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Health & Fitness Redefined
Health and Fitness Redefined with Anthony Amen. Take a dive into the health world as we learn how to overcome adversity, depict fact vs fiction and see health & fitness in a whole new light.Fitness Is Medicine
Health & Fitness Redefined
**Breaking Cultural Norms: Aditya Nair's Journey to Fitness and Personal Growth**
What happens when cultural expectations clash with personal passions? Join us for a compelling conversation with Aditya Nair, who takes us through his transformative journey from a sports enthusiast in India to a dedicated gym-goer. Aditya faced cultural resistance and the challenge of secretly pursuing his fitness passion. Listen to how he overcame misconceptions about youth and weightlifting and ultimately earned his family's support. Adi’s story is a testament to the importance of early exposure to fitness and the invaluable life skills it imparts, such as resilience, teamwork, and handling failure.
Ever wonder why leading by example is more impactful than instruction? We dive into the significance of demonstrating values like sobriety, discipline, and hard work to the younger generation. By highlighting the potentially destructive influence of celebrity lifestyles, we underscore the need to showcase real success through dedication and clean living. We also explore the powerful role of social media in promoting positive behaviors and how successful role models can guide the youth towards more productive lifestyles.
How do you navigate cultural expectations while growing personally? Adi and I share personal stories of rebellion, restrictive environments, and the eventual realization of discipline’s value. We discuss the importance of surrounding yourself with positive influences and the necessity of consistent self-improvement. The final message is one of healing through self-commitment, breaking cycles of self-sabotage, and striving for continuous growth. This episode is packed with actionable advice and motivational insights aimed at inspiring personal growth and resilience.
Hello and welcome to Help With the Industry Defined. I'm your host, Anthony Amen, and joining us today as we have another great episode for all of you. So, without further ado, let's welcome to the show. Adi or Adi, it's a pleasure to have you on tonight. I wanted to try for both 100%.
Speaker 2:Thank you so much, Anthony. Thank you for having me.
Speaker 1:I appreciate you coming on. Before we hop into today's topic, just tell us a little bit about yourself and how you got into the fitness world 100%.
Speaker 2:Well, hello everybody. My name is Aditya Nair. As a full name I just go by Adi for short. I'm originally from India, mumbai. I'm in Canada currently finishing up my university.
Speaker 2:So for me, fitness has been my life. I've been in the sports industry for a very long time. Since my childhood I've been an athletic person. I used to be in running, I used to be a cricket player, soccer, any sport that you want to talk about I was always playing. With time, as you just grow older, you just get rid of the sports and you just focus on one thing, and that was the gym.
Speaker 2:My gym journey has just been fascinating for me because I come from a family where going to the gym is not allowed because, coming from India, people believe that if you go to the gym you're going to get injured. You're not supposed to go to the gym, you can just do walking and running and you'll be fine. So for me I had to figure out a way to make some money to go buy a gym membership and then figure out a way to go to the gym hiding from my parents, then get in shape. Then my dad figured out that I've been going to the gym. Then I accepted the fact that I've been going. And then my family supported me and today they're proud and they say look at my bodybuilding sale.
Speaker 2:I'm like man, I wish you supported me when I was going to the gym, when I was initially coming out. Nobody supports you when you're coming up everybody. You only get support from people once you've got the result. So for me that was fitness. I went through a lot of injuries, went through a lot of problems. The whole goal of coming online and speaking and helping everybody is just because I don't want other people to go through the same shit I had to go through. So that's about me. Thank you so much.
Speaker 1:I never knew that it's not looked upon in Indian's culture to go to the gym. Is that true?
Speaker 2:Yeah, man, 100% in in indians culture to go to the gym. Is that true? Yeah, man, 100. We're coming from especially just like a bit of old school parents. They don't want you to go to the gym because a lot of people have injuries, especially when you do the bench press and you have the front delt injury or you try to do squats and you have the lower back injury. And news just goes along so quickly in india that, oh, we should not do that. So they should tell you go to the gym after you're 20, 22, don't go when you're 16, 17, 18. It's a wrong thing to do. Your height is going to get stunned. It's what they say. If you go and try to do something like that, I'm like cool, I'm listening to you, fair enough yeah, I mean that that I understand.
Speaker 1:That's always been a thing, even when I first got into the industry 12 years ago, 13 years ago, where people would always say you know, kids can't go to the gym, the kids can't weight lift, they can do other things because it's going to stunt the growth. It's better for the growth plates. Yeah, I hope everyone just understands. Now that is not true anymore. I period, I'm about to have a kid, I'm bringing him to the gym the second he's mature enough to start walking, so 100 I want my five-year-old doing pull-ups with one finger and saying, daddy, daddy, look that.
Speaker 1:No, but maybe it's a little extreme, but I had just an idea that it doesn't matter for we the thing that's actually better for the kids to build a foundational setting for that. I want to. I want to ask your opinion on this, because this is something that I truly believe in, and I heard I'm not taking the credit for this. I heard it on a podcast, though. One of the best industries for kids to grow up in is the fitness industry absolutely because it teaches them how to fail, how to fail properly and then be surrounded by a supportive community that constantly pushes them to do better, and you don't get that in a lot of different roles or in different kind of industries. Beyond that, anything to add to that?
Speaker 2:absolutely, man. I man. I had a great, great, great PE teacher, the physical education teacher. He told me one time that you learn so much more on the playground, as much as compared to what you learn in the classroom. Because you learn so much more about failing, about teamwork, about what needs to be done on the ground, when you're just absolutely tired, what needs to be done. Life is throwing challenges at you when you're at the playground, not at school. So you learn so much more on the playground as compared to the classroom. Because the classroom you're just getting information. Information has been thrown at you, study this, study, this, study, this, study, this. But at the playground you're applying everything. Whatever you know, whatever skill you know on the football field, you're applying everything to it. That shows you more about life as compared to just staying at, staying in the classroom and getting information in because you're not using that mission.
Speaker 1:So you learn way more in the playground as compared to the classroom yeah, and really interesting enough, and I've talked about this before, but I want to bring it back to the kid point. But this is for the opposite to the geriatric point. I did a study and I just like reiterating this that for dementia, those that just did crossword puzzles and just did brain games had a slight increase in helping retain their memory. Then they did those that just did old school fashion exercise and almost tripled the amount of increase of those that just did brain games. And then they said, what if we combine both of them together at the same time? And then that had an even bigger uh difference than both groups beyond that.
Speaker 1:So I I was sometimes with my staff, what? What I do is like let's play a game, let's put the bench, let's do a bench press, which is one of my favorite. We'll do 25 of what we lift like a stupid lightweight for us. So we don't get hurt. You bring the bar down and you hold that isometric hold at the bottom. I'm going to give you a question. You can't push that up until you answer the question properly. What you realize is your brain is trying to figure out how to hold this weight and answer the question and you just get so worked up that after like three reps, three to five words, you're white, it's so good unbelievable.
Speaker 1:But then you remember it like that's how I trained for the personal training certification. Initially, I taught myself and studied while working out, because I'm actually literally applying what I'm learning in the gym. That's what you said absolutely, absolutely.
Speaker 2:I think we my one of my coaches taught me this that we are not having an education problem anymore. We've got an application problem. Everybody knows what they're doing, everybody knows what they are supposed to be doing, everybody knows what they are doing wrong, but there's zero, application, zero. And they go into this planning stage where they start planning everything that, oh, I should be doing this, and then this, and then this, but they they just forget that point a may just not even happen. The first step may not happen the way you want it to happen. And that is the first step. That is the failure step.
Speaker 2:You have to realize that the first step you take you're going to fail. Then you have to try again and fail, and you try again and you fail. Trial all the way up, man. But people just have this massive planning phase where they just sit and they have everything planned out on the table and they're like, yes, now I'm going to take my first step, I'm fully ready. And then you take the first step, like, oh my god, this shit is very difficult, how do I even do this? And then they're like, okay, I quit, I'm not doing this anymore. But that's absolutely the point, man. Application is way more important than the information, because throughout the process you just learn more things. Like throughout my gym process and my sports career, I just learned so many things that I didn't even have to like go and take a book and try to learn about it.
Speaker 1:No, I just learned it through the experience of doing yeah, I mean you even see that more with entrepreneurism, right. So absolutely, absolutely. It's hand in hand. People get afraid to take that first step. So the application of what I learned and then from there is once the first hardship comes, they give up and run away. And the issue is never the idea. The issue is how much are you willing to fail before you finally succeed? Yeah, 100%, totally agree with you. And that's sports. You fail a million times just to get first place once who said that?
Speaker 2:I think Usain Bolt said that I trained for three years to run a 10 second race for their first year. Usain Bolt, sir, you said it very rightly.
Speaker 1:I love that. So how would you, in a perfect world, or just how would you recommend we start talking to the younger generation about applying this, because it's only gotten worse?
Speaker 2:absolutely. It is only going to be just by showing people the way you have to show people, especially the younger kids, the way. Here's how I learned everything in my life. I've learned everything just by seeing my whole gym career. I did not have the money to get a personal trainer, so I used to watch other personal trainers train their clients and I would just watch them fully, just watch them. Okay. So he said, do that exercise with that thing, with that much amount of weight for that many reps. I understand I'm going to apply that so you learn from other people who are doing it.
Speaker 2:The younger kids do not have people to look up to. They're looking up to these rappers, these singers, these other people who are not living the life that they want to live, but they've got certain things that they want to have. Say, for example, these guys have got fast cars and massive houses and they look up to that. They're looking up to the fact that the rapper can get that. But are they going to be rappers in the future? No, they're not. They're in some stupid job stuck. They do not know what needs to be done today to get them the Lamborghini, the fast car, the fucking mansion. Whatever is the case. People, we just need to show the younger generation that sobriety is important. Waking up early is important, going to the gym is important, eating clean food is important. Doing the fucking McDonald's every day, smoking day, smoking weed, listening to rappers that shit is not cool, even if their rappers are saying it's cool on a song. Please understand. There is a division between the music industry and the fucking reality. We have just taken the music industry and just made it into reality. We've taken the entertainment industry and made it into reality. The barrier is gone. We have to bring back the barrier that. Sure. Sure, they're showing us all that stuff. But what do we do in the fucking real world? In the fucking real world, you wake up early, you eat clean food, you go and train and you make sure that you have a productive day throughout and you be fucking sober. You don't have to drink and smoke just because everybody's drinking and smoking.
Speaker 2:Today's Saturday night, today, people are going to be hitting up the fucking trees saying we're getting fucked up tonight. What is the goal in that? I never understood it, bro, because when I came to canada and all of this was happening, I was like, wow, this is just too much and I'm like maybe I should try it out. So I was a dude who organized all the fucking parties. That was a certain part. I was organizing everything and that's how bad. You just fall down the fucking hole. You start off by going at friday. The friday becomes, becomes a saturday thing, then that becomes a wednesday thing, then that becomes monday thing and you, before you know, you're drinking and smoking every fucking day.
Speaker 2:So what is it that people have to do? People have to just take a step back. This is what I did ask yourself. What is it? How is it your life? How is your life going to look in the next 10 years, today, if you're 20, for example? How is your life looking at age 30? What is it that you have to do today to get there? Is you drinking and smoking getting you there? No, it is not. No chance. It is Because I understand drinking beer and smoking weed is fun.
Speaker 2:I understand it. It is very relaxing. But what people don't realize is that they're escaping reality. In that moment when you've smoked that weed, you've escaped reality. You're totally in your mind. You're not in physical reality anymore, and I used to do that. Why did I do that? I didn't know this at that time.
Speaker 2:I got to know it after, after sobriety, for a very long time, that I was escaping reality, because I was just scared of being in a different country. I was scared because I was away from my family, away from my friends. I was scared being in this country. So when I would smoke some weed I would be it. You know, it would calm my nerves and calm my brain down. So it is fine. But you cannot progress in life doing that and that just takes you down this downward spiral, because you start off with the alcohol, then the wave, then the cigarettes and the weed, whatever coke. Everything just goes downside.
Speaker 2:So what is it we have to do?
Speaker 2:How do we get the younger kids back into the right path? We show them with Instagram, because everybody's on Instagram, everybody's on TikTok, everybody's on social media. So you use social media to show and lead by example. I have always learned from people who have led by example. Maybe it may be cooking, it may be reading, it may be podcast, it may be speaking, it may be the chip If there is somebody in front of me who is doing something that I want to do and I see he's got the result I want to have.
Speaker 2:I'm listening to him. So what do I have to do to inspire the young kids? I have to be the fucking lead, because leaders lead right from the front and we cannot have any weaknesses. My weakness is their way out. If I say drinking one beer is fine, they're going to go have five because Addy had one. If I have none, then that's when they're having one or two. If I have not had none for a very long time, that's when they're going to come and say, bro, I should be doing what you're doing, bro, thank you so much for inspiring me. That is how we do it. We have to lead by example.
Speaker 1:There's a lot to digest there and I'm trying to figure out where's the best place to start. So I guess I'll start by comparison first Very, very similar boats where you had the early 18s, late teens, early twenties. It started off the just Fridays, then it went to Saturdays, then it went to hosting the parties, then it went to Wednesdays and before you know it was Wednesday, thursday, friday, saturday, sunday, going out drinking, not understanding what you're doing with your life and finding it easy, and then before you know, you're 24, 25 years old, you're looking back, going shit. I graduated college a few years ago. What am I doing with my life? And people don't ever hit that and that's kind of where I hit. So it's personal and I can relate and I want to fill in what I've learned later in life, which makes it's going to take what you said and just summarize it.
Speaker 1:So everyone's always heard the expression you're the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Absolutely Right. But what does that mean? Well, that can mean a couple of things.
Speaker 1:A lot of people take that into context for intelligence or wealth, where you want to be surrounded by people who are smarter than you or people who are wealthier than you, but that's not always the case for most people. For example, let's take the fitness example that you were talking about getting in shape. You want to get in shape. The absolute best thing for you to do is to find five people that are all in shape and work out consistently it's a ready part of life and just join that group absolutely. You're going to get so quickly into working out and knowing what to do because you start becoming the people around you. Let's say you want to have a better relationship with your wife. Go find couples that have absolutely great relationships with their wives. Put yourself in that situation. Make yourself the worst, because if you're the worst, the only room where you have to go now is up and you're going to get better and better every single time.
Speaker 1:Now you mentioned moving from another country, and I'm going to psychoanalyze you for a second, because we're very similar boats and I feel like a lot of people in their teens and twenties go through this. Why do people get into that party realm? Or you said you left a country, went to another country, which is extremely difficult to do or those that just go away to college. They jump into that crowd because they're going down. It's a lot easier for us as humans to feel better about ourselves to surround ourselves with five people that are doing worse than us.
Speaker 1:What we think is that if we hop into a group and we consider ourselves the smartest or the brightest or the quickest or whatever Whatever that may be we find people that are below us, hop into that group to feel better about ourselves, to boost our self-esteem. But what we don't realize, or takes us a long time to realize, is we start becoming the average. So which way do we start going if we start off as the best Down, because it's the easiest? What we don't do at that age is jump into a group that's way above us, because we're afraid of how that's going to make us feel and we don't want to hurt our feelings. We want to protect ourselves because in our minds we already went through a situation of moving. We already went through a situation of moving. We already went through a situation of finding a new friend group, so why would I find people that are better than me to make myself feel worse about what I'm doing?
Speaker 2:that is so good. That is so good. I think you hit so many points over there. That's, that's crazy man. I never thought of it in that way, but absolutely, uh.
Speaker 2:If the question, so your main question, is why do people do that? Right, especially coming from my area, coming from India, we, we are just way too confined. We are not allowed to do a lot of things. Growing up in a quote-unquote Indian family, you're supposed to be home by a certain time. You're supposed to eat a certain way. You're supposed to do certain things throughout the whole day. You're not allowed to to do quote unquote fun things because we think it's dangerous, we think that it should not be. Our parents are just overprotective of our kids. It is just. I'm talking in a general fashion. There will be some exceptions, no doubt.
Speaker 2:So when I was growing up, I always told myself if I got an opportunity to do something that I'm doing right now, I will do it. I will go do the drinking, I will go do the smoking, I will go do all the things that I didn't get to do as a kid but other people did get to do. So it was basically I was a rebellion at that time. I want I. I was very peaceful with myself. I knew that I was going to do it for the first two years and then come back on track on day or like year three or year four. I knew I would always come back. It was never like I would never just go down that path fully, because I knew that that's a dead end, bro, that's you're losing. We are winners. We want to be on the winning side. Winners don't drink and smoke. I always knew that, growing up, when I would look at business owners, they had common traits All of them woke up early, all of them used to train, all of them ate clean, they did not drink, they did not smoke, so they had basic stuff. And all the poor people over here they had waking up hungover, drinking again, eating fast food, not training at all, having a bad relationship all these traits. Which side do you want to be on? I would like to be on the winner's side. So I always knew that if I'm going on this side, I'm going on it for a temporary basis.
Speaker 2:But the point that you said over there, which is we take people who are under us, under us level wise, we take them into our group, which makes us the smarter people and it makes us feel better about ourselves. And that was just. I did that too much. I think, to a certain degree, that I would then go to different groups and I would do that, and then you just realize very quickly that it's enough. I think enough is enough. But you don't reach that enough point until you've done some bullshit, like you have to do a lot of bad and reach to a point where you're like I need to stop now.
Speaker 2:So for me, that turning point was I was way too much in debt. I had failed two courses in university. I had to buy like a ticket back home which I didn't have the money for. I was sitting in a basement room. I was in a basement room. It was negative 40 outside, sitting there by myself, thinking about contemplating my life. I'm like what am I doing? I have to change. So for me, that was the wrong part. I was like cool, we are here now. It cannot get worse than this. It cannot get worse than this. I'm already fucked. Let's improve. Let's just go in the right direction. Let's just completely stop drinking and smoking. Get good grades. Prove it to everybody that we can fucking do this.
Speaker 2:But I never left the gym. I will be very honest, I never left it. I used to go. I should not train to failure, I was just training. But I never left the discipline of going to the gym. That was like one thing I think god gave me. That was just always be physically active, just always look physically appealing, look physically good. The t-shirt should fit you well. I love that. So even if I had all the bad traits at that, I had one good trait. That was you go to the gym. So why do people do? That is just for me, on a personal experience, it was rebellious. I wanted to do it. I didn't get to do all these fun stuff growing up, so I had to do that. I got the opportunity, I took the fucking freedom and I ran. After some time you realize that your parents were right. At the end of the day, you were not supposed to do that. Just come back and like, oh okay, now I gotta change my life yeah, I mean you.
Speaker 1:You're absolutely right, that's what it's. It's. We just kind of put ourselves in those situations of that, realizing we all have to hit rock bottom. Right, we have to get there. Some people do, some people don't, unfortunately, and I actually feel bad for the ones that don't feel like they hit rock bottom because now they wasted even more time in their lives like, and they get stuck and complacent is the correct word.
Speaker 1:The one thing I wanted to add to what I said before about the average of five people, because I think it's important and it kind of emphasizes the point you said, which is listening to people is the same as hanging out with people. What I mean by that is, you mentioned, listening to people is the same as hanging out with people. What I mean by that is you mentioned listening to music. Right, for example, listening to rap music of somebody who's talking about smoke weed, do this, blah, blah, blah. That's all fine, but when that starts becoming one of the top five things you're doing, that person, even though they're not physically there, is becoming one of those five biggest people you're spending the average amount of time with.
Speaker 1:But, instead of that individual being, which is what gets confusing with music, instead of them as an individual person, which they're hiding. They're hiding their entrepreneurship, they're hiding what they're actually doing because they're putting up a front which is what they think you want to hear. People don't understand that aspect of it and you're that front. That fake persona or that fake movie star is being in that friendship circle that you're becoming the average of. So it can work, even if it's not a physical person, which is why I'm a big believer in listening and learning from people who are way above me, absolutely Like I'm a. I have a huge fan. I will admit it here. First, I listened to a lot of Alex Hermosi, so that is something I have on three, four days a week, 45 minutes to an hour. So I that's an average and it really wakes me up. I'm like I got to go do shit. Look what he's doing. He's younger than me.
Speaker 2:Oh shit, that's a motivation right there. How the fuck did he do that?
Speaker 1:He is two years younger than me. It's close.
Speaker 2:That's a fire under your ass right there.
Speaker 1:It's like damn if I were to figure it out. And then I complain. It's like you know, covid killed me. I'm in the fitness industry, and then I look at him like so is he Send me that boat? Yeah, maybe I did a little bit and I got ahead of a bunch of people, but he did a lot of it and got way ahead of people. I got to change way more lives than I did. So I learned to start surrounding myself with those people, because in that aspect of my life is where I want to succeed. I want to have 50 gyms. I want to help a million people. I want to help a million people. I can't do that with two locations. I need a lot of locations. I need to get in front of a lot of different people. This podcast is a way to get in front of a lot of different people to really impact lives, and it's hard to do that where I am and I need people that do it already just surrounding me.
Speaker 2:And if they're not physically here, the way I get is through podcast, music, et cetera, et cetera I would like to point point out one thing there, man, I think so I used to think to myself that I want this, I want this, I want this. But I heard this quote, which I I do not remember to a t, but here's what the quote actually just meant. It just meant that the current you has got you to the current position that you're at. The future, you is going to be a different you. Who's going to go get and inspire a million people, have 50 gyms, have all those things that you want to have. The current you is not going to have it.
Speaker 2:I had to face that a lot. I had to face that when I was coming out of my drinking problem that the current you has got you here. If you want to go do this what I'm doing right now I have to be a different individual. So I'm a very different individual as compared to me two years ago, like fully changed, fully transformed. That is not the same me over here sitting right now talking to you. This is a new me, and I know for a fact that two years down the lane, when we do something like this again, it will be a different me. It'd be a better version of me is what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:So the current version of me has got this life that I'm living. The future version of me is going to have a better life, considering the fact I change. And that's the biggest thing I've learned is that it's not about the how, it's not about the what you do. It's about the who. Whom do you have to become to achieve your goals? Whom do you have to become to get 50 gyms to get more people, to get more clients, to get more? Whatever coaching, whatever may be the case, better people in your life? Whom do you have to be? So I have to change as an individual. I have to change my internal beliefs.
Speaker 1:I have to change me to get a better environment, to get a better external environment yeah, it's, it's true, and you're kind of you'll be one percent better every day, which is feels minimal, and every year you'll be 365. So you're three and a half times who you were last year. At this current time, hell, go listen to a podcast from four years ago. You want to see something completely different than how we used to talk. I go back and listen and I'm like, yeah, who the heck is that guy? Why was I even speaking like that? He is not comfortable on camera.
Speaker 2:I see my old clips and I'm like why did I even post that? I was like so trash Food. I'm a big critic, of mine to be very honest.
Speaker 1:Yeah, me too. But after a long, long time and you start getting better and better and better. Am I Joe Rogan Hell? No, I will get there eventually, man. Yes, 100, 100. I want to just take it back to just some actionable ways, because we went through a lot. Right, so we went through how people can surround themselves. Be your average of five, but if you had the opportunity to talk directly to someone who is 17 years old, what would you say to them and how do you think they should approach life? 100%.
Speaker 2:The first thing is get with God. Get with God. Whatever it is that God is telling you to do, just do it. You don't have to ask him two or three times should I do this, should I not do this? Just do it. The conscious voice within you, the consciousness, is called the authentic voice of God. It's been told by a lot of people. You just have to believe in it. Your consciousness is telling you when you wake up in the morning and you look yourself in the mirror and you see that's a trash bag down there. I should change it. I should lose 10 pounds, lose 10 pounds. When you look at your bank account and go I wish I had more money. I should be saving some money. Start saving money. Your consciousness is telling you to do certain things At age 17,.
Speaker 2:I know we're all relentless, fucking foolish idiots. We don't listen to anybody because we just think we are on top of the world and we can do shit, but in reality we cannot do anything. We are the stupidest person on the planet at that point. So what is it you have to do to become, or just come on the right path? Just be with God. That you have to do to become a or just just come on the right path and just be with god. Listen to god every single day, pray, meditate, be with yourself, be okay being with yourself. I was not okay being with myself. That's. That's the reason we had to drink and smoke, because once you're high, you can be with yourself. Like every other problem has collapsed. I just have to deal with me. Now I'm fine. So, at 17, be with god, be with yourself, learn skills that you know which are going to be important for your future. But here's the thing, man, I'll be very honest. I'll be very straight, honest with you.
Speaker 2:When I was 17, I just didn't listen to anybody man. You could come and tell me anything. I would not listen to you. I'm like fuck you. Who the fuck are you? Were you going to tell me? Shut up. I didn't even listen to my dad, bro. But I think the only person I would listen to would be somebody who's living the life that I wanted to live, so somebody with like. That's the reason I listen to people.
Speaker 2:At the gym they said the only two things you need when you're going is to get a protein powder and you get creatine. I figured the fuck out to get creatine, bro, and that was like white powder in my fucking backpack. I used to hide it from my parents in the living room because if that got out I am fucked. I'm outside the fucking house. So I had to hide it. But the big people told me to buy it. I'm going to buy it If a person bigger than me comes and tells me Adi, eat in that way. I am eating in that way because he knows what he's talking about and I would like to be like him. So we just went full circle when I said lead by example.
Speaker 1:For a 17-year-old. I want to be like him. I'm going to listen to him. I'm going to blow your mind right here. You mentioned, actually, that someone at that age only wants to be with themselves when they're high. I'm going to take it a step further. You mentioned the period of being with themselves is high because at that point they're comfortable being themselves.
Speaker 1:I feel like a lot of people aren't comfortable being themselves. This, I feel like a lot of people aren't comfortable being themselves, and this goes beyond 17 year olds because we have adapted to learn to disappoint ourselves. Oh yeah, absolutely, and we don't want to look ourselves in the mirror because we are so used to disappointing ourselves over, and, over and over again. It just becomes harder, especially when you're getting to get older, to go do things because you know well, I'm just a disappointment, and that is a whole mindset shift.
Speaker 1:So, for example, how many times did you tell yourself you're going to treat your spouse better? How many times in your life do you tell yourself you're going to go take the garbage out before you leave in the morning? How many times did you tell yourself you're going to go take the garbage out before you leave in the morning? How many times did you tell yourself you're going to lose the weight and go to the gym on Monday? Keep adding these things up and keep adding and multiplying the amount of times you disappointed yourself, to the point where you start telling yourself I'm going to start Monday and you know, coming the words out of your fucking mouth, you're lying to yourself and you're okay with it because you lied to yourself your entire life, because you've learned it's okay to lie to yourself. I will tell you right now, the worst person to lie to is yourself by far. It is the biggest thing I have learned. Do not lie to myself if I say I'm gonna go do something, go do it, go do it and start reinforcing and reinforcing, and reinforcing. Then soon enough you become so comfortable being yourself because you know I'm that person that does not disappoint myself. Then you can go show up. You can make the most out of every moment, because at that point you've already fixed internally.
Speaker 1:And if you fix internally, then you can help the external, which is helping other people or doing whatever else you do. But if you don't fix the inside, the outside will never work.
Speaker 2:If I were in person, I would give you a fucking standing ovation. That is absolutely so well put together and that shows that you've thought about it a very long time, like what you said and with the amount of confidence you said it, that means you've thought about it a very long time. You've said it too many times and I'll be very honest, but that is very true. I heard a psychiatrist speak about this one time and she was saying that if somebody so the person on the chair said that I have got a chocolate addiction, I eat, I tend to eat chocolates late at night, but then I feel guilty about eating the chocolates. And the psychiatrist pointed out and she said that you're not addicted to the chocolate, you're addicted to feeling guilty after eating the chocolate. And I was like blown. I'm like, oh my God, that is fucking crazy.
Speaker 2:That's so true, though people don't realize this. People say I'm going to stop masturbating. No, no, no. They are going to do it and they're going to feel bad about it and they're addicted to the bad feeling. They're not addicted to the porn or the masturbation, it's a feeling that you get afterwards. That is so true what you said, man, that you, once you're fixed to you, life starts throwing problem in front of you. Initially, you are the problem. You're in your own goddamn way. You're in your way too much. You're self-sabotaging too much. Once you're out of your own way, once you've got yourself right now, you have to deal with external problems. That's so true, man, so true yeah, I, I appreciate that.
Speaker 1:It's just you're right. It's not to say I'm perfect, trust me, I still disappoint myself. But the fact that I understand that every year I, just like I said from the beginning, get 1% better at not disappointing myself, me over the last five, six years, compared to where previous Anthony was before that I am nothing like I was five years ago. I am especially nothing like I was 10 years ago. So go back and talk to that Anthony and talk to him Now. The number one thing is right. There. It's I'm not disappointing me anymore. I'm not. I'm going to make sure I put myself out there.
Speaker 2:If I say I'm going to fucking do something, something I'm doing it absolutely absolutely, because what you needed become the person you pretty much needed growing up. That's all it is a hundred percent agree.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna ask you the final two questions I ask everybody the first one is if you were to summarize this episode in one or two sentences, what would you take a message?
Speaker 2:oh, very nice. I think I'm going to take the last bit, which is stop lying to yourself. Become the best individual you need at grown up. Teach other people how you did, whatever it is that you did, heal yourself. Help others heal themselves.
Speaker 1:I love that, and then how people find you, get ahold of you and learn more 100% on Instagram.
Speaker 2:Underscore Nairfit, nair Fitness on youtube I love it.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much, adi, for coming on. Thank you, guys, for listening this week's episode of health and fitness redefined. Don't forget, hit the subscribe button and join us next week as we dive deeper into this ever-changing field. And remember fitness is medicine. Until next time, outro Music.
