within myself.

Speaker 2: 23:41

So now you think, moving forward, it would almost be like you're looking to see, like I wonder if it'll happen again and what I do, Like it's almost like an experiment.

Speaker 1: 23:52

Yeah, like throw it and see what you can throw at me next and see how calm I could be, you know yeah. I mean, it could be a challenge like that yeah.

Speaker 2: 23:59

Yeah, you know, and sometimes we fall off, especially if we're not balanced, but I think that it is. It is a big win. You know, when you start to like free yourself from the opinions of others, free yourself from whatever situational reactions are going on around you, there is a sense of peace that you have, knowing, like you know, for the most part, most situations, any situation that you could come in, that's always a choice. You have the choice between both or of all three reflect, absorb or transform. And so, at any moment, if something is coming at you, a situation that is probably meant to throw you off balance, it's like kind of, you know, getting kind of excited, like, ooh, what am I going to do with this? How am I going to maintain my power, my personal power, my freedom?

Speaker 1: 24:45

Using that energy yeah.

Speaker 2: 24:48

Yeah so it's just a few different ways of looking at it, you know.

Speaker 1: 24:51

Yeah, if you don't take it personal, I mean using the RAIN technique. Even within that, you know, recognize what's going on within me, whatever acknowledging oh well, yeah, that's not true within me.

Speaker 2: 25:01

Yeah, I think RAIN technique is what got you to this point.

Speaker 3: 25:05

I thought that's what I was thinking, you know the recognize allow inquire and nurture Yep.

Speaker 2: 25:10

You do that enough times. You make it rain. Enough times Make it rain.

Speaker 1: 25:15

What kind of club is this we're?

Speaker 2: 25:17

making it rain Today.

Speaker 1: 25:18

I'm making it rain a lot. Yeah, making it rain.

Speaker 2: 25:21

I'm making it rain so many times that I'm starting to cleanse, cleanse and clear, and so when life throws things at you that you can just show up and be more present. So I'm proud of you, brother.

Speaker 1: 25:33

Thank you. I'm proud of me too, actually, you know, once you said it I was thinking, oh really, like yeah, you know what? Why am I angry that I'm?

Speaker 2: 25:43

I'm angry that I'm not angry.

Speaker 1: 25:45

I didn't stay. I well, I was, you know, ruminating thinking, should I have done something? But I was like, but nothing. He said really, yeah, nothing landed.

Speaker 2: 25:54

Yeah, that's the ego you know?

Speaker 1: 25:55

Yeah, it was the ego part.

Speaker 2: 25:56

Ego's used to being in charge in those moments and instead it was just huh, Like you kept saying hmm. Hmm, I thought that's great. You know what I like to say when something happens that's kind of meant to throw me off, or somebody's saying something kind of rude or I don't know. It feels like it's meant to try to throw me, is just to go interesting, that's interesting.

Speaker 1: 26:22

That's interesting.

Speaker 2: 26:23

That's interesting.

Speaker 1: 26:26

We've got to find these passive, you know, be very passive. Just let that you know. Road rage for me. Now I clap. Yeah. When somebody, instead of flicking somebody off, I just clap.

Speaker 2: 26:34

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 26:34

Because, then what are they?

Speaker 2: 26:35

going to say. Is that reflecting, though? Is that pushing it back, or is it?

Speaker 1: 26:39

It may be, you know.

Speaker 2: 26:41

It's a little bit like bravo, that's like.

Speaker 1: 26:44

Yeah, it's sarcasm.

Speaker 2: 26:46

It's sarcasm and a clap.

Speaker 1: 26:47

It's sarcasm and a clap. You know what it is.

Speaker 2: 26:50

And sarcasm is a form of anger. I feel like that's not as big of a yeah.

Speaker 1: 26:55

I got, maybe I got even pulled back from that Jeez yeah.

Speaker 2: 26:58

Just go interesting. You must be having a bad day. I hope that it gets better for you and you think about your ho'oponopono. Yeah. You know sorry.

Speaker 1: 27:12

I'm sorry for whatever put you in a situation today that you feel like you needed to do that, yeah, I love Ho'oponopono.

Speaker 2: 27:15

Yeah, yeah, I'm sorry, please forgive me, I love you. Thank you, yep. And those I mean that's the whole thing is just thinking about whatever is coming at you. You don't know where that originated. It didn't originate with you, and so assume that and let the rest go.

Speaker 1: 27:33

Well, that trigger was a treasure.

Speaker 2: 27:36

Yes, definitely.

Speaker 1: 27:44

All right, that's been another episode of Let that Shift Go podcast. I'm Noel.

Speaker 2: 27:48

And I'm Lena. Let us know what your questions are and we'd love to use them on a future episode. Or check us out on Insta at Let that Shift Go or visit.