Managing Love Intelligently with Steven Ing, MFT
Managing love intelligently involves understanding your emotional, spiritual, and sexual needs, your boundaries, your deal-breakers, your fantasies, and everything else that allows you to optimize your success in letting the right one into your heart, life, and home.
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Episodes
52 episodes
Episode 52: How Simple Can Relationships Really Be?
The prevailing narrative is that relationships are hard work. However, they don't have to be so difficult. Listen to learn more.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. H...
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Episode 52
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Episode 51: What's So Bad About Repression?
Repression is a great tool for temporary management, like a tourniquet on a wound that’s bleeding, but repression as a lifestyle is a curse.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in fore...
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Episode 51
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Episode 50: Fair Fighting
The three rules for "fair fighting" include no abuse, by mutual consent, and any one subject. Conflict is, after all, an essential and inevitable part of every intimate relationship. Listen to learn more!For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, h...
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Episode 50
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Episode 49: Letting Go of Neediness
There is nothing wrong with being needy; we all have needs and will continue to have them for the rest of our lives. The problem occurs when our neediness becomes pathological and starts to control our lives.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MF...
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Episode 49
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Episode 48: How Body Image Impacts Relationships
A negative body image directed towards yourself and/or your partner can be detrimental to building and sustaining a safe, intimate, and loving relationship.For 35 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a s...
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Episode 48
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56:52
Episode 47: Love Is a Necessary But Insufficient Condition
Loving someone is not all we need to build and maintain a successful relationship. We also need to slow down and take our time to really get to know the other person.For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family The...
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Episode 47
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Episode 46: The Way of the Superior Man - Book Analysis
Today’s episode was inspired by the book The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire. The book was written by David Deida and published in 1997. We read through various passages o...
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Episode 46
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Episode 45: Does Your Partner Have a Personality Disorder?
Understanding personality disorders (paranoid, narcissistic, antisocial, etc.) can give you valuable insights into yourself and your partner and help you manage love intelligently.For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage ...
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Episode 45
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Episode 44: Dating Advice for Men
Practical dating advice for men, which women, too, can benefit from hearing. You don’t need to read hundreds of books or watch hours of videos on this topic. It’s all quite simple. Tune in to learn more.For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MF...
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Episode 44
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Episode 43: Going "Boy Sober"
In today's episode, we review the article “Going ‘Boy Sober’ Is About More Than Celibacy" in relation to managing love intelligently. The article was written by Anne Branigin and published in The Washington Post. The subhead reads, "Young peopl...
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Episode 43
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Episode 42: Our Collective Discomfort with Sex
Sex is all around us (internet, advertising, media); however, as a society, we don't really know how to talk about it. Tune in to today's episode to learn how becoming comfortable with this important topic can result in a healthier society....
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Episode 42
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Episode 41: Stuck in Relationship Inertia
Today's episode was inspired by The New York Times Guest Essay by Hillary Kelly titled “Welcome to Stucktopia.” The essay opens by discussing some popular TV shows, such as Fallout, Severance, and Silo, and how these shows capture the way life ...
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Episode 41
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Episode 40: How Verbal Abuse Destroys Relationships
It's a fundamental thinking error to think that verbal abuse in relationships is normal. We all deserve to be treated with respect, courtesy, and dignity. Listen to today's episode to learn more!For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has b...
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Episode 40
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Episode 39: Boundaries Are Your Friend
Learn how setting, defending, and acting on your boundaries empowers your life.For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Tod...
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Episode 39
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Episode 38: How Withholding Stifles Intimacy
When it comes to our fantasy about what marriage can be like, our fantasy is that we wouldn't have to keep things from our spouse at all. The question is “How can I make the relationship safe enough for my mate to be as honest as humanly possib...
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Episode 38
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Episode 37: The Sacred Bubble
Understanding the Sacred Bubble allows you and your partner to form a sacred connection or bubble, where all of life's problems are outside of the bubble. This allows couples to resolve any conflicts in a safe, effective, and abuse-free manner,...
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Episode 37
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Episode 36: Learning to Embrace Rejection
We don't need a girlfriend or boyfriend; we need the RIGHT girlfriend or boyfriend. If someone rejects us, they are not the RIGHT girlfriend or boyfriend. None of us crave to be with someone who doesn't love us. Listen to learn more! <...
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Episode 36
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Episode 35: Integrating Spirituality and Sexuality
Some people have sexuality in one compartment of their brain and spirituality in another compartment. Therefore, the two compartments never talk to each other. Integrating spirituality and sexuality, gets these two compartments talking to each ...
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Episode 35
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Episode 34: Gender Roles in Relationships
Today's episode discusses gender roles in relationships. It was inspired by the NBC News article "Some dating coaches online are pushing women to seek more traditional gender roles" by Angela Yang.For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has...
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Episode 34
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Episode 33: A Message from Alone
Steve responds to a message from a person calling themselves "Alone." Note: the message was in response to Steve's Psychology Today article "How to Keep an Incel from Becoming a Sex Offender." For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, ha...
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Episode 33
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Episode 32: The Fallacy of "Love Conquers All"
The belief that "love conquers all" is an unfortunate and harmful fallacy. We cannot love our partners into wellness; we cannot love our partners into sobriety; we cannot love our partners into no longer being emotionally, physically, or spirit...
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Episode 31: What's Your Magic Sex Number?
Your magic sex number is the ideal number of sexual encounters you require on a weekly basis to feel your best. Listen to learn more and how knowing your magic sex number can help you manage love intelligently.For over 30 years, Steven ...
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Episode 31
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Episode 30: Can Men and Women Be Friends?
Join us for an open discussion on whether men and women can be friends.For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer to Psychology Today and t...
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Episode 30
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Episode 29: Why Authenticity Matters
If you want real love, let your partner know who you really are and what you really think. For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty in forensic work. He is a contributing writer ...
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Episode 29
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Episode 28: Why Steve Dislikes Online Dating
If you dislike online dating as much as Steve and are interested in shifting your approach to meeting potential partners, this episode is for you.For over 30 years, Steven Ing, MFT, has been a Marriage and Family Therapist with a specia...
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Episode 28
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