Your Top 3 Limiting Beliefs & How to Break Free - Brandy Buskow, FDN-P, cEFT, Hypnotherapy

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Do you feel stuck? Are you trying to accomplish something with your health, relationships, business- or anything that requires change, but can't seem to make progress?

A very common reason why many of us can't seem to reach our goals is because of limiting beliefs

Join me and our awesome guest, Brandy Buskow in this super helpful conversation about the most common limiting beliefs that keep us stuck and how to overcome them so that we can finally achieve success in all areas of life.  Big promise - but well worth the effort!

To connect with Brandy:
Brandy Buskow, FDN-P, CTNC, CGP, EFT-P
BB Health Coaching | www.bbhealthcoaching.com
Instagram: @bbhealthcoaching

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Transcript

Hi, Brandy. Thank you so much for being on the show today. I'm so excited to have you here. Thanks Dori. I'm really excited to be here and talk with you today. Yeah, definitely. Um, I was wondering if we can get started by having you share about why living, living beliefs is so important to you and why it's something that you work with with your clients, for sure.

So, , I really dealt a lot with anxiety as a child and into my teen years. And so really diving into how to address and heal anxiety for me was really, really important.  I did start going the pharmaceutical route and it just wasn't for me, it's, you know, it numbed my feelings and I was like, this doesn't seem normal to not feel anything.

And so I actually discovered herbs and vitamins, um, coming off of those medications. And that started my journey into diving into alternative health. And what I started to realize after I started working with clients and doing my training is that a lot of the issues with health a lot had to do with mindset and trauma.

And so I really dove into how are our minds affecting our health. And as I work with my clients, what I started to realize is that there's a core set of limiting beliefs that almost every single person has in some form or another, that is contributing to their inability to get where they want to go, whether it's to achieve goals or to fully heal from their health challenges.

And so I've really, really focused on, um, using things like EFT and now hypnotherapy to get to the root, uncover those limiting beliefs, and then start to help them make changes.

Isn't it so true as you start working with people, they're doing all the right things, the right things. And sometimes they get well, but then they revert back and you wonder what what's going on. Especially since sincere doing a lot of things to help lifestyle and taking the right supplements, like you said, and I love what you said about, you know, when you're feeling anxiety and other emotional issues coming up, you get medicated, but how long does that continue on?

And it's not a sustainable thing or the ongoing solution for most people. So that's an amazing story. Thanks for sharing. . And so I was wondering if you could define what a limiting belief is and how you came to the understanding about it, 

for sure. So eliminating belief is a subconscious belief. Something that we don't think about consciously every single day, but it's a subconscious belief that's been ingrained in your body that stops you from achieving your goals. And oftentimes those limiting beliefs get ingrained generally for most people in childhood.

So something happened in childhood and it doesn't necessarily have to be very traumatic. Um, that's one thing I've learned from working with my clients is they'll say, oh, well, you know, this happened, but it's not that bad. And I, and I always tell them, I said, but you can't compare yourself to other people.

And if it was traumatic for you at that time, then you need to validate that. So something happens in childhood and then the body and the brain connect and they say, okay, this must be. X, or this must mean I'm not good enough, or this must mean I don't deserve it. And so that belief stays in the back of your mind subconsciously until you grow up and then you start to do things like self-sabotage, or you're the type, and you're taking all the supplements and you're doing all the biohacking, but your body is not responding.

And there's that belief in the back of your head. That's, that's saying, well, we can't respond because this belief is there. And so it's uncovering what that limiting belief is and trying to accept it and process it and move through it that, um, that's really helpful for people to achieve their goals and move forward, especially in health.

Yeah. Wow. That's so interesting. I know I took a trauma healing course and they were talking about complex trauma or PTSD, and I thought I don't really have any, and then as I started going through it, I thought it's like a, like you said, they're not necessarily showstoppers, but it's sort of like how those incidences created, what you believe about  your reality and then how you conduct yourself based on that belief.

So it doesn't have to be something catastrophic. It's just like a misunderstanding of what reality is. And then you go through life with that misunderstanding and it just starts creating issues 

 And if it seems daunting, Brandy, cause it's something all the way from childhood. So like how you pick through all of those things. There's just so many different incidences and memories. So how do you help people figure out what those limiting beliefs are?

So  when you're working with a good practitioner or you could even do this yourself and journal, and I always encourage my clients to journal, but,  what you started to do is you start to kind of keep, if you're a practitioner, you're asking questions. So if you're seeing your clients saying the same things over and over and over again, it's kind of like that ear perk up moment of like, okay, so they want this, but there's all of these reasons that they think they can't have this,  that starts to be a clue.

 If you're journaling and you're doing this yourself and you're not working with a practitioner. Start to kind of like keep a note or what are the things that always happen on a regular basis. And then what do you tell yourself? And this can be very, very hard because we are in today's society.

Everything is so busy. We're go, go, go. We never actually really stopped to listen to our internal dialogue, but we all have internal dialogue. So what I encourage people to do is just for one day, just take a step back and really listen to the internal dialogue that happens. So let's say you're running late for work and you're running out the door.

And the internal dialogue is, oh, I'm so stupid. I should have just like prepared the night before. And it's always my fault and I'm always late and I'm always going to be late. Like if you're always telling yourself that that's a clue. So take a step back and start to listen to some of that internal internal dialogue, because the reality is the brain listens to what you tell it to.

So whether it's negative or positive, it doesn't really matter. It can't tell whether you're lying or not. If you are telling your brain the same thing over and over and over again, it's going to say, okay, well, this is what you want and it's going to keep reproducing those results. So I would tell people, start there and start to identify what that internal dialogue is that you have and keep a note of it and then start to see, do they have a theme?

Are they saying the same thing? Like, are you constantly beating yourself up in one particular area or is it everywhere? And then you can start to kind of see, okay. Which of the three buckets of the three most common beliefs might this fit under? And we can go from.

I love anything that you do with people and empower them. I think it's great to work with a practitioner, especially when you struggle and you find you, you can't get to those, but I love that you're giving them tools right away, that they can do on their own to be able to. And it's an ongoing thing I'm assuming, right? It's not something where you just do it one day and all of a sudden, Hey, got it.

But it's an ongoing observation and mindfulness of how you're navigating through your day. And taking an awareness. And as you start doing that, it becomes more of the way that you live your life. Because now you're thinking, wait a minute, why am I saying that to myself? And isn't it funny that people don't think about just because you think it doesn't mean it's not true, right?

That voice in your head is just some of it isn't it said like 95% or a certain percentage of what you think is old information that just been replaying the entire time in your life. Like you said, I kind of feel like sometimes if, you know, you keep doing something and it doesn't make sense, like, you know, better.

That's like, when you're thinking, what am I telling myself? That's making me not accomplish the thing and you're looking at it. And it's so frustrating because it's like a physical barrier stopping you from being able to do the thing. So, yeah, I love thank you. That's really, really helpful. And I love journaling in general, but that's  a really powerful way of doing it and helping you process it,, so that you can think of what to do.

So, so what were the three you mentioned there were three main limiting beliefs. So what are they and you address them? 

That's a great question. I just wanted to touch on something you said, you know, that is actually a really good clue. So if you are constantly doing the same thing and you're thinking to yourself, why do I keep doing this?

Your logical mind can say, well, I know that I should do this, but why am I not doing it? That is a big clue to you that you have a subconscious belief that's sabotaging you. And I think all of us do that. We all have something in our lives. Like I know I should be doing better. Like, why do I keep doing this?

That's a subconscious belief. So what are they? So the first one is it's not available to. What does that mean? So how many of you grew up and you, you know, you're trying to be an entrepreneur and you keep doing all these things in your business, and you're only like you're bringing in money, but you're not bringing in like the million dollars that you want to bring in.

So how many of you have had a situation where you grew up with money? Doesn't grow on trees. You have to trade time for money. You have to, you know, all of these things that your parents told you as a kid, or if they didn't say that you observed maybe your parents working 12 hours a day. And they were always coming home tired.

And it was always like, well, we could buy that, but we can't really afford it. And so what happens is, as a child, you think to yourself, well, that's not available to me having, having all of that money is not available to me because that's not what my brain has been taught as a child. If we take the other aspect of it, of health, you know, if you grew up in a family where all of the people were always overweight and they didn't make health a priority and they didn't know how to make healthy foods.

Well, again, your brain is saying, well, knowing to do differently is not available to me. And that seems weird because you're like, yeah, but I grew up and  my conscious brain can learn all of these things and they have these tools. But if that's a belief that's sitting in the back of your mind, you're never going to be able to get past it until you acknowledge it and say, oh, okay, this is what's going on.

And now I need to erase the tape. As he said, the tape, that's always going in her brain and start to put in new beliefs and new patterns and new sayings. So that's the first one. Do you, have you experienced any of those in your life story? 

Oh my goodness. Yes, definitely. I mean, growing up there were just so many things, it's, it really resonates with me Brandy because, yeah, I grew up we were, we lived really modestly.

So I remember when I was looking at what other people were doing and how they were building their businesses, even just wealth. I physically. Didn't feel like I belonged in that space. It was like a palpable, like barrier I'm looking from outside in, and that wasn't a part of who I was supposed to be. And it makes perfect sense.

Like, why would I pursue anything if there's like a rule in my head that I don't belong in the space of health and wellness, or if I don't deserve to live in a place abundance. And it's so interesting what you say, because I feel like you recreate and wouldn't you, why wouldn't you, um, the circumstances you grew up in that you believe was supposed to be the case? . It's like almost a self-fulfilling prophecy. Right. This is what life is like, this is what's comfortable.

 Maybe it's not happy, but it's comfortable. So it's almost like I'd rather deal with the thing that I know and recreate it, then leap into something uncomfortable. That's unknown. And just doesn't feel like me like my identity. So, yeah, absolutely. And that could be life changing when you start being aware of that, because then you can start, like you were saying journaling and being mindful of, um, this isn't the script.

This is just my experience right now. 

Absolutely. Absolutely. And you know, a lot of these beliefs, these three beliefs that I'm going to mention, they, you could have all three of them. , but  everybody has at least one and, and because we're all human and no human is perfect. So we all feel flawed. So don't feel bad if you have that script going on in the back of your mind and you didn't realize, and you, and you're starting to think to yourself, wow, that's true.

Like I'm recreating the same thing that my parents did. And the same thing that my grandparents did because that's, what's familiar. And that's what my brain believes is available to me. And there's nothing else outside of that that's available to me. So that leads us to the next one, which is I am different.

And that's one of the biggest fears for people is nobody wants to be different. They want to be like other people because they want to be accepted. And so if you had ever had the belief in your brain that you are different. Then that's going to kind of make you feel like you want to hide inside. So let's take the example and I'll be vulnerable.

And I mean, I'm okay with that. I struggled with my weight, my entire life, even as a child. And so when I was a kid and this happens a lot with kids where they bullied, maybe for how they look or their weight, or maybe they, um, maybe they were poor, maybe they, you know, and not, not that that you have to be, have a lot of rich people, but maybe there's middle-class.

And then the really poor people that came to school and maybe their parents didn't send them food. You know, that it was pointed out to them as a child, that they were different. And when you have that happen, what happens is, is you kind of go inwards and you think, oh, there's something wrong with me. I am flawed.

I want to be like everybody else, but I can't be like everybody else because I am different. And that happens to many of us. And again, that could be a limiting belief in the back of our minds of even though you've grown up and maybe you don't have a weight problem anymore, or maybe you've grown up and you're pretty successful, you know, you're, you're not poor anymore, but you still have that little boy or that little girl saying, yeah, but I'm different.

And I was teased and, and I really want this thing over here, but I can't get it because I'm different and I'm not like everybody else, so I'm not going to fit in and I can't achieve it.

That makes a lot of sense. I mean, just being outcast or feeling like you don't belong, it makes you feel like withdrawing or makes you feel like you're not worthy.

And yeah. That things are, it goes back to also things are available to you just because you're not the same as everybody else. And then you navigate through life feeling like you're not acceptable and maybe need to fix yourself. There's, you know, I think, especially with women, we feel like there are so many rules about appearances and how we should be in the world that you spend a lot of time.

It's almost like a distraction versus just being who you are.

Absolutely. Absolutely. I'm going to, I'm going to go over the last one and then we can talk about, you know, let's challenge those beliefs. I love challenging the beliefs because when you can challenge them, that's when you can open your mind up.

So the last one is, I'm not enough and you can see how all three of them kind of are the similar, but a little bit different so that I am not enough is I'm not deserving. So this could be, you know, maybe in your childhood, you grew up in a wealthy. But your parents were always working and they were never around and they didn't give you the hugs they needed, or they weren't at the dinner table and asked you how your day was and what happens.

Your brain gets ingrained of, like, I'm not important enough for them to ask me those questions or, you know, maybe you're a child with 12 kids and your parents are busy with these 12 kids. They can't give you, you know, that one-on-one intention all the time. And so, again, as a child, you start to think, well, I'm not good enough because I didn't get all of the attention.

 I'm not enough. Or maybe somebody said something to you at school or in passing, or maybe you were in a relationship. This doesn't always have to be in childhood, but maybe at a great childhood. And then you were in a relationship with somebody and they just said something that triggered you. And then you thought to yourself, well, I guess I'm not enough.

And so if you have any of these beliefs, you're always going to be kind of stagnant in how far you can go, because you don't believe that you have the resources something's not available to you're different. You're not deserving. You're not worthy to get what you want in terms of maybe it's financial success.

Maybe it's in love relationships, maybe it's with your health. Um, I know Laura, you probably noticed this as well. I noticed this with a lot of clients, they have this limiting belief that they're not worthy of healing. And we see this a lot with, auto-immune disorders. They are self punishing themselves for something that they think they should be punishing themselves because they're not worthy of being healthy because they've done something wrong.

I mean, I love the analogy that one of my mentors had said about that is like, who else? Punishes themselves? Let's say you're, you're 60 years old. And you had an autoimmune disorder for 40 years. Murderers don't even spend 40 years being punished in prison most times, but you're punishing yourself by these limiting beliefs and keeping yourself sick and not allowing yourself to give forgiveness to yourself and move forward and get healthy.

And so these three beliefs are one of the most common ones among all people that keep them stuck and keep them staggering. 

Yeah, that is a big one, a really powerful one.  Punishing yourself. I do see that, to, self-sabotage just  doing things over and over and over again, knowing that maybe it's not the right thing, like people who just feel like they're not worth that kind of health or healing or happiness and just kind of resetting.

And it's just, like you said, a program that keeps happening and it just causes so much unhappiness and it's not something that you're consciously doing. So how do you help clients? What are the kinds of the things that you do to be bunk them, , and be able to help them recover or address them?

Sure. So one of the first things that, that we do is, you know, just helping them identify that that's a limiting belief can be very freeing because if you can identify and say, oh, okay. Yes, that, that is what my brain is thinking. That is the first step. Once you identify that, that's what's going on, then what we do is we start to question some of the beliefs.

So, , let me give you, for instance, if I'm working with someone and, , I'm just going to think of an infertility client and she's doing all of the right things and we're kind of working on everything. And she keeps saying to me, well, I'm never going to be able to get pregnant. I'm never going to be able to get pregnant.

It's just never going to work. I just don't believe that it's going to happen. And then we start to dig deeper and I start to ask questions, and this might not be the best one, but what we'll go with there anyways. And I'll say, well, have you ever been pregnant? And they say, yes. Okay. So you've been pregnant, but you know, you miscarried or it wasn't successful.

And they said, yes. So I said, so you can get pregnant and then they go, well, yes I can. And then I said, so let's question that belief. So every time you tell yourself, I'm never going to get pregnant. I can't get pregnant, remind yourself, but I've been pregnant before. So just questioning your beliefs sometimes can be really, really helpful.

Another scenario where you can question your belief is, um, I'm never going to be able to get through this situation, whatever the situation is, maybe it's a really stressful situation. And then I questioned them and I say, well, have you been through difficult things before? And they say, well, yeah. I said, did you get.

Well, yeah, it was hard, but I got through it. I said, so when you keep telling yourself, I'm never going to be able to get through this situation, you need to stop yourself and say, but is that true? And oftentimes the answer is no. So questioning the beliefs when they come up  is a really big step. And then the next step is the reframe.

How can we reframe what are telling ourselves? So let's take the, I am not enough scenario. Maybe you are telling yourself or actually a better one is I'm different. So let's say you're telling yourself, well, I want this, but I'm different because I can't get it. So then you ask yourself, okay, but do you want to be like everybody else?

And most people will start to think and go, well, not really. Like, I kinda like who I am and it's kinda cool that I'm different. And then I say, okay, then the next question to ask yourself is what happens if we all look the same and we all had the same things, would life be exciting? And they would say, well, no, that would be pretty boring.

And so  it's, it feels funny, but , it's reframing or questioning those beliefs. That is the next step. Once you've accepted it is you start to question them and that does take practice. It doesn't happen overnight. And you know, our body always takes the path of least resistance. I mean, if it's easier for us to go to an old pattern, we are going to go there.

So it does take effort, but I promise you, if you, even if it's just one time a day, you catch yourself saying something and you question it and you say, oh wait, no, that's not true. I don't believe that I'm going to reframe it. Instead, you will start to kind of build that muscle and you will start to build a new pathway of new beliefs instead of those old beliefs that like to replay themselves over and over and over again,

it's such a simple framework, but then I can see how it could be so powerful because you're basically identifying it, debunking it, and then putting in your brand new program, like you said.

And so you're able to really over time be able to  pick away at the ones that are really holding you back. Yeah, that's awesome. So how did you end up developing the framework? Like how did you create it and, and figure all of this. 

So,  it was a lot of trial and error. The more clients that I work with, the more I started to see patterns.

So I started to see very similar patterns at all, necessarily. Or most of the time we come down to these three limiting beliefs, the other limiting belief, that's not as common, but this comes up a lot is a lot of people are terrified of not being in control. So those are, these are the people that will come to.

And, or maybe this is you where you're super successful in your career and you're super successful with your body. Like you're working out, you're going to the gym, you're biohacking. It's like, I've got 10% body fat. I'm doing awesome, but you maybe are struggling in relationships. And so then we start to have these conversations and we say, okay, so you're super successful in all of these areas.

How were you successful? Why control everything? I'm regimented. I get up. I study, I go to the gym, I have a schedule. I don't miss meetings. I said, okay. So you're controlling every single aspect, but in relationships you have to give up a little bit of control because you can't be a controlling person or nobody's going to want to be with you.

Um, so then you, you have to kind of be a little bit vulnerable and give up a little bit of control. And then they look at me and  they stop. They usually stop for a second. They go, whoa. Okay. So they've been operating on this thing that I have to be in control all the time to make everything perfect for me, but I don't understand why this one area isn't working.

I'm trying so hard and I'm putting all this control in. And then when I tell them you can't be control. You can't control everything. Life doesn't work that way. You have to allow yourself to be vulnerable. Then what comes up is that's scary. It is scary.  And we often avoid things that are scary.

You know, our that's what our subconscious brains job is to keep us safe. Back when we were cave men, it was to keep us safe from being eaten and be able to continue to bring food and feed our family. That's the only job to keep us safe from that lion or that tiger that's chasing us. And it's still there today.

And so we often form beliefs or we form habits that keep us safe. But when we look at them and say, well, these aren't benefiting me, this isn't helping me. , it's actually making things worse for me. So again, it's identifying. Why am I doing this? What am I uncomfortable with? What, what am I not wanting to address?

 And for some people it's, I don't want to be vulnerable. So I have to be in control because being vulnerable is scary because when I was vulnerable before somebody said something mean to me, or somebody took advantage of me. So there's a lot that can go into it. But like I said, when we started at the beginning of the call is really take some time.

Even if it's five minutes a day to just journal, kind of write down some of these things like these are these reoccurring patterns or reoccurring things that keep happening for me and start to ask yourself those questions, start to,  question your beliefs, start to try to reframe them. Like, what is, what is a reframe?

A reframe is taking something negative into a positive. So maybe the negative is, is I'm so stupid. I'm never going to be able to pass this test. The reframe could be, I've studied really, really hard. And I feel confident and no matter what I know I might get a hundred percent, but I'm going to do the best I can.

Now that seem still negative, but it's a better reframe than I'm so stupid. I'm never going to pass, you know, or maybe the other aspect is, and we hear this all the time and I'm sure you do too. You know, let's say the weight loss industry, I'm going to lose a hundred pounds and then your brain says, um, no, that's a lot of hard work.

That's really scary. I don't think you could do that. So the re reframe could be I know I'm going to be able to do the things for my body, that my body needs to start to get healthy. Again, it's believable, it's safe. It's not scary. So you're reframing things in a believable way. So you can have your subconscious mind know that what you're doing is safe and it kind of helps you to make those small shifts and changes in a different direction  to steer away from those old patterns and old beliefs.

Yeah. Isn't there so much power in those little things. I mean, it sounds like a lot of times when you're having those negative or limiting beliefs, they're black and white all or nothing, and they're broad brush strokes,  I'm never going to do this, or it's always going to be this way or  whatever it is, it's very extreme black and white, and it's like you were saying.

Flipping the script, finding some evidence that's not true so that you're punching a hole into it. And then also just taking a tiny step meeting you where you are. So it's not like, like you were saying, I'm gonna lose a hundred pounds and it's going to happen in three weeks. Um, yeah.

That's I feel like it. And then you, you say, okay, one small thing, don't try and jump into the deep end of the pool and flip it altogether, chip away at it because sometimes that's where your body and your brain  can receive it. So yeah, that makes a lot of sense. 

Yeah.  Taking those baby steps  is better than doing things really quickly. We want this immediate satisfaction, but honestly, and people  hate hearing this. The small steps day by day, lead to big wins down the road.  And I always encourage people to do that. Give yourself grace, take things slowly.

You will get where you need to be. It's not a race. 

Yeah, that's really important because we're in this society or like right now it's all about instant gratification. I mean, there are so many things with the push of a button on the internet we get immediately, but with health and wellness and with mindset and happiness and all of these other things that are really worth it, it takes a bit of time.

So, so when a person is working with you, Brandy, what does it look like as you're helping them through the steps? And if they're trying to work on a health issue, is there a sequence to it or does it happen concurrently with working with limiting beliefs? 

That's a great question. So if somebody's coming to me and they're really wanting to work on their health, and we're doing some functional nutrition work, I always weave in some of the mindset.

And usually what I do is we kind of get started with the nutrition piece and we give them a protocol and they get going. And everybody's usually really excited and we'll follow through for the first couple of weeks, but I know by about week six, when the body is shifting and changing, or maybe not shifting as fast as they want, they're going to get the mindset.

And that little chatter in their head is going to start saying this isn't working. Why did you bother that you shouldn't be doing this? And so I always weave in some,  EFT work, or some mindset work at about week six so that we can really start to challenge those beliefs that are coming up because we know that healing is not linear.

It's it's up and down. And so if we're doing nutrition work or functional lab testing, I will weave it in to kind of support them through the process because I know the brain is going to come up sometimes and be negative because we're going to have days where we feel amazing. And then we're going to have days where we're healing and we don't feel so amazing.

And so I want to arm them with the tools to be able to go through those periods of time. And that could be EFT or emotional freedom technique. It could be journaling, it could be deep breathing. So, you know, you don't have to sit and meditate for half an hour. I tell my clients five minutes, everybody has five minutes.

Take five minutes to just sit and write. Do a couple of deep breaths. Sometimes that works for them. Other times, what I might do is give them a short tapping script for them to do in the morning. And when they go to bed just to kind of prime their body and get used to releasing the stress. Now I have other clients that come to me, that's not really nutrition and they just want to work on the emotional piece and they want to work on their limiting beliefs and trying to figure out like, why can't I achieve this goal?

And so for those people, we usually work together for three to five sessions because we're really starting to peel away those layers of the onion to get to the root, to find out, you know, what is the limiting belief or what is the thought or the trauma or the situation that happened. That's creating this perpetuating cycle of self-sabotage and not achieving goals.

And so in those sessions, they're usually about 45 minutes to an hour. We just tap and we tap on all the things that are coming up and I don't have an agenda. I don't have an agenda in those calls. The clients come to me and we kind of just let it go where it goes. Cause you never know what's going to come up in a session when you're working with somebody.

So we tap through them. And, so that's been really helpful for a lot of clients and I will be introducing hypnotherapy to that as well. And those are for some clients who, you know, the ones who come to you who say, well, I don't have anything that happened in my childhood and I don't know why this is happening.

And they just haven't been able to tap in and tune into their emotions or their thoughts. And so with hypnotherapy, what we're able to do is we're able to kind of go back and regress them and start to identify maybe some situations or time periods in their life where a limiting belief was ingrained.

And then  with the hypnotherapy, we can record, we call a transformation where the client listens to the transformation for a period of at least 21 days. And we're reprogramming the brain to help them to achieve the goals that they want. And it's very individualized. Every single person is different and I will make the recording specific to them and what they want.

It's not, it's not generalized.

 That's really amazing. So for hypnotherapy. What kinds of things  is it limiting beliefs or just all kinds of things and including health and wellness, is there certain things that you see that are really popular that people are coming to you for, for hypnotherapy? 

Yeah. I mean, there's the common ones.

Like I can't lose weight or, you know, I want to stop smoking or I have this fear of public speaking. Um, a common one, surprisingly that comes up is I don't believe in myself. I don't think I can be successful. And so you can really use it for anything and, and similar to, , EFT where we're tapping on different points on the body to  help, to release stuck energy.

What hypnotherapy  does. It helps us to actually find maybe the situation or the thing that caused the stuck energy, and then we can help the body release it. And so I love being able to use both modalities together because you can use it on everything. I mean, as anybody who does EFT will say, try it on everything.

And,  sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but that's okay. And that's where, , all of these different tools are really helpful. And I learned from my clients, they are my best teachers. They are the ones that are teaching me because every single client is different and I'm always looking for ways that I can help my clients and I will teach them, I'll teach them how to do tapping on themselves.

, and I encourage people to go and look  and research these things and find ways to,  have a little bit of stress relief in the day and five minutes a day. Really, that's all you need that is achievable for most people. When a practitioner starts to tell you, you need to do it for 30, 40 minutes a day, you're going to start to get that resistance of like, why can't do that.

And then you're going to procrastinate and not do it, but five minutes, anybody can do five minutes and just starting there, you'll start to kind of feel how amazing it feels for your body. And it's like a muscle it's like exercise. The more you do it, the more you crave it, the better you get at it. And the faster that your body starts to react to what you're doing.

Yeah, I can do start tapping. And within two minutes I'm already yawning because my body is so used to releasing all of that pent up energy. So I like to teach my clients. I don't want them to be reliant on me forever. I want to help them get to the root of the problem, teach them the tools so that they can go on their own and be their own best practitioner, their own best therapist.

There's so much great stuff that you said in there. , I liked that you explain what EFT is taking that energetic charge from the thought of it so that it releases,  the trauma trigger or the living belief, and then how it works alongside hypnotherapy and that you're, , you're giving them the tools and then ultimately they can take the tape that you give them and be able to help themselves.

So it's all about empowerment and helping them being more aware and ultimately for the long haul, because, , I'm assuming this is something that's an ongoing thing. It's not like you're ever like, okay, I've done it for three months and I'm done and I have no more limiting beliefs and it's all good.

Right? It's an ongoing life journey. 

Absolutely. Yeah. I mean, it's, it's interesting  when you're studying for these things as a practitioner, you're working on yourself and then you start to realize, wow, every time I think I deal with something, something else comes up. This is a journey. Like I said, it's a marathon.

It's not a race. There's never going to be a period of time. Maybe when we're in our nineties where we're just like, I don't care. I love life. I love myself. Everything is good, but we're always on this perpetual journey of, you know, healing ourselves and changing ourselves. And there's also, you know, we have our life phases,  you're going to start out, maybe you're single and then you get married and then you have kids and then your kids leave.

 And then it's almost like, okay, we're, we're kind of a single couple again. And so there's all these phases of life where different things are going to come up and you're going to. Have beliefs that come up that you want to work on and there's nothing wrong with that. You do not have to be perfect.

And there's no shame. My favorite saying to my clients is give yourself grace, you do not need to be perfect. We are always on this journey together. This is why I like to give people the tools because when something comes up, we don't, we can't expect it. You know, we don't know what's going to happen a year from now.

 We don't have a crystal ball. And so if you arm yourself with the tools and you practice a little bit every day, it starts to strengthen your body. You become more resilient when challenges come up and then you have tools that you can turn to to help you through those difficult times and difficult seasons of life.

Yeah. Beautiful. Yep. , it's dosing it in every day. Like you would maybe a supplement or something like that. Not waiting until, something happens and now you're tapping away and trying to damage control so that you've built that resistance up and you're able to be mindful, think about it and identify it and then, , disbelief and then reframing in the moment.

So it becomes a way of being so that you can navigate through all of the ups and downs in life. So Brandy, how do people find you and learn more about you and what you do 

for sure. So,  people can find me on my website. It's BB. So boy, boy, health coaching.com. So BB health, coaching.com.  There's not a ton of information on there, but there is a button on my website.

If you want to book a call with me, I do a free call with every single person. So we can talk about, you know, what are your goals? What are you looking to do? Are we a good fit together? Can I help you? So, if you're interested in that you can take advantage of it there.  I do post periodically on Instagram and again, that's at BB health coaching, on Instagram.

And I just want to help you. I want to educate you and help you. And,  if anybody is interested in learning more or wants to try any of these modalities, definitely feel free to reach out to me. 

Thank you so much. I love this topic and I love the background and the information that you shared and that people can actually get started immediately just five times a day, or journaling any of those things that you mentioned and just to reach out.

And I'll definitely include your information in the show notes. Thank you so much.

Thanks story. It was great to chat with you.